2006-08-05 20:15:33 · 18 answers · asked by SHERRIE M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
she is 14 and real sweet but dont know if i believe
2006-08-05 20:17:00 · update #1
What were u doing going through her purse, not ethical for anyone to do not even a stepmom
2006-08-05 20:21:41 · answer #1 · answered by mamamia 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Would either answer make you feel better? I'd suggest that you believe her, but also that you talk to her about boys and sex and making good choices. They learn plenty of the science stuff in school, but the rest of their knowledge comes from rumor and gossip.
Even if it's not her test, that doesn't guarantee anything. Rather than calling her a liar or snooping through her purse, why not just talk to her? Again, don't accuse, don't distort the facts, just have a chat and see if she'll open up to you. And if not you, then maybe her father should do it. But trying to keep up on your children through espionage and dirty tricks just breeds mistrust.
In response to others' comments that she wouldn't be holding it if it weren't hers, I've known grown women to do that. They'll get embarrassed, or they know a checker at the store, so they send a friend in to get it for them. It does happen.
2006-08-05 20:22:48 · answer #2 · answered by Rondo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, yeah kinda weird having a friends pg test , but i guess it could happen, u didnt say if it was new , or if it had already been done, if it hasnt be done..Id talk to your husband about making her take it..explaining because girls sometimes swear that its their friends when its really theirs.. explaining that your sure its not hers but just to be on the safe side, and that u'll go and buy her friend a new one as soon as her's pops up negative..because that would be the only way to put ur mind at ease that she's not pregnant and being her step mom, u do need to have ur husband involved with this situation and her mother as well... then if it comes up negative all 3 of you need to start watching her alot closer for awhile to make sure that she just didnt get "lucky" with the negative test.. and go from there.. but definately let her dad and mom know about the situation and id definately make her take the test to be on the safe side..
2006-08-05 21:01:20 · answer #3 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 12:57:19 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't believe either, sorry to say. but since u looked at her purse, which is technically "private" and she is probably upset that u looked in the first place.. maybe w/o permission? i would say that i know u probably don't understand why i checked ur purse, and i apologize, but in order for us to trust each other we have to be honest w/ eachother. if u say that it's ur friend's, i will believe u..but if i find out that u lied, it will be harder for me to trust u later on. please feel free to talk to me, and i will do my best to help u. and if it really is for ur friend, be supportive and help her, tell an adult because 14 is too young to be afraid of pregnancy.
good luck~
2006-08-05 20:21:26 · answer #5 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah....its unlikely that it belongs to a friend. This is a serious issue and it sounds like someone has to talk to her about a whole variety of issues, including sexuality, sexually transmitted infenctions, contraception, self-esteem, and of course the possibility of pregnancy. As a step-parent, this may or may not be your role. I would definitely think you need to talk to your spouse and decide how to approach this. You definitely cannot let this one slide. Whether or not your step-daughter is pregnant, she is in serious trouble and is at risk. Someone has to intervene with her ASAP to show support and provide guidance.
2006-08-05 20:25:23 · answer #6 · answered by hersh108 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she says it's not hers then your first instinct would be to trust her (if there are not trust issues already.. then i would second guess and make her take a physical) Then after a few months go by you will notice if she was telling the truth or not. After then she will need someone to talk to and you would be the perfect person.
2006-08-05 20:33:51 · answer #7 · answered by donise225 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL, My mother caught me with a pack of cigarettes in my purse and I told her they belonged to a friend.. They didn't.....My daughter told me the same thing 20 yrs later and I believed her...of course that was not true either....even if they belong to a friend, who you hang with says a lot about your choice of lifestyle. I hated it when my mother said, "You are the company you keep".....She was right.......
2006-08-05 20:29:12 · answer #8 · answered by sashia_cali 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have no choice but to believe her unless u have reason not to-if u need peace of mind then purchase a pg test for her to take while in your presence
2006-08-05 20:23:45 · answer #9 · answered by momatendofrope 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no just to be on the safe side you take her to get tested also look at the test results in her purse and let your husband know no secrets this is a big one and your husband may get mad on you holding out.
2006-08-05 20:26:19 · answer #10 · answered by nicole l 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋