1st stages of pregnancy, and so nervous about the birth?

Question

I am a 18yr old female, & in the 1st stages of pregnancy. I have always wanted to be a mam, but have always been shook up about the labour & giving birth. Now im pregnant, the nerves are really kicking in....even tho i cant wait to be holding my baby in my arms. I must think negative all the time about what if i loose the baby during pregnancy or have a still birht or something. I am excited but so nervous. I think its more of the labour i am worried about, but would also be worried about having a ceserian>

Any body else been or is in the same boat?

Answer 1

Yes, yes, yes!!!

Congratulations on your pregnancy. :)

It's very normal to have these fears, but let me tell you... coming from someone who's been through both types of deliveries (one vaginal, one cesarean)... no matter what happens, you've gotta keep your head up and stay calm for yourself and for your child.

Discuss your fears with your doctor. The majority of your fears will subside as your pregnancy progresses, but some will still be there. It's your OB-GYN's job to prepare you for what comes next. :) Don't be afraid to ask ANYTHING. A good doctor will be there for you no matter your questions or concerns.

Best wishes!!!

Answer 2

Yes Yes Yes, I was pregnant in Jan 2004 and bought books/clothes/baby stuff then had a M/C in March 2004. When I was pregnant again in May 2004, I was so sick with worry and anxiety that I didn't fill out any books, wrote no cute letters to my baby, nothing, I just kept expecting to lose it. I was so negative and didn't sleep worrying all the time that something will go wrong.
I kept asking for ultrasounds, I drove my OB/GYN mad, God blessed me with a beautiful baby in March 2005.
I am no w 4 months pregnant, I thought I was over it, but once again I am obsessed with something going wrong. I can't eat or sleep, I feel like I am driving myself crazy, luckily I have my 16 month old to take my mind off things during the day.
Please know, you are not alone. You are having normal emotional feelings at this time of the pregnancy, just wait till the nesting time comes inb a few months, you won't be able to stop tidying or cleaning. Your fears about the birth won't lead to C-Sec or anything else, whatever is meant to happen for your baby to be born healthy will happen.
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Answer 3

Here are the keys to getting past your fears and having an amazing and empowering birth.....

Educate yourself. Learn all that you can about pregnancy and birth.

Prepare yourself. Learn about lots of different coping methods for labor. The more you know, the better prepared you will be. Take a good childbirth class.....preferably one that is NOT offered by the hospital. Hospital classes teach you to be a good patient. You want to learn to be a good consumer. Look for independent childbirth classes.

Get good support. Make sure your partner understands you wishes about the birth. Make sure you and your caregiver are on the same page and have similar birthing philosophies. Write a birth plan. Consider hiring a doula to support you while in labor. Some hospitals will provide one for FREE if you just ask ahead of time! Doulas are wonderful, especially for a first time mom in a hospital setting. They can be very reassuring to have around, can recommend coping methods to you, can show your partner ways to help in labor and can help interpret any medical information that the hospital staff present you with.

Good books to read on birth:

The Birth Book by Dr. Sears
The Birth Partner by Simkin
Husband Coached Childbirth by Dr. Bradley
Birthing From Within by England (this one will be good to help you address fears and emotional issues surrounding birth)

Answer 4

Ya I was like you b4. I think alot. Scare my baby has no legs, can't talk, scare fall down, not kicking etc.. and had to go for C-sect too.

During the 9 mths, my fears was overcome only everytime I get to see my baby during ultra-sound sessions. My gynea would tell me his features etc...

When my baby is not kicking much in the day, I will pat my tummy and ask him to respone.He does.

Another way is to read alot of pregnancy book. The more knowledge you have, you will feel confident.

I wanted natural birth, but I can't. Had Emergency C-sect. When the time comes, I was not worrying much abt this and that. I knew wat is going on. Thou I was sad that I have to have C-sect. All I wanted is my baby to come out safely.

Answer 5

I've had two children ages (4 and 6). I never really got too nervous before having them, but when I went into labor then I got nervous. I wont lie...it hurts. I never took any meds with either one, but if I were to have another child I would for sure request something.

Complications happen with some women, but just think about the number of women who have children every day...every second. Problems don't happen with each person. Just make sure you take care of yourself and your child...do the best you can. Just relax and enjoy this time in your life.

Answer 6

We all feel it, its natural. But do not obsess about it. Stressing over it all the time is only doing more harm than good. All will be okay. Just enjoy your pregnancy...the thoughts that make you happy. The sheer funniness of some of your predicaments...like gas and belching and food cravings. And Oh when you feel the baby moving. Baby names. All the loving thoughts that you associate with children. Remember that that the good outways the bad 10 times over.

Answer 7

Congratulations!

i had my Lil girl at 19 i was so scared but let me tell you it worth it, all every starch mark every labor pain. i took the labor and delivery class at my hospital it was very good ways to meet new mom and mom's that have been though it. it was wonderful i loved the class any ? you have the nurse can answer for you. even get to see the baby floor of the hospital. but it not at all bad stop worrying so much that dose more harem than good sometimes. i am 23 and have my sound one on the way and cant wait you well see everything well be just fine.

best of luck !