My girlfriend and I started out right. We were both virgins and we are christians. we believed in having sex with one person and one person only. We have had good and bad times but we want to make it last. We are willing to do anything for the other one and we are best friends and not a day goes by we dont help each other out somehow. This girl is my life and I she makes me so happy. I just want to know what steps I could take to be the man in her life and show her what it is to be really loved because she has treated me better than anyone ever has and I want the best for her too.
2006-08-05 18:09:42 · 7 answers · asked by DustinHastings 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Take a word of advice from a Christian husband, going on 20 years marriage with two teenage sons:
Desire God's hand in your life more than having her there. Trust that God will do what is best for you in light of eternity, and that He is not a whimisical ogre or cruel taskmaster - He wants your holiness and your happiness, and only He knows where this girl fits into that equation for your ultimate good.
You sound mature, committed and sober about this relationship. Nevertheless, realize our great journey of faith is about learning to depend more and more upon Him and less and less upon this world, our own wisdom and strength, and anything else that would detract our affections from Him.
The best step you can take for her at this point in your relationship? Desire her growth in Christ above all other things, and do whatever is necessary to make that possible.
2006-08-05 18:17:08 · answer #1 · answered by Timothy W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u are on a GREAT start..i am Just learning a lot of new things about relationships and love and religion, and how similar they are. just as u continue to work and seek to understand and accept God's Love, u must do the same for your marriage. recently i learned of Romans 5-8, where it says all the bad things u've experienced in life, turn it around so that u can make yourself Stronger. and accepting Jesus Christ died for our sins leads to us being Justified, not guilty of any sins past, present or future. understanding that leads to achieving Freedom in our ability to continue day by day, regardless of our past mistakes, to start anew as a clean, pure heart. in that way, relationships are same: finding that One person u love and cherish, should give u the Freedom to give and receive love so freely, that there is no fear, no guilt, and no hesitation that the person will reject you. when u are dating someone, u are prone to fear that the person may take advantage of ur love, and u may be scared to give them urself wholeheartedly..but once u find "the one"..it SHOULD make u feel so alive, so free, that no matter what u will do what's best for that person, and be free in ur trust that the person feels the same commitment to you.
i would say, continue on as u are, do ur BEST to do what is right and good for your girlfriend, above ur own needs, and work on the relationship until u are Sure that she also wants ur happiness above hers. that way, no matter what obstacles u face, ur covered because of the love, commitment and respect that u have for each other. and remember, a relationship IS hard work. *BUT* just as Christianity is so important in ur life to maintian that relationship w/ God, even if u fall away sometimes He is still there; so you should always cultivate and grow in ur relationship w/ ur partner ... it is Worth working and taking care of each other's needs, and if u BOTH can keep that up, nothing will ever be able to break you~~ good luck, and congratulations~
2006-08-05 18:21:16 · answer #2 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are no steps and sorry to say but your living in a dream right now and someday you will see that. You both are going to change a lot more then you have and you might grow apart all you can do is continue what you have been doing be there for each other and love each other but don't trap yourself with someone because your comfortable with each other don't confuse love with being comfortable. Good Luck
2006-08-05 18:15:22 · answer #3 · answered by MelC 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just let her know how u feel hun she will listen sit down talk about maybe an engagment, and a wedding a few yrs later show her u can take care of her and how much she is loved. thats all us females really want is to know how much or man cares and loves us. im engaged now been together for a while and know things will work out not only for me but for u too hun. so go do what u need to do.
2006-08-05 18:22:43 · answer #4 · answered by jrg20078 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the two of you know exactly what you are doing...You have had your ups and downs but you can handle anything together because you obviously love and respect each other very much...Just tell her everyday how much she means to you and you could get her a simple red rose ...Girls like flowers and it would be even more special because it came from you...Get babysbreaths with it......Sounds like you got it all under control
2006-08-05 18:17:04 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be there for her.do your thing man.high school sweethearts don't normally last,mine didn't,but if yours does more power to you.have faith,faith in god and each other.
2006-08-05 18:15:05 · answer #6 · answered by xjtlongx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your pastor andhe will direct you .
2006-08-05 18:14:11 · answer #7 · answered by ladyjane 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋