these days i have noticed none of my friends are happy in their relationships, and i think its because they have this image of a "perfect" partner in their head. Do you think that people are more demanding these days? maybe expect too much from someone?If you seek perfection wont you always be dissapointed? What do you think?
2006-08-05 23:27:13 · 20 answers · asked by BRICK 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i agree
2006-08-05 23:31:54 · answer #1 · answered by smilingontime 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't speak for everyone, of course, but I think that some people do expect perfection in their partner. At least, they expect them to be stronger than they are in a given situation and are dissapointed when the partner doesn't meet their needs.
Are people more demanding these days? Yes. I think so. Perhaps it's because our lives are more demanding than say, oh 1950? Women are in the workforce and men are required to do more in the home because of this, so their responsibilities have increased as well. Of course, it goes without say that a working mom has far more demands on her....
Expecting too much from someone? Yes, I think so. I think, in general, we expect too much of ourselves. There's a lot of pressure to have a 'perfect family' and it's impossible to obtain that. Because there's so much emphasis on 'having it all' we demand that we do more than we should in a given day and expect that of our partners. I don't think the media helps at all in letting us feel happy about what we have. There's always something more you need and there's always something on TV showing you just how little you actually have.
Seeking perfection, I believe, is the surest way to reach dissapointment. I don't believe that perfection exists, so if it's something that one strives for, they're never going to obtain their goal. Without reaching a strived for goal, dissapointment is likely to occur. However, perfection is subjective.
In nearly every situation, there needs to be a happy medium. If one can try their best to reach perfection, but can be happy with a job well done they'd be a step ahead in reaching satisfaction.
As I said, perfection doesn't really exist, but one can feel that something or someone is perfect. Like beauty, perfection is in the eye of the beholder. In the beginning of a relationship, I think people are a lot more likely to view their partner as a heck of a lot more perfect than they would in a year or so. It's all what we want to believe.
2006-08-06 06:49:04 · answer #2 · answered by Answers to Nurse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there are some people who are more demanding when it comes to relationships. I know people who have had one argument and then called it a day. I don't think you should put up with everything, don't get me wrong you have to use your own discetion, but nobody's perfect and a few people don't seem to leave any room for human flaws. Those that strive for perfection are never truely happy, although maybe perfection is relative???
2006-08-06 06:37:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree.It's just that you expect them to know you in and out and they expect the same from you and things clash.Also maybe its because your partner always means someone special to you that there's an extra you give them and when you think you've given your best thats where dissapointment comes in........I think that perfection should mean DEAD, afterall perfection is a dreamy term....
2006-08-06 06:48:14 · answer #4 · answered by lam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believing oneself to be perfect is often the sign of a delusional mind! People have been spoiled by the media and TV to see such things as perfect, like life will be Baywatch or something. If they seek perfection, they will just keep on seeking, and seeking, and seeking....
2006-08-06 06:32:29 · answer #5 · answered by zelgadiss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They don't expect a perfect person but they do want a perfect "fit".
It's like buying a pair of shoes. It's not so much that you want the shoe to be a perfect example of what a shoe can be. It's more about you want that shoe to fit you better than any other shoe does. You want a perfect fit.
2006-08-06 06:39:52 · answer #6 · answered by Doctor Hand 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think we do, but what is perfection anyway? I never seek perfection cause I am happy with what I have and lets face it no body is perfect.
2006-08-07 12:16:34 · answer #7 · answered by megajen2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHEN YOU GO INTO A RELATIONSHIP EXPECTING SOMETHING OTHER THAN WHAT YOU CAME IN TO INITIALLY ..WELL THAN YOU COULD BE A LITTLE SELFISH IN YOUR BEHALF. IF YOU ARE SERIOUS WITH YOURSELF, AND YOU RESPECT YOURSELF.THAN BY THAT TIME YOU SHOULD KNOW EXACTLY THE PERSON YOU ATTRACT. IF YOU ARE BEING TRUE TO YOUR SELF
THAT IS THE PERSON YOU DESIRE WHICH WILL BE THE ONE THAT YOU WILL GET ALONG WITH.TO CUT IT SHORT WHEN YOU ARE GOING OUT LOOKING FOR MR. RIGHT OR MS. RIGHT .. BE YOUR SELF .LEARN HOW TO SAY NO. MOST IMPORTANT ,DON'T PICK THIS PERSON BECAUSE YOU HAVE HEARD THAT MORE THAN TWO GIRLS /GUYS HAVE THE HOTS FOR THIS PERSON..GOOD LUCK
2006-08-06 06:47:27 · answer #8 · answered by max56054 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that people have become more superficial and because we are also living in an "instant" world we think that there are instant answers to the relationship problems we have. We no longer work hard in building our ralationships.
No one is perfect
2006-08-06 06:37:43 · answer #9 · answered by mariezernalynpalmares 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think people do expect perfection from their partner.I sometimes expect perfection from my husband.It is not right,but I do sometimes.I am demanding sometimes because I want things done perfect and he is far from perfect.Yes!You will be disappointed if you expect a spouse to be perfect,because it won't happen.
2006-08-06 06:37:26 · answer #10 · answered by Sander 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will and until everyone just accepts others for who and what they are this will continue.
If you are not happy in the relationship you are in then get out of the comfort zone of *I have a boyfriend I am worthwhile* and start thinking differntly.
2006-08-10 04:32:42 · answer #11 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋