what do i say? please help!!?

Question

went on holiday with my ex for 2 weeks, i have been back a week. i was on the pill whilst away,but not now!! i am in 2nd year of uni and have a good life! i would never do something like this on perpose,but as it has happend now i am keeping it! what do i say to my ex boyfriend,(its definatly his,we were together 6yrs previous,never been with any1 else). will he hate me and will he think i did this on perpose!!!!

do i wait a bit longer,do i tell him now and what do i say?

i took a test yesterday as i have been throwing up and it said posative i am going to the dr's in a minute to check it out!!

i am going to be 20yrs old in november and he is 21 we have only been split up for bout 2 and half months and this has never happend to me before as i am very careful!!!

i have been on the pill for ages i stayed on it whilst on holiday and as we did not get bk together wen i got home i came off it!! we did have sex whilst away and we were sexually active before the holiday too!!

Answer 1

Time for a long discussion with the father to be

Answer 2

If you are pregnant then he has a right to know immediatley.
And then yall can sit down and discuss options.
If you have already made up your mind to keep the child then be honest and tell him this from the get go.
And then tell him that he has options on what he wants to do and that he needs to really sit back and think about it.

He has the option to stand beside you either as individuals that have a child in common.
He has the option of marrying you and having a family with you and the child.
He has the option of giving up all of his parental rights and never having to see the child or pay child support.
And Im sure there are other options.

Do not pressure him into anything, leave the ball in his court.

Answer 3

I take it from what you say you are pregnant.
You don't say if you are pleased to be pregnant?
Or waht age you are or how long a relationship and how involved you were with this person in the past.
It as always is a communication issue. There is no easy way to broach and it just has to be said for he has the right to know.
How he responds is something you will not know until you have told him. But at the end of the day honesty is the best policy.
I can't help but wonder if a little something in your subconcious willed this to happen. If so be honest with yourself also before speaking to him. I am so pleased you are keeping.

Answer 4

I had a child when I was 16. the father was 20. we were just basically having a fling nothing serious. My sons dad found out when I was 3 months pregnant by one of my exs who just happened to be his friend. You need to tell him or else someone you guys both know will tell him and he will feel hurt that you couldnt tell him urself and if you guys were together for so long then he should be understanding and loving of course after he goes through the shock that he sabout to be a father. So just tell him. He has a right to know.

Answer 5

Okay, now I'm really confused! If you went on a two week vacation with him, and obviously had sex, how broken up are you? Anyway, it really doesn't matter what he thinks. If you are pregnant, and he is the father, he has the RIGHT to know. He doesn't have to like it, he doesn't have to do anything. Tell him as soon as possible - the longer you wait, the worse it will be. Good Luck! (And congratulations!)

Answer 6

You obviously don't know much about the pill. I am a 62 year old grand father and don' t understand why you young women aren't better educated on birth control. You need to discuss this with the young man. He is the father and should be given the opportunity to be part of the decision making process. But please listen to me when I tell you that shotgun weddings have 0% chance of survival. You have options. Good luck.

Answer 7

Gee didn't you think to talk with your doctor or read the insert that comes with your birth control? It tells you right there that B/C is not 100% effective. So you made a choice, made a baby that's the breaks kiddo. I suggest you find out pronto whether or not you are pregnant and then tell the guy. Then find a lawyer to file for child support because you're going to need it.

Answer 8

Go and get a proper test done at a health clinic, WHEN you've had your pregnacy confirmed you should tell him straight away.

Bring up a child is NOT easy, especailly if you feel that you've had to put your life on hold ( i.e stopping Uni). If you've got a supportive family and friends that can make it easier, but it's you not them at 4am having to change nappies and feed your child!! It's also a lifetime contract, even if your boyfriend leaves he will always be in your life through your child.

Good luck!!

Answer 9

Tell him now. If you wait too long he will feel pressured and disrespected which could cause more problems. Telling him now will ease the pressure and he will feel that he has some time to think although he doesn't need to. After 6 years I don't think he will think you are doing anything bad or on purpose. He will more than likely appreciate the fact that it didn't happen a long time ago. If he doesn't you remind him of that fact.

Answer 10

Let him know now. Tell him that it was an accident and your keeping it whether he is involved in the childs life or not. Give him the opportunity to choose. Don't put pressure on him and don't say anything more: like I am sorry because your really not if your going to keep to child (in that way that you are pregnant).

Answer 11

so you were on the pill while you were on vacation, when you got back you stopped taking the pill, but you have only been back a week, which means you are only pregnant for 7 days? are you sure your pregnant? or are you trying to say something different, it doesnt quite add up, or are you hoping you are pregnant?
he will probably think it doesnt add up either.