i need mom support...?

Question

I am 17 wks pregnant today. I am still so confused and just need a little bit of support. Yes, like so many other men I've read about...he left me. I do have children from my previous marriage. The other day this baby's father said he wanted nothing to do with me because I was divorced and "used up." I am a professional woman who never would have predicted this predicament. I have an excellent job, he is unemployed. Why am I so sad that he's gone? I was a victim of his torment so I thought this would be easy. He is Canadian, I am American...are there any legalities I should be aware of? HELP

Answer 1

What a slug. I would contact the province he's from to address paternity. Outside of that, I say good riddance. It's unfortunate that you'll be left to raise this baby without the father. It's gonna be painful for you and the child. However, it's better that you know this about him now than two years from now. For him to call you used up, he is truly a loser. That was only his frustration with himself talking. If he felt that way, he shouldn't have gotten involved with you to begin with. I have a son who has never ever met his dad. He's a loser too. Disappeared when my son was two. It has been a struggle for my baby as he grew up with friends and my two daughters who know who their dad is, to watch those situations and he remained fatherless. I wish you a loving, peaceful, and healthy pregnacy. Check up on Canadian laws, specifically where he's from, for paternity issues. Even if he is unemployed, he'll have to work at some point in his life. Then get his a$$.

Answer 2

oh boy......stay away from unemployed guys from out of the country.Don't continue to be a victom. Not sure of the legalities.
You are NOT used up. Don't let any man tell you that. Guys who belittle women are abusive men. Don't make the mistake again. Get a good attorney and see if you can get some child support from that guy.
You are sad that he is gone because in a way he fillled an empty spot in your heart. You had someone to come home to.
You had a dream that he would be what you and the kids needed. Your heart is grieveing for that part of him that was good.
You need time to grieve, then put this guy in perspective.
It is better for you and the kids to have a good live without a man than have a semi tolerable life with a man who will disappoint you in the end.

Answer 3

Well, I say good ridence and don't ever look back at that loser again. I was divorced with 2 children and I married a wonderful man who took my children and then me and him had a son and he raised them all just like they were all his. He never treated my children any different that he did our son. To this day my children adore him and call him Dad , and now we have Grandbabies by my Daughter and he just loves those babies to death . So go on with your life and find a good man, a hard worker that is kind , MATURE, kind, loving and most of all respects you!