My boyfriend asked me what I thought about getting married. I didn't say no, I said HELL NO. Why on earth would I want to get married? What's the point of it? Thoughts? Ijust don't believe in it. I think it's a waste of time; besides, chances are it WILL NOT last for the rest of our lives; it rarely does. Right? Anyway, ten years afterwards, he'll be screwing some 19 yr old blonde chick, and I'll be a bitter old woman sitting on my front porch in a rocking chair with a shotgun. Why do men even bring it up? They know they can't stick witth it.
2006-08-07 01:08:13 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
LAWKEEPER99: I don't care if he's cheating. I'm happier with a bottle of good whiskey than I am with ANY man.
2006-08-07 01:38:03 · update #1
SCOTTY: You are absolutely right! And know what? I don't mind. It's better than some worthless man pretending he loves me for the rest of my life. I'd rather die miserable than deceived.
2006-08-07 01:40:46 · update #2
I agree with you, and ill give you some advice, stay single as long as you possibly can, take a look at all the socall happily married people out here, in the yahoo universe, look at there stories, of pain, deception, devorce, bordom, they claim to be happy, take it from me, the happiest time of your entire existance are your teenage and single years, so live it up and be happy.
2006-08-07 01:40:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
It is a very interesting question. After being married and divorced and a few failed long term relationships I tend to agree with you. Although I do have many friends who are happily married or in long term serious relationships. Some people have been raised in a more traditional or religious background where marriage is an essential step in their life. I also have friends who are happily single. It is all about each partners state of mind and their willingness to want to grow together and make the partnership work. Men often test the water by asking your views on subjects to test what you are wanting from them. There does seem to be a large amount of men and women who are not looking for monogamous
2006-08-07 08:25:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage DOES require a little more emotional commitment than just living together. It is a lot easier to just pack up and leave when the going gets tough than to file for divorce and go through the legalities. It also provides you ( and your children if you have any) with financial protections that living together doesn't. It sounds to me like you are not mature enough yet to take on this commitment. No - there are no guarantees that a marriage will last - but when the right person comes along you will be willing to take the gamble.
2006-08-07 08:15:53 · answer #3 · answered by arkiemom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not to get down on you, so to speak, but with that attitude, nobody worth marrying will have you....so, yes, you will end up a bitter old lonely woman.
it takes 2 to make a marriage work...it will last as long as you both want it to.....it's not just the guys that can't stick with it....again, from your attitude....sounds like you would be the first to run....
as far as what it is, why to do it, etc....the point is more or less security (financial, emotional, all of it), a huge showing of commitment...it really doesn't change anything other than a few legalities, but it should never change your relationship with that person....
2006-08-07 08:18:59 · answer #4 · answered by mjboog2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your suppose to get married when you find that one person who brings out the best in you.. U fix areas u never knew were wrong until they awakened that part that says hey there's a fault.. got to fix it.. their everything your not but want to be and your everything their not but want to be.. .you love them more then anything or anyone else and would do anything to make that them happy and u vow before God and everyone else this is the person u want to spend the rest of your life with.. for better or worse... through it all.. this is the ONE... you'll forsake all others..
2006-08-07 08:36:45 · answer #5 · answered by c_sev 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I thought the same way that you did, until I met the right man. Then all I wanted to do was get married. Hang in there - when the right one comes along, everything changes and it's beautiful.
2006-08-07 09:07:25 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell that LOSER to get a life with out you and let you have time to grow up and live a little more before you blow up and die.
tell him to find someone eals that wants the same thing as he does,YOUR NOT READY,
and i agree with the person that said all the things about marrage and the give a take things to make the marrage to work,rember that if you haft to work so hard to make just a marrage work it's not love
but in time you will see things differantly and maybe then you will be ready.
keep it cool
2006-08-07 09:15:50 · answer #7 · answered by DENISE 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u seem to have a very wrong idea about marriage.its nt necesary tat 10 yrs down the line he wl be doing wat u mentioned bt maybe 20 yrs aftr also he wl love u with the same vitality with which he started.mariage is abt committment & giving ur man so much love tat he won't think of cheating u.marriage is a bliss bt u hav gt to put in efforts to build tis relationship.
2006-08-07 08:16:50 · answer #8 · answered by shalini 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if you were a guy i'd say don't get married for the sex. That's like buying a commercial airplane for the free peanuts. If you don't want to marry him, let him go so he can find a woman who will love and marry him.
2006-08-07 08:12:31 · answer #9 · answered by wudbiser 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
People get married becuase they love each other, they respect and trust one another. You are not in that position, if I were you I'd end the relationship.
2006-08-07 08:16:48 · answer #10 · answered by calamity 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋