2006-08-05 20:20:45 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I had the same problem, years ago, when I was only 17 and was 1000 miles away suddenly in the army. I had never been away from all of my family (by myself) for even one night in the past, and now, suddenly, I was 1000 miles from home. I didn't deal with it the best possible way, but I think it was a time God used to draw me back to Himself. The only thing that reminded me of home (that I was allowed to have with me [it was basic training]) was my Bible, so I started reading it and met the Lord, and have been happily obeying Him ever since.
That said, I think there are other things as well that you can do. Get to know your surroundings, and get to appreciate them. After my basic in NJ, I was sent to VA (and I didn't like it there, either, didn't want to be there and I was quite homesick, and consequently I didn't take advantage of the opportunities I had to visit and see the surrounding area). I stayed on base the whole 7 months I was there, and now I really wish I had been more open minded and just considered how God had me there for a reason. During that time, I didn't really want to have anything to do with anything that didn't remind me of home, which, now, I feel was wrong of me. Norfolk, Virginia Beach, etc, have a lot to offer, but I just stayed cooped up on the base, and lived for any word from home.
You didn't say why you're depressed, but I have a feeling it is because you're homesick. I'm very sorry that you are in that situation, but I know you can make the best of it and I know that if you'll open your eyes, you'll find there are some wonderful people all around you very much worth knowing (and getting to know).
God bless you, feel free to email me if you want to talk about it.
sprectator@yahoo.com
I hope this helps.
2006-08-05 20:28:27 · answer #1 · answered by Wayne A 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It depends on your reasons for the depression. Are you lonely for home? It also depends on why you are away...as you did not state this.
If you are able, and you have some special interests, like shopping, antiques, or things that you really like to do, you can look into what they have where you are now. Sometimes, like if you do scrapbooking, you can search different stores or shops for cool backings they may carry something different compared to the ones you have. OR if you are into something else, check out the diversity as compared to where you live. Sometimes it is a lot of fun to take all the things that interest you the most and see how much different they are compared to the state or country you are in now.
It's just hard to say, because I'd have to know your situation. But that's what I would do. Maybe you could go to a craft store and look at all the stuff they carry that doesn't have to be fired in a kiln, and maybe pick up just a small piece and get the acrylic paint and just be creative.
OR, if you're allowed to have a pet where you are, see if someone has free kittens or puppies. Sometimes, a new pet helps to take your mind off of the things that bother you. I always used to talk to my cat. I'd lay on the floor or where ever she was, and just talk to her. They have a way of knowing that you are troubled and just seem to go out of their way to cuddle and make a person feel better.
I'm not an expert, but I've been there before. Heck, that's why I talked to my cat. There was no one else around. Hope that helped, even if it's just a little. :>)
2006-08-06 03:37:01 · answer #2 · answered by chole_24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depression is a state of mind and it will be the same at 100 miles distance or 1000 miles. The best way to handle it is to avoid it i.e. stop thinking of it. its possible may keeping yourself occupied or busy. When you are involved seriously in other things, you rarely feel depression.
To get occupied, make new friends, learn some courses or improve any of your hobbies or art in free time. Take interest in people around you. Join some clubs or associations of your choice. choose an interesting past time and very soon, you find yourself so busy that you wont have time to think of depression and will wonder where did you use to get time for doing that earlier :-) All the best.
Good lcuk, bye
2006-08-06 07:06:59 · answer #3 · answered by rahulthesweet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depression can be hard to deal with 2 miles away from home. See a doc, talk with friends, keep your spirits up. Easy to say I know but from my experiences, talking with friends, and especially a loved on(u know who you are hun) can help more than any pill ever could!
2006-08-06 03:27:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going through the same thing right this very second.. that's why I'm on here. not that this is the best place to be but it keeps u occupied.
try to do things that you enjoy doing like reading, scrap-booking, interest in pets or sports.
i know how hard it is. I'm 3, 179 miles away from my home and its just horrible.
you can contact me if you want. we can be email buddies!
2006-08-06 03:29:43 · answer #5 · answered by If u were wondering, It's me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always think that tomorrow is always better.. or think in things that will happen in the future that will make you happy ( Trip.. or going home for Christmas, or a new boyfriend or date.. etc).. right away you will feel better..
And I think you need to find some friends in your new place too.. interacting with people make you forget your worries and sadness.. but sitting on your own will result in you thinking in how unhappy you are..
Hope you feel better
2006-08-06 03:27:43 · answer #6 · answered by guy_from_there 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God has shown you the destination to get what you want and that's why you are 2000 miles away. Thus before looking back to Home to realise that you are 2000 miles away, you look towards to God to thank him for showing the destination and also to realise the distance between Him and you. The moment you start feeling that there is no distance between Him and you, then you are at Home.
Thank God for the destination shown to you.... Thanking God may please Him to give you a feeling of a local. If you start feeling a local then you will start seeing lot of people who are there to take care of you.
if you go on looking away, you will fail to realise the gifts around you.....
2006-08-06 03:42:58 · answer #7 · answered by Heavenly 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all try to be cheerful whenever you are away from home.
If that is not possible then try to make yourself busy with the things and don't think about the things which make you feel depressed.
Even if that is not possible then pursue with your hobbies that would really make you cheerful.
Also when you are alone in a new place then make friends at your workplace.
2006-08-06 03:34:12 · answer #8 · answered by Sunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it really depends on how long you plan on staying away from home. If you are planing on staying for a long period of time, like four years in college, or something, then your best solution is to get more comfortable in you new surroundings, make new friends and really try to make your new place your home.
If it's just a short period of time.. just keep reminding yourself that you'll be home sooner than you think.
2006-08-06 03:30:20 · answer #9 · answered by amw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
anti - depressants for one
second is help from friends
third is improfanfic.com if you like reading funny parodies but then you have to be a bit of an anime' fan...
fourth is believing in your self
and the last resort is scuicide... wether it be emotional, mental, or physice...
the other path is to lose all emotion... care not about the world nor yourself... care only that you don't care...
2006-08-06 03:27:17 · answer #10 · answered by specterreaper 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋