what do i tell him.. i dont no how to tell him?? please help me
2006-08-05 18:25:17 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Be honest with him.
A very simple "No, I am not ready. Let's wait". is good enough. If he still tries to say "look, I told you how I felt and it is very rude of you to try to pressure me when I am not ready. Either you wait or might as well break up now since Im not going to go to next level when I am not ready to".
Stand your ground.
If he cares about you, he would respect your body and your wish's to wait and still want to be with you. Not argue. If he doesn't do that, then you obviously know he needs to mature and gain some respect.
2006-08-05 18:34:00 · answer #1 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth, that your not ready to go that far. It doesn't matter if you've been with him 2 months or 2 years if your not ready then your not ready. If he can't respect that then he can't respect you. Don't let the idea of loosing him scare you into doing anything either. You'll regret it later. You want that moment to be a certain way and a certain time no one is worth giving up your virginity.That is the one thing that is all yours and it's yours to surrender when your ready.
2006-08-05 18:42:19 · answer #2 · answered by Countrygirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bring up the conversation. And tell him " I really love you, and I know you really want to take things to the next level. But I can't. I don't feel like it's right right now. Please respect this." If you need to list reasons "because we've got our whole lives to do that" "because I don't think either one of us could except the consequences if they should happen, god forbid." That should be a good starter. You'll be able to take the converstation from there if it needs to go any farther. Whatever you do just don't give into him, or you'll regret it for the rest of your life.
2006-08-05 19:07:26 · answer #3 · answered by Bast 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him "no" you don't want to go any further, and leave it at that. You don't owe him any explanation, excuse, etc. You don't have to prove to him you love him by going further physically than you're ready to. He won't love you if you do. If he pressures you, then you know he really doesn't love you, because a man who loves you will respect you. Good luck!
2006-08-05 19:01:32 · answer #4 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him No and your not going to, if he doesnt respect it or you dont feel like you have control over your self dont be alone with him or get rid of him,
2006-08-05 18:29:11 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look okay if you don't want to just tell him straight up and if he says hes going to leave you then let him go because he'll come back don't do it until you are completely ready even if it is 100 years from now lol ...
Amanda
2006-08-06 05:08:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, I dont know what "further" is. If you dont feel comfortable doing anything, then dont do it. If he leaves you for it then he wasnt worth a crap anyway. follow your instinct.
2006-08-05 18:31:44 · answer #7 · answered by Bistro 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey child if you are in school try to make something out of yourself so you will have nice things in life..you tell him if he really love you he will wait....and if he get upset and act different he dont love you...
2006-08-05 19:31:07 · answer #8 · answered by missgoodgirl43 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just dont give in... watch the lyfe jennings video s.e.x. it's good.
but uh, tell him you're not ready. he'll backdoor with something like "but i am" or "if you loved me, you would." depending on how gutsy you are, you can retort with "well, you obviously don't love me, because you don't respect my wishes." how old are you?
2006-08-05 18:30:41 · answer #9 · answered by casadienickole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's esame as my bf went but i didnt want to go but tell him go further only to kissing no problem there. good luck
2006-08-05 20:02:21 · answer #10 · answered by john4cena2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋