Some people at work did some things that I did not agree with. It seems that my boss thinks I am involved in it. I want to clarify my role and my loyalty. Would it be best to write her an email or just bust my *** as usual?
2006-08-05 20:36:09 · 18 answers · asked by LunaWulf 1 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
Clarification is important for two reasons:
1. You and your boss maintain a healthy working relationship
2. You document the event, and it is your record in situations where harassment is a possibility.
I would send a mail clearly stating your position and reiterating your desire to work with your boss, and follow up with a one-on-one. That way you are working to mitigate misconceptions, while at the same time documenting the issue in case the situation escalates.
Remember though that what you write is also documentation for your boss, so think through your letter carefully, stick to the basics, and make sure that it is clear and to the point. Try not to fingerpoint or make someone else look bad to make you look good.
2006-08-05 20:44:47 · answer #1 · answered by kp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Luna,
There are some things that working harder will not heal. It appears at least that you feel concerned about her interpretations of your performance, enought that you want to clear the air. If you have that leaning, it is important to follow the wisdom already present in your heart and mind. Instinct is telling you to clarify your intent, and yoru loyalty to her.
If you must write an email, write that to help you prepare the situation of what you want to say, how you want to say it, then delete it don't send it. Make time to deal with this in a live communication..
Sometimes if on a path of misconceptions, speaking your honest intentions, perceptions and observations live, allow you to clear the air, where if someone ALSO misperceived your intent by email, it could do more damage than good.
2006-08-06 04:02:25 · answer #2 · answered by Dawn M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends what your other co workers are like.
If your co workers are going to think that you are a traitor and you have more to lose in the long run as they will not back you up when you need it, then you may consider taking the blame with them and letting them know that you are doing this because you respect them and you do not want to snitch on them, and you would expect that if it was you they would do the same.
If on the other hand, your co-workers are a mature lot, and you strongly feel that what they did was wrong, come out with your views in the open, and tell them that while you support them on any other level, in this case, you strongly believe that what they did was out of line, and on this one, you are not ready to support them. Once they know where you stand, you can tell your boss your point of view.
At least you would be above board in all of this.
You have to determine the pros and cons of both approaches though.
2006-08-06 03:45:02 · answer #3 · answered by jimbomediterraneo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best solution always is to confront the person in a private setting and express yourself. But be professional and watch your tone. Your boss should respect you and should give positive feedback and an explanation. If you don't get the results you want go up the ladder until you do. If all fail quit or even get a lawyer if you put a lot into the job.
2006-08-06 03:42:09 · answer #4 · answered by Juicy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO. you should not write an email. You should tell your boss that you would like to schedule an in person meeting with her to discuss the issue in question. That way, you can clarify the confusion in person. After your meeting, you can then follow up with an email summary.
2006-08-06 03:41:16 · answer #5 · answered by zanthus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEVER write the letter to clarify misconceptions because the boss can twist the scanario and deliberately put you in hot water.
Just bust your @ss as usual.
2006-08-06 03:40:30 · answer #6 · answered by SweetBrunette 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best approach is the direct approach. Go to her and tell her face to face. A letter can be interpreted too many different ways. If you talk to her directly, there is no assuming anything. she knows exaclty where you stand and how you feel about being "involved" in silly pranks.
2006-08-06 03:41:06 · answer #7 · answered by bratchild 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think thats a REALLY good idea, sometimes writing things down in a letter is better then speaking face to face, you can think about what you say first. probably best to keep it very simple keep to the point and DONT bad talk your co-workers, that will not make you look better, just explain the situation and that you fear that he/she may think your were involved. dont just get back to the grind and let that slide your trustability is way to important,save your good name.
2006-08-06 03:42:17 · answer #8 · answered by None 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice to you is that you could try and send her an e-mail to explain to her that you had no part in doing what the other people had done at work.You must be the one who always get in trouble at work for every thing and she thought you was in this one too as you regularly get in trouble by her. For once you stayed out of trouble but she won't probably believe you as she finds it hard to believe that you had no part in. My advice to you that if you told her and she doesn't believe you she will find out differently one day and she will have egg on her face. Be honest it gets you every where.
2006-08-06 03:53:50 · answer #9 · answered by debbie_dixon19 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to you boss, don't write anything. Try to clear it up, but plan on changing jobs on your own terms as soon as possible.
2006-08-06 05:05:56 · answer #10 · answered by Lee J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋