I am a straight female and for the last five years, my best friend has been a gay man. He is a great guy and my life is so much richer with him in it. But last night we were at his house watching a movie and having a few drinks, and he leaned over and kissed me- really kissed me! I kissed him back until I realized what was going on- then I pulled away. He's called me twice today, but I haven't returned his call because I feel guilty (I have a boyfriend) and I'm confused. He's never shown any interest in girls before, so I don't know what to think. What should I do?
2006-08-05 18:16:33 · 20 answers · asked by Kari 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
i think avoiding him is not going to make matters any better. sure you're confused and guilty but i think that talking to him and finding out what's happening the only way to move on here. you say he's gay so it may have been a one time thing. you have a boyfriend and i'm sure he knows that since he's youre best friend and i dont think he'd do anything to let **** hit the fan between you and him.
my advice to you is to return him call and talk it out and find out what the kiss meant, if it means anything at all. he is probably feeling as confused/guilty/worried as you are.
from your description of him, he seems like a fantastic friend and you only get a couple of those in your whole life if youre lucky. so dont throw this away by not getting this issue smoothed out. good luck and let us know how it works out.
2006-08-05 18:59:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
look alotta guys have realized they feel a certain attractino towards girls after years of friendship. i don't see why this should be any different. the fact that he is gay says nothing. just think that so many straight men have realized they like men, even after 10 years or more of marriage!
maybe the fact that u guys r best buds and i suppose u spend most of the day (24/7) together, right? spending so much time with someone usually brings on atraction. don't panic just yet, though. it could be something ephimeral. sometimes we THINK we feel things and we misinterpret them as soemthing else. if on the other hand he really DOES have feelings for u, if he is ur best friend, as u say, he will understand if u tell him u have a boyfriend and don't feel right with him.
2006-08-05 21:49:06 · answer #2 · answered by bukroot 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear
First let me say that I think its wonderfull that you are so supportive of your friend. We need more people like you. Now just concider that he may be working with mixed emotions and feels comforatable with you. But also concider there is alchol involved and any time there is peoples judgement does get impaired. So I think as a friend you should talk to him tell him how you feel and ask him why he did that. It may be somthing as simple as he just wanted to see what it was like and lost control of his resonable thinking at that moment. Be flattered. But also be firm and tell him u understand but this cannot happen again.
Hope this helps you.
2006-08-05 18:32:21 · answer #3 · answered by Rob 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was definetely drunk, and may be he just found out what happened that night, and called you to try to apologize. You shouldn't feel guilty about anything :] Neither should you jump to conclusions.
2006-08-05 21:13:42 · answer #4 · answered by Daniel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he may have been drunk last night and wants to apologize to you today. Answer his phone call next time he calls
2006-08-05 19:40:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The key thing here, is beer. Beer will do anything to a person, don't worry I'm sure he's only calling to say it was a stupid drunk mistake or something.
2006-08-06 13:53:47 · answer #6 · answered by Adam G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not gay. He was just stringing you along all this time to get close. Then BAAAMM! Seal the deal! Oh, and all those guys he dated and had sex with. Just part of the master plan!!! MUAHAHAH!
2006-08-05 18:22:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL, me and my friend Julie have drunk makeouts all the time. And that"s all it is and as far as it goes. Accept it. You are his faghag and you guys have a connection. You can take it to that level but i'm sure thats all you'll get from him. I got three words for you. Get-Over-It...................
2006-08-05 20:51:14 · answer #8 · answered by doldemite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may be going through something and just wanted to feel close with someone. you really should talk to him about this. the longer you wait the harder it will be. maybe he was just curious, he's the only one who knows and he may be confused himself. good luck sorting it out
2006-08-05 19:35:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him it might have just been he got mixed up in the moment he probably feels bad about it. You'll never really know why ot happened unless you talk to him.
2006-08-05 18:21:54 · answer #10 · answered by MelC 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋