Hi everyone,
I have been married for nine months to a wonderful lady....However, most recently my high school sweetheart has been emailing me. We have been emailing eachother, I should say.
I was feeling down after an argument with my wife, and told my "ex" that I should move back to Belfast and find a way to scratch out a living there. I live in the States now, but I used to play basketball over in Northern Ireland, and I liked it.
She (my "ex") is living in London now, and upon hearing my "idea", said she liked it.....And that she "would come and see me."
What is this, what does it mean? Is she interested in me, or is she just playing games. I told her recently that I believed she puts up with me more than anything else....
She responded sternly, "don't ever say that I just tolerate you, that is a horrible thing to say..."
Is it obvious that she is interested, or am I playing too much into it.
What would you do? This girl is every dream I have ever had.
2006-08-05 23:28:33 · 4 answers · asked by michael b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
In my opinion, you've already made the wrong move by talking so intimately with an old flame.
You need to determine if you love your wife and want a life with her, even if your old girlfriend wasn't in the picture....
If she wasn't giving you the feeling that she's interested, would you still leave your wife?
Don't you think it's the power of suggestion that makes it so easy for you to see the benefits of leaving your wife for your 'dream girl'? I've never heard of a story where a guy (or girl) has left their spouse and had a top notch, no hassle relationship with the person to whom they ran to.
So, I'll ask again... Do you want to leave your wife because you and your wife aren't right for eah other, or do you want to leave so you can have a chance with the dream girl?
2006-08-05 23:44:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 14⤊ 1⤋
STOP. Do you love your wife? How would you feel if your wife was doing what you were doing?. Think and ask yourself, 1. Is this worth the threat of hurting someone whom I love? Relationships are not easy, there is no such thing as a perfect marriage . I agree life is too short but then we always think that the grass is greener on the other side. If you respect the woman you married you would not want to hurt her, but if you no longer do then follow your baser instincts. Just be sure you will be ready to face the consequences
2006-08-06 06:35:44 · answer #2 · answered by mariezernalynpalmares 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you are not happy in your marriage, first and foremost, you should end it.....then think about your future. You owe it to your wife to be honest and upfront.
If Ireland is where you really want to be, then you should go there for yourself. From there, if friendships and relationships develop, great. I think the email thing is just that....an email thing. Let the past be in the past. Live for the here and now!
Good Luck
2006-08-06 06:46:12 · answer #3 · answered by jamie t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife should be the girl of your dreams. Are you not happy in your marriage? If you really love your wife. Stop all contact with your EX. And work on your marriage.
2006-08-06 06:35:22 · answer #4 · answered by Kali_girl825 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋