what should I tell him?

Question

my friend of like 12 years is over seas and we just started talking recently. He used to be an old boyfriend. He is married to his highschool sweetheart and they share one child together. She is now pregnant again, but with another mans child. He is going to raise this child as his own and forgive his wife for her stupidity. What should I tell him? He wants to know if this is ok, and I really don't think it is. I don't want to make him mad.

Answer 1

I'm glad you still with contact with your ex. Not all couples who broke up would end up as friends and a best friend so for that, congratulations to both of you. Anyway, I guess your friend is already sold to the idea of taking care and raising a child who is not his own but will consider his. He just want to sort of make sure and hear from someone dear (you) that he did made a good decision. So for you, please make him feel that he really made a good decision. It would be nice because 1st, you will save a marriage and 2nd, you will save someones future (the child). Lets just pray that his wife won't do it again. Good luck and again congratulations.

Answer 2

Personally, it doesn't matter what you think -- this is what he wants to do. If he chooses to forgive her and take care of this child -- seems to me like he's being a "real man" -- regardless of what she did. He sounds like a forgiving person. You or someone else might not be that way but he is and you can't change that.

Answer 3

I think if he is truly your friend you should be able to share your honest opinion with him and him not get mad. But you do also need to remember, this is his wife and you don't want to ruin your friendship making him think that you think his wife is a bad person. It is already a bad situation for him, so you should still be there for him whether or not you agree with his choice.

Answer 4

ur a frend rite,so i tink being a gud frend is dat just ur going to just tell him its ok while its not...if he wants ur opinion or side u better tell him wat is ur real opinion..im also working overseas now my i hve a son n husband which i left in my home country...and i tink being far from each other is not an excuse to be pregnant,his wife must hv tink dat he's husband take the chance to be away from his family for their future not for himself,and how can he be so sure dat der will be no next on dat....his wife done dat once n once she know dat her husband will just accept n forget there's a possibility dat she will do it again,being away from ur husband or wife is not an excuse on having sex with other man or woman to just satisfy urself.be honest on him its up to him how he will take it for as long as u make ur part....as a frend d only ting dat we can do for a friend hu has family life is to just listen n give some true advice if they ask to.I tink he ask u because he's not also quite sure of his decison if its rite or rong...Be true to him...he trust u dats why he was able to confessed to u his prob.n ask for ur opinion.

Answer 5

course it's OK he is married to the woman they have a child together he obviously wouldn't have considered bringing the child up as his own if he didn't think it would work out, just be there for him.

Answer 6

regularly YES regularly NO. Pregnancy indicators are the identical as indicators of a interval coming so regularly it is very difficult to inform. tHE VERY BEST method to understand is to attend until a interval is past due and do a hometest. I used to be 7 weeks earlier than i learned with my daughter I NEVER felt unwell pregnant sore boobs ANY SIGNS of being pregnant however, a + scan. With this being pregnant earlier than my interval used to be due i felt sizzling, irriated, crampy, sore boobs, the whole lot smelled horrible. All being pregnant are differnt even though a females is having no indicators and a interval is past due it is fine to scan.

Answer 7

It's his life he needs to answer that himself

Answer 8

JERRY! JERRY! JERRY!