Hey I have been in a relationship for a little over a year now and for the past couple of months my partner won't have any sexual contact with me. When I ask her for anything... she says "I am just not feeling it" ... And when I ask her if she is happy or if she wants to be with someone else she says that she is happy and no she doesn't want to be with someone else. Now I understand that people have different sexual needs but it wasn't like this. You don't go from being a sexual being into not desiring anything. She holds me every night when we sleep and will hold my hand or give me a peck every once in a while but where did she go? Should I just give up and move on? HELP
2006-08-07 01:08:48 · 18 answers · asked by Just Wondering 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
In all relationships there are times when the quality of the relationship is tested. This is one of those times for you. Life is about quality not quantity. If she loves you and you love her enjoy that quality. There are so many ways that people demonstrate love for one another sex is a small part. If you think about it in relation to the hours in a day, which part of that 24 hours carries the most weight? Meaning that based on how long and often a person has sex in a 24 hour period, are you focusing on the bigger picture? The bigger picture is your relationship. Focus your love on the bigger picture. This is true of ALL relationships. I have been in both and had the same thing happen in both.
2006-08-07 02:14:42 · answer #1 · answered by onlyonemeg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"You don't go from being a sexual being into not desiring anything." I disagree. When the subject is human sexuality, anything is possible.
You love her. That's your starting point. Instead of asking whether she's happy, do little things to make her happy. It'll make both of you feel better.
And hang in there. Every relationship goes through a bad patch now and then.
2006-08-07 08:18:09 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are there other things going on? Money problems, work problems, family, etc? Someone else mentioned depression. That could be a big factor. Sit down and talk with her. Tell her you love and want to see her happy, but you can't do that unless you know what's really going on. Let her know you're there for her.
2006-08-07 11:34:53 · answer #3 · answered by Eat At The Y 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont give ages or any circumstances so its hard to fathom a guess as to why this is happening......could be physical, emotional........you're going to need to look at all these things with her input.........we have & are going through something like this and its been an ongoing issue but we work through it.........one of the problems is that my other half is in perimenopause. I know how hard it is to be the one who is essentially 'cut off'.....you're going to have to decide how much work you want to put into the relationship if any..........tough choice I know.......being in a relatively short term relationship you could choose to walk away if she's not willing to find a reason or compromise to the problem, if you stay, this could be the way the rest of the relationship continues............
good luck~
D~~
2006-08-07 08:22:49 · answer #4 · answered by D~~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In the first place find the Lord He will help you answer all your questions. The first one will be that you should not be with another woman the second is that sex is not all their is to a relationship. The end times are coming and no one of sexual immorality will make into the knigdom of heaven. I am not trying to be mean or judgemental that is for God to do , the judging, I am telling it to you the way it is. I hate to see anyone not be able to enjoy a close relationship with the Lord.
2006-08-07 08:16:36 · answer #5 · answered by wolfy1 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
A relationship needs to be a give and take. Her needs seem to be being met by simple holding and emotional contact. You have needs that are not being met. Verbalize these needs tell her you need more than just holding. If your needs are not met after this discussion you need to start looking elsewhere.
2006-08-07 09:48:49 · answer #6 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
gotta love the answers where u need a man..lmao...ummm, yeah like that solves all problems...i had this once with a gf, later to find out she fell outta love with me, but didnt have the heart to tell me, that she was seeing someone else, and they were fullfilling her sexual needs..u dont just stop having sex for months and continue a healthy relationship...it just wont work out, you're sad, and i am sure she probably is sad too.
2006-08-07 09:23:02 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should talk it out with her and tell her what you feel. make her understand that you're unhappy with the way things are going between you two. but put a time table on it, like how long should you wait until she comes out of her slump, if you say you'll wait for a month or two, then do so. then after a couple of months talk again, if nothing happens, maybe you should pack up and leave.
2006-08-07 12:42:30 · answer #8 · answered by toohevi 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
YES!! U should give up and move on with ur lives. There is so many things in this world. Find some1 that you love in ur heart. Make new discoveries that seround u. Make new friends, don't think nagetive or ur live will sink 2 the end. If i were u, i will go out there and make myself a better person and go find a real man like me. :)
2006-08-07 08:20:53 · answer #9 · answered by abdulqaiyumbin_mdsalleh 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Honey, I am sorry to say this to you, but it's a clear sign to me that she's moved on OR she has found someone else. When you don't crave sex with someone it's because someone else is fullfilling that part of her life... and maybe her heart. Be careful and try to figure out why. I would bet my my left nut and say she fell for someone else... Good luck, doll.
2006-08-07 10:05:11 · answer #10 · answered by Kookoo Bananas 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋