I feel regected, by all my friends. what do I do?

Question

I have 6 friends that push me around.. I do everything for them but then when I ask them something, they say "Do it yourself" or something.. And when i talk they all tell me to shut up.. Then when i say something.. They don't listen.. Then later on they say the same thing.. And I say.. I said that.. Noone listens to me.. My friend, she sees something wrong with me, and she tells everyone.. Everyone makes fun of me.. I feel like crying.. But I can't shed tears.. I feel like I stick out like a sore thumb... Any advice.. Other than not be there friends? : /

I know you guys would say, get new friends... But I don't wanna... I wanna have the same friends.. I like them.. BUT I feel reaaaaallly rejected.

It's that.. 2 of those people like, me.. they are boys and girls..

Answer 1

u know, i bet u are a really nice, sweet person, think the best about others, and honestly want people to like u. and sometime let people bully u around because u still want them to be ur friends. please don't think badly about urself, but u have to realize that u are Letting them treat u badly by not standing up to them. they have absolutely NO respect for u as a person, and are happy to use u and let u do things for them. that is really messed up, those people are NOT good friends to you. what u need to do is gain more confidence in urself..because u are a person, just as equal to them, if not Better because u care about doing the right thing and thinking the best of others. whatever u are afraid of or feel shy about, work on it; for example, if u feel kind of awkward about ur appearance, make a change. work out, exercise, take care of ur skin and hair, play around w/ makeup, anything to make u feel beautiful. if u feel awkward about ur knowledge, study more, read more, learn about the news, and develop ur own opinion and be able to talk w/ others about things. continue to work on relationships w/ friends, and family, so that u know how to talk to different types of people, strangers or not. the more confident u feel about urself, u will realize that u do NOT deserve to be treated this way!!! they are doing it because u are letting them; they KNOW u are shy, they KNOW u are too nice, and they THINK u are weak. those are not friends... friends should support u, help u become a better person, and make u feel healthy and happy and positive. once u work on ur confidence, and KNOW that u are a great friend, dont' settle for anything less in UR friends; meet new people, hang out w/ ones that show u they are trustworthy, and do not take advantage of u. surround urself w/ positive people *so that* u can filter out the negative ones. u don't need bad people in ur life, but u do need good, and friends are important. so if u have to be a little lonely for now, it's ok. use that time to work on urself, and continue to be more confident so that u can meet NEW people and not be shy, and make more friends to find out who is good enough to be Your friend, not ones that make u feel "not good enough".

if u want to continue ur friendship, do so. but i would suggest not getting too close to them, and distance urself a bit so that they can't make u do things for them anymore and take advantage of u. dont be rude or mean to them, but just don't give them the opportunity to run ur life and make u feel bad about urself. use that distance to make new friends, so that u can make ur life healthy and positive and wonderful~ u are young, it is so worth it to have a good time in school and life~~!

don't give in, and dont' settle for anything but the best; because u are worth it. :) take care always~

Answer 2

Oh dear, dont worry afterall for these stuffs..
A friend have all rights to tease u, to ride on u! it matters when some third persons are with u!
u know really a friend must be a one who always warms u up by saying some convincing words, and actually they should not hurt u at any cost..
Just tell them that it really hurts u when they speak like that. make them understand ur situation, never loose ur hope, even they do not understand u , u keep on helping them.. one day or other they will realise that they are doing some wrong thing..
develope some kind of resistivity to harsh words ok! if u want to continue ur relation ship with them..
if u really consider them as ur friend u must accept even these given by them..
set some limit yaar! u seems to be a poor girl suffering a lot because of ur friends.. i feel so pity on u!

hope following these things may help u bit, have some other friends and show them that u are not inferior than them in any way ok..

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Answer 3

These people are truly NOT your friends, sweetheart. As hard as that may be for you to hear, true friends don't treat each other like that. Who needs enemies, when you have friends like that. True friends are supportive, kind and respectful of you and your feelings. If you really WANT to be friends with these people, talk to them about how you feel and tell them you don't like the way they treat you, and if they make fun of you and still "push you around" then they simply aren't worth having as friends. So all I can say is have some self-respect by finding new friends who will value you for the wonderful person that you are :) Goodluck :)

Answer 4

i suggest stick up and say im tired of this crap and show whos the boss and try not to reveal any secrets or something that u no will hurt u. when u think that something bad is going to happen in a conversation change the topic that will keep their minds away from thoughts of hurting u. if that doesnt work ignore them and dont listen to what they tell u to do and they'll miss having u being bossed around and crying back to u. dont go to far or u will lose ur friends ship.

what kind of friendship is that anyways and dont forget show whos the boss and make new friends to fight on ur sides.

Answer 5

It seems like the only thing you could do, would be to get them to all sit down, because you have something important to say, and tell them how you feel. If they won't, you could give them a taste of what they do to you. When they ask you to do something, tell them to do it thereselves. But honestly, in my opinion, I think the best thing you could do, is to make new friends. Because these people, aren't your friends...friends don't treat eachother that way...they never will - not even once. I hope this helps, and Take Care!

Answer 6

You are being treated like crap and i dont like anyone to be treated like that. So whenever they TELL you and not ASK and i meen ASK NICELY then say NO! you need to talk to them and tell them that you get pused around and and you do stuff for them but get nothing in return. and if they say shut up say no say no becuz i listened to you guys talk all the time now let me talk say if we were real friends you guys wouldnt act like this and say theres nothing wrong with me theres somethin wrong wit you cuz yall dont know how to treat a friend and say dont make fun of me cuz i can do the same thing and you wont like then say if you cant treat me like a friend then we arnt friends are you lost a friend.glad to hlp ashley,11

Answer 7

All right if you really want to keep them then you got to show them your back bone and mean it. People respond to attitude, but don't come off cocky. Just let each person know individually, not collectively, that some of the things you do I take offense to and I'm not going to put up with it anymore. If they respect you they'll listen and try to change if not, then I'm sorry but it's time to slowly move from them to new people.

Answer 8

Honey, these people ARE NOT your friends. People DO NOT treat their friends the way they are treating you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It sounds like they are keeping you around for their amusement.
Gain some self respect, confidence and esteem, tell them to go f u c k themselves and find some REAL friends.
I know it sounds a little harsh, but stop letting people walk all over you and take advantage of you. If you don't put a stop to it now, I don't see a very happy future for you.

Answer 9

Your friends are idiots. I'm guessing you're like 15 or younger? Don't worry. Eventually you'll find cool people who are nice to you, respect you, and listen. True friends don't act like the people you just described. Stay strong, start talking to new people, and get yourself away from these nerds.

Answer 10

You need to re-evaluate your position on the food chain. Then make their tactics work for you. I often find that shoving attitude right back at someone with attitude is the most effective. If you play your cards right, they'll think twice before belittling you again.