2006-08-07 00:19:27 · 33 answers · asked by cocobean 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, i don't think so, until and unless u both have grown out of that relationship i think it should be fine. The old flame should not be burning, you should not be go with ur boyfriend in old times.
I think there is no harm in it, if u both are mature enough and understand that ur past has just past by and ur present is with u. You can be friends with him.
2006-08-07 00:28:10 · answer #1 · answered by cc20 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it is very wrong for you to keep seeing your old boyfriend after you are married. You should have stopped seeing him when you met your husband. That is the same thing as cheating on your husband.
How would you feel if your husband had a girlfriend out there that he had before he met you, but kept on seeing her after he met you, then continued to seeing her after you and him got married? I know I sure wouldn't like it.
Does your husband even know that you are still seeing this other man? It don't matter whether you are having sex with this other man or not. The fact remains that you are seeing another man, and that is cheating on your husband. You are not being honest with your husband.
Here is my motto: Don't say or do anything that you wouldn't say or do in front of your mate. If you care anything about your husband at all, you need to make a clean cut with this other man and say with your husband. If you want to continue seeing this other man, then introduce him to your husband. When you introduce them to each other, you say to your husband---this is (old boyfriends name), he was my boyfriend before I met you,and we are still friends. Then to your old boyfriend, this is my husband (husbands name). I think to your husband this would go over like a tub of mud.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not putting you down. I just don't believe in doing things behind your mates backs that's all and that is what cheating is. Why do you even want to keep your old boyfriend when you are married now. Your husband should be all you need now.
2006-08-07 01:59:43 · answer #2 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he respect that you are married and nothing more can happen then marriage? If the answer is no and he's hoping to 'steal' you away, then it is. You have to remember he was an old boyfriend, so he may still be in love with you.
To see him, yes it's wrong, to stay friends, I don't see anything wrong. But he may not stay there. I hope this helps!
I so agree with Jade!! I know my sister isn't married, but her ex's or men want to be friends, and it always end up to be more then friendship or they want it to be, even if she doesn't want it to be.
2006-08-07 01:00:14 · answer #3 · answered by ~~Catbird Woman~~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men can't keep woman as friends, especially if you had an intimate relationship in the past. Men think they can just be friends, but if your not careful he will try for the whole package whether your married or not. Men seem to let there other head rule when it comes to woman. I am breaking up my wife's men friends , I suffered a major breech in her faith with 1 who was such a close friend. I'm making her choose, its him or me and I don't care either way.
2006-08-07 00:38:31 · answer #4 · answered by paulsexpress 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband had an old girlfriend and kept in contact with her. Would you consider it wrong to keep seeing her?
Think about that for a while.
Define "seeeing him"? If anything that is inappropriate (sex, kissing, dating) Then you are committing adultry and obviously wrong.
If friends, nothing wrong with having friends. But if your motive has strong feelings behind it. I suggest letting it go. Eventually, you might act on those feelings.......
If friends and only friend feelings. No romantic feelings. Then nothing is wrong.
If you haven't asked your husband how he feels about it and if you not able to discuss it, then obviously it is wrong.
2006-08-07 00:28:01 · answer #5 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what your conversations are about.
I keep in contact with my old boyfriend. But we are strickly friends now. I'm very close to all of his family, and one of his neices is even living with me right now.
So if you two are only friends, then go for it. But is anything sexual appears, any at all, then you need to cancel it. Think about it. Is there anyone or anything worth losing your husband over?
2006-08-07 00:24:49 · answer #6 · answered by Lynda C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of contact are we talking about? Just electronically or do you see each other and do something. If you do anything physical with him you know it's wrong. Otherwise you can still be friends.
2006-08-07 00:25:17 · answer #7 · answered by yarisgp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on WHY you still want to be friends with him. If there is still some attraction there, I suggest you leave him alone and rather spend the extra attention on your husband. I've tried to be friends with exes before, and it doenst work, because the attraction will always be there and it's just impossible to be friends. Does your husband know this?If he doesnt care, then go ahead.But if you are keeping it from your husband you must be honest with yourself on why you still hang on to him.
2006-08-07 00:45:12 · answer #8 · answered by Jade22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I still keep in touch with my first love and my husband talks to his x-girlfriend at least once a week it just depends on the relationship that u and your man have.
2006-08-07 02:43:30 · answer #9 · answered by treva_burr031 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just imagine that ur patner (housband ) is doin the same , can u stand this kind of situation ,?
I don't think so . especially the guys are more sensitive about this matter
as soon as u put urself in his shoes u can judge easily
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the rull is :
do what u like theothers do for u and do not what u don't like ppl do about u ,,,,
best of wishes
2006-08-07 00:32:11 · answer #10 · answered by solat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋