i am coaching girls football im male 25 is it wrong to bond a friendship with them or keep it adult child?

Answer 1

If it becomes more friendly, make sure it is mentor friendly. You need to be sure you're always setting a good example so that parents won't worry. It is fine to be friendly with children you are working with. That's a great way to make a positive influence in their lives. Just be sure it's always professional and public.

Answer 2

You can become their friend, but you must be careful to keep things professional. For some of them you might be the best contact to go to for problems that they cannot discuss with their parents (including possible problems at home).

In today's world there are reports almost every day of inappropriate conduct of youth leaders. I believe that, while many are true, there are many that are just allegations. Even if the accusation if proved to be false, these leaders have careers that are ruined because of what one person might have said.

I have been a leader for Cub Scouts, and I became aware that, while I tried to be a friend to all the boys in our Pack, I had to be extremely careful to protect myself from the possibility of false accusations, and to protect these kids.

You might go to the Boy Scout training link, , and click on their youth protection training link. You have to register, but the training is free. This will give you information about always being within view of someone else (another leader or even a kid). This information can protect you.

I know it is easy to get attached to these kids. Just be careful that you keep a good balance between the friendship and the adult / child relationship. I hate hearing about another young adult whose life is ruined because of a false accusation.

PS
To everyone else, before I am beaten for the tone of false accusations:

I believe that many of the reports are true when adults have abused their positions and taken advantage of our youth that we as parents have entrusted to their care. This is just as tragic and damaging to the lives that are affected.

Answer 3

It's important that you form the right kind of relationship with the team. Too distant and they won't play well. Too close and you'll be sacked (or gaoled).
Get some training on the subject. If you're in the UK, the NSPCC run suitable courses.

Answer 4

I believe just as a parent if you are an adult you don't want to be their friend. You want them to respect you and you respect them. Never get into personal stuff with them. If you feel they have a personal problem try to inform their parents.

Answer 5

Read your coaching manuals carefully. I think yout should be friendly and very business like. Let the girls bond with each other and you stay out of it.

Answer 6

Br friendly but professional. They won't want to learn from you if they don't look up to you and they won't look up to you if they can't relate to you in some way. Learn about them and make them feel valued on the team but don't be too friendly.

Answer 7

Be an Army Officer and force your ideas with command

Answer 8

actually you can become friends wit the girls but you have to know your limits. so if you do become friends with the girls, you have to remember to stay an adult and be firm with them.

Answer 9

i would think its ok to befrend your team but be carefull as girls can become obsesed with an older man and can also make up stories which may get you into trouble please be carefull try and keep an amount of distance

Answer 10

What a stupid Question...... of course not...... but if ur starting to think bad bout them.... man! it's time to be strict!