we've been to gether for about two years now. I truely do love him, my mom thinks all guys are jerks and she dosnt think i should marry him because he is not working right now. but he is looking, she thinks im going to take care of him and he wont provide for me and our baby boy. He does when he works were going thru a ruogh time right now. and i dont know how to get her off my back with out her kicking me and my son out of the house..
2006-08-05 20:57:03 · 17 answers · asked by pumkin 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Its your life. Decision to be taken by you only.
Your mom is not your enemy. Listen to her advices. She is suggesting for your good only. Considering all these if you think you should marry this man, then marry him.
Only one thing, if you suffer also you should never repent like "Nicole I" (second respondent).
2006-08-05 21:05:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It was 1945 and WW2 was over, my dad met my mom at work, as soon as he came out of the Navy. They dated for a year and a half and got married September 1947. I asked her this very thing many times when I was a kid, she says there never was a formal proposal. They just assumed they would get married. They just both knew it. He gave her the little diamond engagement ring, and they got married in a civil ceremony with my dad's sister and her boyfriend as the only guests and witnesses. Epilogue: I came along 8 years later, the only child. They were married nearly 42 years til my dad died in 1989.
2016-03-27 00:50:44 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well two things:
1) Hopefully you mom is concerned about you and your well being and can perhaps see things without the rose colored glasses of love you currently have on... You didn't say much about him so the assumption is that he's not an abusive crack head...
2) Its your life, your choice to have sex and a kid with this guy. ITS NOT YOUR MOM'S LIFE its your life. You might be making the biggest mistake of your life, but its your right to make it. You could also be making the best decision of your life. Hopefully mom taught you that its ok to make your own decisions, make mistakes, learn from them and still have mom's love in the end. Do whatever you can to take the best care of yourself and the child and if your boyfriend future husband can handle that, then take him along for the ride.
My two cents...
-Rob
2006-08-05 21:03:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I started reading this I was thinking wow your mom needs to mind her own business, then I got to the part that said you need to get her off your back with out kicking you & your son out of the house. Now, I get it. YOu are sponging off your mom.
You are doing adult things........like having a baby and plan on getting married, without taking adult responsibilities.
What part about no job makes this guy attractive? He will probably just sort of ocassionally take care of you and the baby.
Not a good life.
If you lived on your own and had a good income and making it out in the world, then your mom even if she hates your bf, she needs to live with it and be as nice as she can be.
But, you are living at home like a child and as a child your MOM is your boss, it is her house, her rules. Fair or not, it is her rules.
And I bet you that she has good reasons for not liking your bf.
Adults, like you and your bf need to be prepared for hard times.
thats called responsibality.
The way to get your mom off your back is for you to grow up. Make good decisions. Have a good man in your life. Are able to live on your own.
2006-08-05 21:08:58 · answer #4 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not hold off of the marriage for a bit? Let him get more firmly on his feet first. I mean, come on, are you planning to all live with your mom when you're married? Waiting will also give your mom a chance to see him actually being responsible and taking care of the things he needs to do as a future husband and current father.
2006-08-05 21:03:22 · answer #5 · answered by Kanga_tush2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well not sure what you really should do. You really should be able to decide who you want to be with. It would be good if you can be independent enough to live out on your own with the father of your child and work things out as a family. This would give you the opportunity to prove to your mother that you can make things happen for your young family.
2006-08-05 21:05:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be smart. Do what's best for your baby...not just you. Yes, you love him but is it best to get married when he's jobless. Love doesn't put food on the table. Do you have a job? If you're already struggling by yourself, why add on to it. Help each other as boyfriend/girlfriend. Don't jump into marriage because that will add on to drama/stress that may already be there.
2006-08-05 21:00:42 · answer #7 · answered by Victoria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your mom is having trouble accepting your soon to be husband. Despite all this hate your mom have for him, your soon to be husband needs to chat in private with your mom and assure her that everything will be ok and that he won't let her down. Trust will be a very important factor in getting your mom to accept your soon to be husband. I hope everything turns out well.
2006-08-05 21:02:46 · answer #8 · answered by Jason 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just get marry your mom is just sad that you are going to live her because you getting married and i guess you moving out just tell her you will still visit her often that you love him so mom i don't care what you say i love you but i'm getting marrie
2006-08-05 21:02:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im in the same situation so just be with him u love him and u have a kid on the way i know thats ur mom but u cant help who u love
2006-08-05 21:02:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋