are people truly faithful their entire marriage or is this wishful thinking?

Question

Let's say someone has been married 25 years...do people really stay faithful that long, or is an indiscretion along the way more probable?

Answer 1

That depends on the couple and how well they keep their marriage and relationship alive during the years. Also values play an important role in remaining faithful or not.

Answer 2

This of course depends upon the individuals participating in the marriage. Like anythiing else the personalities are the determining factor. It used to be a "no big deal" to expect a marriage to have complete fidelity. Not so are things today. Sex is "in your face" almost constantly, the American society has transformed to an "immediate graitification mindset" and the divorce courts has made the "no fault divorce" the beacon for fun. One other important factor...men and women in the work place. We like to think that our society and our culture facilitate the co-working of females-males within the workplace. But there was a cost to this. The Wall Street Journal (WSJ) detailed this in an article on how to cope with developing romances within the workplace. The WSJ pointed out that when women and men work together relationships do start. They called it the "Human element" in action. In other words don't complain when you put a boy rat and a girl rat in a cage and eventually see a whole bunch of little rats running around. It's nature in action. This is amplified if the two rats are very unhappy at home. And it's easy to get unhappy at home. We have been brought up in the media to identify adversity, overcome it and live happily everafter in 30-90 minutes (minus the time for commercials). When we enter life we try and do the same thing. Then we become disillusioned when we are faced with actual life (and the fact that we haven't overcame adversity and am definately not "living happily everafter"). We blame it on the other person..."I'm not in love with him/her anymore and I need to find another etc etc....." We try and pimp the belief that we are better than the boy rat and the girls rat...but typically we fall short of the mark. Why?...... Many factor as I have llisted above. The greatest factor is the distruction of the family unit and the departure from the church. Not that I"m bible beating....but living a life centered around the church tends to keep your feet on the ground when it comes to ever compromising morals. It's a good "sanity check" for our "wandering society"

With all of these things playing against the American couple it would seem almost impossible to expect fidelity. But it can happen. This starts with development of a "life plan and when that's complete the choosing of a mate. If you have those things then you have flatened your "learning curve" of life considerably.

Check out the following website. It's a good website to look at for a "life plan" and a choosing mechanism for everybody. It's aimed at young men but women can extrapolate it's principles for their use as well. It also can give you a "bird's eye" view of a guy's psyche.

http://www.condomsbrasandstraightjackets.com/

Good luck

Answer 3

mostly wishful thinking. Unfortunately, I grew up thinking no one was faithful to eachother, and that it was just a matter of not publicly embarrassing eachother with the knowledge of it. Even though this may be true for most people, I was wrong to assume that all men are this way and that if I didn't want to go around angry all the time I would have to join in the dirty game. Word to the wise, men, if you don't want to get cheated on, don't make your woman feel like she's not good enough for you, or constantly stare at pretty young girls while out with your signifigant other. It sends us the wrong message, if you're not out there sexually sampleing them, it sure makes us think you are. If you can't help yourself, do everyone a favor and stay single, you'll be glad you did.

Answer 4

First of all, man is my nature flawed. No one is entirely perfect. Men and Women all have their moments of insecurity, selfishness and want. Whether or not they have acted on such are entirely dependent on the indiviudal.

Does that mean no true marriage has been faithful?

Depends on how you define it.

If faithfulness is the utter lack of interest in anyone else, I say the chances of this happening is only high if you and your wife are stranded in an uninhabited island. It is human nature to appreciate beauty. So the chances of seeing someone else interesting are always there. But acting on such desires, in my opinion, is what determines faithfulness.

For example, I may be married and find myself sexually stimulated and attracted to Mila Jovovich while watching her in a movie... but that doesn't mean I am unfaithful.

It simply means I am human.

Likewise, when my wife swoons over Johnny Depp as he prances and seduces in Pirates of the Carribean, she is not being unfaithful to me. She is merely admiring him and admiting she finds him attractive.

Answer 5

in this time and era it is hard to find true faithfulness. BUT they ARE out there. it depends on what kind of relationship you are in and for how long.my mom and dad were married 52 years before he passed and never was unfaithful and me and my guy have been together for 12 yrs, the same thing .but he have a very good communication,and has talked about it. hes gone through the week and home on weekends. and yes hes had opp. but as i said we communicate well. you have to stay focused on your relationship and understand what the downfalls would be. and what you have to lose if you or him ever did. one piece isnt worth losing your life relationship over

Answer 6

Indescretion is more probably especially if men don't think they will get caught. Most of the time they don't get caught unless they get involved with a single woman who wants more and will try to come between the man and his wife. Men are opportunists and if something comes up, they will do it and not think about the consequences. Women are more cautious but have been wanting the equality that men have been getting by with for years.

Answer 7

There's a 50 percent divorce rate these days..so the answer to your question is MAYBE...who will it be you or your partner..not every divorce is because of cheating, but many people do cheat which is totally messed up..they take all their vows and say i promise to be faithful and be with you til death do us part...that needs to be changed to (till divorce do us part)..So some people are faithful but most people ARENT

Answer 8

it is accessible-many human beings do it. i think of extra human beings get divorced from leaping right into a marriage too speedy then promptly get divorced in view that as a speedy restoration. are not getting me incorrect-loads of marriages bypass so undesirable that in basic terms for secure practices the two want the divorce. My 1st marriage wasn't the neatest-we theory we've been suitable jointly because of fact each and everything grew to become into "relaxing." as quickly as the seriousness of being adults, artwork, marriage, etc. set in-it grew to become into too plenty for my spouse and she or he particularly freaked out (long tale). After years of engaged on what I did incorrect I found out a powerful marriage desires a powerful base of honesty, comparable consumer-friendly ideals, adulthood, verbal substitute and a desire to artwork by way of issues as a team. eliminate the gentle stuff...think of roughly how a powerful corporation runs-continually striving to be it is terrific on the same time as retaining a watch on the destiny. each and every homestead must be geared up on a powerful beginning-otherwise something of it is going to at last disintegrate down no remember how nicely it is built. i understand those are not the main attractive analogies yet they provide examples of what i've got self assurance to be mandatory minimums for a powerful dating. at last you will need those issues to get the the two certainly one of you in the process the stressful circumstances existence throws at you.

Answer 9

most probable ... some indiscretion along the way

Answer 10

My Grandparents were!!! Even after 52 years you could feel the love. Theirs was the only real love I have ever seen. They died within a year of each other.
It's rare but it happens.