We have been married for 7 years and are madly in love with one another but experts say to keep the fire going and I would like to know some suggestions.
2006-08-07 02:35:09 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Continue to be beautiful to him. Take care of yourself and make yourself attractive. dress nicely around him. if he sees you get fixed up for work and to go out, he will appreciate it when you make yourself look good just for him. Be sexually impuslive. do a strip tease for him. (choose just the right music for him). go to the adult (toy store) together and choose some toys for you both to enjoy. Stay away from pornography and videos. keep this sensuality between just the two of you; no outside stimulation/porn. Sex board games/dice are ok if you both agree on them.
take a drive somewhere and make out in the car like when you were younger. Also, try going to one of those drive thru carwashes and (play) during the carwash.
Enjoy each other - Good luck
2006-08-07 02:49:21 · answer #1 · answered by Dr. Linder 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not a man but these are some things:
Blindfold, handcuffs, flavored body powder to lick off each other, Go to the adult toy store and pick some stuff out to play with together. Tie his hands together with a silky scarf and his eyes with one too. Wear a silky nightgown while you have sex- it feels good rubbing on your body. Talk REALLY dirty, wear naughty costumes! Play strip poker or you can make any game "strip" whatever by changing the rules. Watch Wheel of Fortune and whoever wins teh puzzle, makes the other take apeice of clothinng off! Take a bath together, Get a Cosmo-Kama Sutra book and try the positions, watch porn together and do what they do, Each write down 5 wishes for in the bedroom and put it in a little jar- Each night you wan tto spice it up, pull a wish from the jar! Whip cream. Do it in every room in your house. Do it in the car. Do it in the backyard in the middle of the night and it will feel all naughty knowing that the neighbors could be watching or catch you!!!! have fun!!!
2006-08-07 02:44:19 · answer #2 · answered by shellshell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you and your husband are truly in love with each other after seven years, let me first commend you both. That's a rarity nowadays.The old axiom says "If it ain't broke, don't fix it". The "experts" give their opinion from a third party perspective - outside looking in. Only you and your husband know where (or even if) there is something lacking in your marriage. "Experts" have a way of making mountains out of mole hills. Don't look for something wrong if there is nothing wrong. If it's spice you want, here are a few suggestions based on my experience.
1. Consider purchasing some adult toys for BOTH of you to enjoy. Some men enjoy taking "extra tools to work with". Be sure they are not too risque by both of you going to a novelty shop together. The both of you need to feel comfortable with toys.
2. Consider making love in places where you normally wouldn't. Be crazy. Try this: She goes into a dressing room with a brown paper bag folded under her jacket/shirt. When she gets in the room, unfold the paper bag and place it in a strategic spot. Sneak in your man, He stands in the bag. Both of you can now take off your clothes and make vertical love without anyone knowing it, pending you can both be quiet!
3. Integrate foods into your lovemaking. Fresh strawberries, whip cream, honey, syrup, your imagination is your limit.
I hope these little suggestions help you both achieve a new level of spice. One thing though. Don't plan on trying these everytime to make love. Sometimes old fashioned romance is the hottest spice of all. Godspeed, DF
2006-08-07 02:58:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what... The easiest way to keep a mariage and long term relatioship "spicy" is for the woman to wear something she knows the guy likes him in, and tease the hell out of him all durring the night. I do mean, if he likes you in a skirt, or a low top shirt... Wear it and hang out together for the night, like out to dinner... And purpousfully make excuses to bend over in front of him (both dirrections). And rub against him a little to close... Let's see how he can resist you if you are doing this to him...
Just make sure that you have a good night of this happening, and don't plan to do anything untill maybe when you get home...and then make him "beg" for it.. in ways... You'll be happy that you did!
Note: I've found that for me the positions and "kinkyness" dosent' make things keep the fire going... It's the passionate love making... and when it's caused by a really good tease beforhand... It makes for one GREAT NIGHT!!!
2006-08-07 02:43:02 · answer #4 · answered by Rob D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let you and your hubbies imagination take over. There are no limits. Just make time for you both to enjoy each other. Intercourse is not the only thing you can do. Explore your inner feelings and talk about what you want to do together. Playing touching kissing or what ever.
Adult board games
Massages
Taking turn undressing each other
Write down several things you want your hubby to do for you in bed. Have him do the same. Tell him to pick three and go from there.
Toys if you both are interested.
Anything that turns you both on.
2006-08-07 02:42:08 · answer #5 · answered by Mit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this is when you go to Barnes & Noble and pick up that Penthouse Letters book in the relationship section and read some of those stories. That is a great start right there. The other thing is that you can discuss fantasies etc. assuming that you are prepared to hear them AND VICE VERSA.
2006-08-07 02:39:50 · answer #6 · answered by boomerang3que 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was all about quantity...it wasn't until after ten years of marriage that I came to appreciate quality of sex....bathe in our double wide jacuzzi tub by candle light...alittle message....a sprint to the bed...and some passionate love making...and the best sleep you can imagine...instead of once or twice a day...to a couple of quality times a week...It took our relationship to a higher level.
2006-08-07 02:47:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The key words there are "madly in love." So you are in the right track. You will have to be smart and try to balance what he likes and what you like. There are things that you like he might feel uncomfortable with... try to adapt him to it slowly without him noticing it. There are things he likes that makes you uncomfortable, try to adapt to it slowly.
Find out what kind of woman he would like you to be.
If he wants you to be a whore (pardon my french) in bed then be one. Find out all those things and work on it. It is not about just what you like/want, but also what he likes/wants and finding a balance doing those things, that is called "compromising."
Good luck!!!
2006-08-07 03:04:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how to keep it spice , never give your girl friends more time than you give him , it maybe days when he is tried and not in the move for sex don't force yourself on him it leads to bad sex. But be open to his feeling and he should be open to your . i like to blow up balloons and have them everywhere, i love to have rose plebes all over the house even in the bed while we are having sex. have phone with him while he is at work ,send naked pics by cell phone to each other , this one is my favorite when you take a ride together talk dirty and if it get to hot pull over somewhere and go at it.
2006-08-07 02:50:26 · answer #9 · answered by maury h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Score a copy of the Kama Sutra
2006-08-07 02:38:54 · answer #10 · answered by Dutch58 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋