2006-08-07 02:13:06 · 21 answers · asked by nat c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I have been through this, it was 4 years of marital hell. He won't let you work. Every time I got a job, my ex would come around and find ways to make things difficult. If her wasn't making it hard for me on the job, he would constantly harrass me at home, deteriorating my mental state so bad I couldn't work. He would send me to do the grocery shopping with the kids in tow or he would go with me. We did not have a home phone and I never had a car at home. Anytime I did manage to get out of the house without him, say to have lunch with a friend, he would hit me with a barrage of questions and accuse me of cheating on him. The longer we stayed together, the worse it got. He eventually became abusive. He was sooooo controlling. I finally left and got an apartment in the same town, and since he was in military, I got his First Officer to order him to stay away from me. The courts wouldn't give me a restraining order. He still didn't stay away, and when I finally took my kids and left town, I had to be escorted by the police because he was right there watching me pack up and ready to follow me.
If someone is trying to isolate you, get out while it is early. Believe me, I was in a living hell and so were the kids. If I had known then what I know now, the man would have been kicked out of the military and serving time in jail. He would have had a permanent record and I wouldn't be living with the emotional scars he gave me.
2006-08-07 02:22:57 · answer #1 · answered by shirley_corsini 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think some of the more obvious signs would be him saying or doing anything to CONTROL you... For instance telling you who you can and cant hang out with or where you can and cant go or even being extreme and giving you curfew or always wanting you to call to check in... Sometimes these things can be just because he loves you but if your asking this question he is probably overwhelming u, which means it has gotten out of control... Be Aware!
2006-08-07 09:20:37 · answer #2 · answered by dshivonne 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He starts getting possessive with you, wants to watch your every move. He will act jealous of your family/friends.
He'll start telling you what time to be home and questioning you on where you've been, who were you with, etc. He will check up on you.
He will start limiting the time you're "allowed" to go out. He will also start liminting what you can do while you're out.
He will start listening to your phone conversations. He will check up on your chat lists/e-mails.
He will start to degrade you, make you feel like crap, say negative things to you all the time, make you feel like a nobody.
Been there, done that. I was married to an abusive husband for just short of four years. I was a lucky one b/c I got out before he started beating on me. If this is happening to you, I URGE you to get help immediately. It will only get worse, I can promise you that.
I care - Please don't fall into the trap. It is very difficult to get out of! Keep in touch with me if you need to - I'm here for you! Good luck!!!!!
2006-08-07 09:22:19 · answer #3 · answered by penwrite5 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he wants to know where you are all the time, any time you want to do something on your own or without him he makes you feel guilty, you are afraid to disagree with him, your friends say they never see you anymore, he is the only person you spend time with and when you aren't with him you are worried he will be angry once you get together, he is only happy when it is just you and him and he dislikes all your friends. Just a few signs.
2006-08-07 09:18:51 · answer #4 · answered by tjslove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Making you qiut your job.Keepin you from friends or family.You should know if your being isolated,if so and you wish to get out then do so,before things get to bad.Good luck God bless;O)
2006-08-07 09:22:43 · answer #5 · answered by melissa_froggies 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He gets jealous when you hang out with your friends.He gets jealous when you hang out with your family. He doesn't believe you when you tell him where you have been (mom's house, grocery store, wal-mart, christmas shopping, movies w/ sister, etc.) He says, "It doesn't take that long to ___________" and is constantly want ing to know your every move. He constantly accuses you of cheating on him. HE is illogical and closed-minded. He tries to control every aspet of your life. Checking your phone to see who you have talked to. Asks you all kinds of questions all the time to try to catch you in lies.
My good friend is dating a guiy liek this and trust me- RUN THE OTHER DIRECTION!!!!!!! He needs help big-time and she is too weak (b/c of him) to get out. It is really sad because sh eused to be a strong person but he has broken her down.
2006-08-07 09:20:30 · answer #6 · answered by shellshell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
possibly if you werent out whoring around with your girlfriends like some s l u t, and had decent people as friends, he wouldnt need to isolate you
2006-08-07 09:17:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm...I guess making a big fuss when you try to go out with friends..makes you feel guilty..starts arguments so you'll be less apt to go..things like that...but it's in your gut, you know when someone's doing this..now the question is, what are you going to do about it.
2006-08-07 09:16:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wanting to be with you all of the time
Moving you away with him
Taking your means of communication (phone)
Going with you where ever you go, including short trips to the store.
Making you feel guilty about doing things with out him
2006-08-07 09:18:02 · answer #9 · answered by Veronica B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he goes to work in the morning and locks the doors from the outside.....
2006-08-07 09:16:57 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋