I met this guy 3 weeks ago, I took him home last week and he was really rough with me and scared me, before that he was saying I was the love of his life, (yes I know weird after 3 weeks). I backed off and said leave me alone and he wont. He was blind drunk,which is why I drove him home, and he cant remember what he did to me. I have to travel in the same circles as him and I cant even look at him, yet he still thinks I am his. What do I do or say to get him to leave me alone? I am quite scared, everytime I hear a noise outside I think its him pulling up, and yes he will drive here when he is drunk.
2006-08-07 02:00:54 · 24 answers · asked by Squishygirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My daughter was having this problem with a guy, I got his number rang and spoke to him warning him that if he ever touched her again I would have his testicles ripped off and hang them from his rearview mirror to remind him of what a dick he is. He backed off pretty quick mainly because he realised my daughter had a network around her that was going to kick his butt if he didnt. You dont F@#$#@ around with agro mums.
2006-08-07 13:04:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Stay as far away from him as you can. If he ever tries to mess with you, call the police. Get a restraining order if he ever threatens you or starts to follow you around, harrass you on the phone, etc. This guy is bad news. He has the makings of a stalker. And if he got rough with you after knowing you for 3 weeks, that is his normal behavior. Don't mess around at all where he is concerned, it could cost you dearly. And don't hide what he did from your friends just because he has the same ones. They may not be his friend if they know what he is really like. Tell people. People like him count on people like you being to scared to talk about it. That's how they can keep on acting the same way.
2006-08-07 02:08:51 · answer #2 · answered by shirley_corsini 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound scared and that is no way to live! Get the authorities involved if he is still coming around and you may have to be very careful regarding the circle of friends you run with...I mean, try and find out if he will be there and then choose to NOT go! Stand up for yourself! And if your friends in this circle do not understand what you are going through, well my friend I would have to say they aren't worth having around! Good luck....but most importantly BE CAREFUL!
2006-08-07 02:10:26 · answer #3 · answered by MaHaa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a touchy one, and I'm sorry that's happening to you.
The girl way? (courtesy of my g/f) - start dating a buff guy and have him spend the night a lot. Have him deal with the guy.
The boy way? I hope you have a guy friend or two, or an older brother. Ask them to come over and hang out at your house, cook him dinner or whatever you need to convince him to stay for a bit. A good friend of mine had an issue like this once, this guy kept coming over and beating on her door.
I spent quiet a few good nights watching movies and eating pizza at her house. That's when we became great friends. She asked me once out of the blue, and explained the situation, and I went a long and said sure. I didn't ask for anything, I think I went with hopes of getting somethign, but I didn't ask for it.
When she offered pizza, movies, and we had fantastic conversations about everything she became a good friend.
The guy did show up one time, I answered the door and asked how I could help him, he just kind of deflated and left, and never really bothered her again. Then again, I was quiet a bit bigger than him too, so that what that.
If you know him from business, it would be a good time to bring it up to your boss - just an "FYI" but don't ask them to do anything about it.
2006-08-07 02:10:16 · answer #4 · answered by Solrium 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call him and say you want nothing do with him because you're simply not interested and try your best to avoid him. If anything get worse (like he won’t leave you alone) Immediately go and get a restraining order. If he shows up at all call the police. It sounds like this guy could physically harm you and that’s very serious.
2006-08-07 02:13:53 · answer #5 · answered by zerospacegurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell, tell him nicely to leave you alone and if he doesn't respect that tell him you will have to contact law enforcement. Listen, alwasy lock doors, don't go out alone at night to anywhere where you think he may be, if you can carry mace. But these are just precautions...this does not mean you have to be scared to death or always worried and on the run they are simply safety measures so that nothing serious happens, I do want to you to run a normal life of course!!!!
2006-08-07 02:12:57 · answer #6 · answered by lasugarfree 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, inform your local police, second, get a dog, third, always carry some kind of defense item like mase or carry your keys in a way you can poke his eyes out if he gets near you, fourth, have someone escort you for awhile, perferablly a male. Whatever you do, lose all contact verbally with this guy! Good luck!
2006-08-07 02:08:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If after 3 weeks you see this, it will only get much worse. Tell people in the circle you travel whats going on. Get their support. Have them tell him to lay off. If no improvement....get a restraining order. You future will be violence/abuse if you don't nip it in the bud NOW!!!! Take care of yourself sweet girl. You don't deserve abuse.
2006-08-07 02:08:17 · answer #8 · answered by Bolder 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a ppo against him a personal protect Order from the police he can be arrested if he comes to your house with out your permission and if he shows up on your door step drunk have the cops called so they will pick him up and put him in jail then he will get the message!
Good luck!!!!
2006-08-07 02:09:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you have herpes or aids or something to that nature, and definitely get a restraining order or at least notify the authorities so if something should happen (God forbid) the police will have a record of you feeling threatened.
2006-08-07 02:08:26 · answer #10 · answered by railcar_exp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off; you do not HAVE to travel in the same social circles he's in.
2ndly: tell your girlfriends about what he did. Gain their support.
3rdly: tell this guy if he comes around you, you'll call the police.
4thly: stop bringing drunk guys home with you.
2006-08-07 02:09:15 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋