The "sex relationship" has been going on for 2 years now and whenever we can have sex he is immediately able to become erect. He is also able to become erect immediately after sex if I want him to. Most men I have asked say that they cannot become erect immediately after sex unless they really like the woman. . . Is this true?
2006-08-05 22:20:28 · 9 answers · asked by curious 1 in Social Science ➔ Other - Social Science
This man is 34 years old.
2006-08-05 22:29:26 · update #1
I don't want him to become attached, so please be as honest as possible.
2006-08-05 22:48:45 · update #2
Most teenage men (boys),,,,it is a hormonal thing.
2006-08-05 22:25:40 · answer #1 · answered by Gabe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The real answer isn't that complicated. I think the main issue is that you are asking about the difference between sex and love and you are trying to compare this to sexual arousal.
First of all, more love does not equal more sex. Men vary in how much desire they have and how often they can have sex. There are very loving and caring men who do not want sex very often and there are men who are not loving or caring who want sex quite frequently. If you are asking whether the fact that he can get erect immediately after sex means that he is in love with you, the answer is that this is not an indicator. Typically, it works the other way.
Most men find it easy to get aroused the first time. If they happen to be with someone that they are less attracted to, most men can still get aroused and get an erection. However, as soon as they reach orgasm reality sort of comes back. If the man is truly not attracted to the woman that he is with (and just had sex with) he will have trouble continuing. In other words, the initial state of arousal can mask typical feelings about attraction.
So, the fact that a man can get erect immediately following sex means that, first of all, he is unusual as most men cannot do this. Secondly, it does not indicate whether he is actually in love; it simply shows that he is genuinely physically attracted. Another man might be head over heels in love and not be able to get erect again immediately.
Many men have difficulty trying to answer a question like this because frequently men associate the frequency of sexual activity with how manly someone is. And, a man who is not able to have frequent sex may simply give an answer based on feelings of envy or bias or may simply be trying to guess the correct answer.
However, this is not something that I have to guess about. Quite often after reaching orgasm I don't lose my erection and can continue without a break until I reach orgasm again. On one occasion it took four separate orgasms before lost my erection. Even when I do lose my erection I can normally have sex again within just a few minutes.
I can say that my ability to reach an erection is only related to how aroused I am and not related to how much in love I am. However, if I am dating someone and the feelings of love and friendship are not there then I will tend to lose interest whether the relationship is sexual or not. There is no way that I could continue having a regular sexual relationship over a two year period without wanting more out of the relationship. In other words, if I were not that interested (even if the sex were great) I would tend to stop seeing someone for sex long before two years had passed. Or, at the very least, the sex would only be an occasional thing rather than a regular thing. It is possible that I could be friends with a woman and have an occasional sexual encounter if neither of us were in a relationship.
However, if I were really interested then I would want to spend more time together and have at least some commitment, again, long before two years had passed. However, this may not match your friend. It is possible that he is happy with the sex and does not want more. However, I would also assume that if he were in love with you and wanted more that he would have indicated this to you. Presumably, he would be seeking to spend more time with you in activities other than sex, he would be seeking commitment of some kind, and would tend to show jealousy if you talked about another guy.
So, if I understand correctly. You are asking if the fact that he can get erect again quickly means that he is becoming attached to you and the answer is that you cannot judge by that. Being able to get erect again just means that he is above average in this regard and that he must have some physical attraction to you.
I hope this has covered what you were asking.
2006-08-09 02:42:05 · answer #2 · answered by scientia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
erection is more physiological than emotion based; consider, a rapist can achieve an erection and he certainly doesnt care about the woman.
if you study tantra, maintaining an erection nearly indefinitely or achiveing one after the other really isnt that unheard of.
from most of my experience and study, it centers around breathe control and some meditation/concentration techniques, and merely gives you alot more control over your own body.
from a physiological level, it's rare to spontaneously become erect right after sex without training and practice, but you can train your body to pretty much behave any way you like.
it could be as simple as an excess of a certain chemical in his system, or an incomplete sex act, or simply habit. it also may be that he never actually loses his first erection and remains hard but neither of you pays attention until you notice it again; thats another thing tantra can teach you how to do, to maintain post coitus. so, if all those things are physically possible, there's no reason to attach and love- or lack of love- to the situation. it's physical and in his body, however if he is extremely physically attracted to you, it would be a pretty good precursos to wanting sex again.
generally, when a man achieves orgasm, his brain is flooded with a chemical that relaxes him and givese him the urge to sleep; it may be as simple as that chemical not being as present in him.
2006-08-05 22:30:52 · answer #3 · answered by sleepingtao 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A man can get an erection any time, any where. He is probably getting an erection from thinking about the sex just gone.
My boyfriend gets it up so many times a day, without cause. Just UP it goes. Poor fella. I wouldn't be able to handle it.
2006-08-05 22:26:41 · answer #4 · answered by Clueless 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It varies. If I am well rested and I am eating right and I have been excercising and the woman is really HOT, then I can go again right afterwards.. but if I am generally tired and I have been eating junk food all day and the woman is average looking, then when I am done, IM DONE... for at least 20 minutes or so.. LOL.. then I can go again!
2006-08-05 23:05:16 · answer #5 · answered by Joe K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is sex. Some guys *cough cough* can go all night, but some have a hard time the first time (no pun intended).
2006-08-05 22:26:19 · answer #6 · answered by Fat Guy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A man can make it hard if he likes you or not. It's all about the sex.
2006-08-05 22:24:18 · answer #7 · answered by Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not everytime! Every had a "wake up" moment!
2006-08-05 22:41:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
every man has different abilities; we cannot generalize this.
2006-08-05 22:26:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋