I have doubts that he's cheating, because sometimes he has good excuses and proof. But since he has a son outside the marriage who is 5, I sometimes wonder. I know he is not seeing the mother anymore and he doesn't have much to offer a woman (he ran out of "gas" years ago), but we don't have a sex life anymore. He's been "disappearing" before our sex life died. any suggestions on how to handle this?
2006-08-07 03:03:35 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well if you haven't already, you need to sit him down and tell him that you want to know what he's been up to. Tell him it worries you, and no loving husband would just disappear without saying where he's been. He obviously has something he needs to tell you. If he refuses to say... I would seriously consider some counseling. And remember, you may find out something that's pretty aweful, so be prepared. But if you truly love him you must find out the truth for this marriage to move on. Good luck!!!
2006-08-07 03:12:52 · answer #1 · answered by Lindsay M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom has the same trouble and he is cheating. I don't wanna tell her because for one he's gonna find some way to make me look like the bad guy, and make it look like I am lying, so I give her hints or leave it alone. You can never trust a man who has kids outside of the marriage. And a sure fire way that he is cheating is no more sex. He's giving that gas to someone else. But sometimes he can be telling the truth and he may not be cheating on you but he may have a problem with his sex drive. Just keep your eyes ears and mouth wide open. Trust your intuition.
2006-08-07 03:09:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my dear I will say this if he isn't giving the goods to you then he maybe giving it to someone else or maybe he has a problems with getting his jimmy to work. Although if you're not feeling comfortable about the way things have been going then you should definitely sit down and tell him how you feel. But one thing for sure just for future reference never think a person isn't capable of leading a double life. As women we always want to believe that our men wouldn't never cheat on us when there is a possibility he could so you should always keep that in mind.....
2006-08-07 03:26:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just need to realize you are being played for a fool, can't you see that, don't you want more for yourself in a relationship. sweetie , you know that if there is nothing happening in the bedroom with you , well just where do you think he is going.
You or any other woman that's being treated like that should do something about it. I'm not a man hater. You are worthy to be loved in the highest manner by the man that is your husband. rethink about what's going on. OK
hope you can see you deserve so much better.
2006-08-07 04:26:02 · answer #4 · answered by RAINBOW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously?? Sounds like you need to be asking some questions. Unless you don't really care, as you say that he doesn't have much to offer a woman - it doesn't sound like you are too happy, anyway. But, you deserve some answers and respect. If he is playing house with somebody else - and it sounds like he is to me, you need to kick him to the curb. Good Luck!
2006-08-07 03:08:43 · answer #5 · answered by working mom of 3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just be frank with him and ask him about how he feels for you now. If it's so that he's cheating, then u should just leave him and move on. It's not worth wasting time on a man who cheats on you. You can definitely find better!
2006-08-07 03:08:21 · answer #6 · answered by Jessica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked to him? Tell him that you are worried about him. Maybe he is just going to a bar or something. Don't think he is cheating immediately...give him a chance...he might be something good and just doesn't want everyone knowing his private life.
2006-08-07 03:16:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know hes not seeing her any more but he leaves for hours and nobody knows where he is. Listen you just contradicted yourself. Im affraid that if hes not seeing her he is seeing someone and its time for you to go find another guy, dont set yourself uo for whats happening, dont sit around and wait for him, not knowing where he is or who hes with. Get up and move on honey, this guys a jerk.
2006-08-07 03:13:20 · answer #8 · answered by arreis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is not giving you answers then hire a private detective. You have every right to know where he is spending his time. If you have a small feeling that he is cheating though, then you are right. You need to follow your gut on this one.
2006-08-07 03:14:20 · answer #9 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you think he not cheating on you think about it real hard.He may not have a sex life at home it may be out side of the house.I know that you may not believe that but i know that it have happen.
2006-08-07 03:11:08 · answer #10 · answered by Happy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋