My mom knows I am gay, but the rest of the family has no idea. .. They are mostly republican and they already expressed racist remarks concerning Gay people. Should I tell them I am gay? and How should I do it? Please help
2006-08-05 17:54:34 · 18 answers · asked by pretty_lesbiian 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Personally, I think if you truly feel that some of your family member(s) is important or if you are close to some or one of them, then go ahead and tell. Its good to have your mother support you because most parents don't. Have her by your side in case things don't go right if someone trying to slap or hit you. But I'm sure you will kick some @$$ as well. hahaha I'm not a lesbian but I do support it because some of my family and friends are gay. Quite frankly, I wouldn't give a $hit if I did have family who are Republicans because that means they're just scared. They are scared to face other people that surrounds them and who they are surrounding with. They don't want to be shamed, be jugded and dissapoint others. Thats call too much F*cking PRIDE! They are only dissapointing theirselves. You shouldn't worry too much because if they are truly you're family than they should be able to accept you for who you are but I know that $hit ain't easy when it comes to talking. But on da' real, if they want you to be happy then they should be by your side. Hey, you might not have a good relationship with them after you tell them you're gay but at least they know and you don't have to feel bad from hiding it. Do whats in your heart and remember you have my support!!!! I"m proud of you because you are being true to yourself. And that is f*ucking honesty!!!! You're no different from anyone I know of. Your lifestyle status shouldn't even matter. You can do it!
2006-08-05 18:13:33 · answer #1 · answered by khmer_gurl_336 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should always make a plan for coming out before doing it. What are the possible end-results, and how will that affect your life.
Your hard-core anti-gay relatives will probably have mixed reaction to the news. Some will scorn, you some will feel sorry for you, and some may even start to look at gay people in a different light when they realize that their favorite cousin isn't straight!
2006-08-06 13:10:50 · answer #2 · answered by michael941260 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think is better to let them find out by guessing. It will be less shocking and in the end they'll get used to you being different than them. Show up everywhere you go with your loved one including family reunions or any other activity you can think of in which you know the more "Puritan" ones will be at. Your life and your happiness is not up to them. I'm not an expert or gay, but I'm 42 and pride myself in being wise (In my own mind). Have a happy life kid!
2006-08-06 01:14:20 · answer #3 · answered by Dolf-Wolf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not gay nor do I wont my daughter to grow up and be gay but if you are and it's not just a phase you're going through you should not try to hide it be proud of who you are but respect other people by not rubbing their noses in it if you liked boys you wouldn't make out with them in front of your family would you?Good luck
2006-08-06 01:04:21 · answer #4 · answered by Debbie T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You start by telling that you want to share something very important to you and that you would like for them to be respectful of your decision -- even if they do not agree with it.
And then tell them.
Stress the respectful part and keep going back to there if you need to. They will get it and you'll be surprised at how quickly life moves on.
2006-08-06 00:59:52 · answer #5 · answered by BShakey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it might be good to talk with your mom about this, or even look into some of the support groups before coming out to family that may be hostile or arguementative. depending on the relationships with your family, things may become strained, and support through that time may help. you can find many suport groups online as well as looking in your local community.
2006-08-06 03:03:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them with the support of your mom if she is willing to give it.
Be who you are despite what anyone else thinks of it. They don't have to accept it but knowing that you are gay may change the way they look at things.
2006-08-06 01:02:54 · answer #7 · answered by keimalez19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell them. You and your mom should first talk about how to tell them and i would be a BIG help if your mom told them WITH you. If she is OK with it, they will see that and be less offended or robust. Its a good starting place.
2006-08-06 00:59:21 · answer #8 · answered by michelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say if they find out they find out
You dont need to validate yourself to anyone
You have already told those that you want to know
If they cant be happy for you and accept you as you are
they arent worth it
2006-08-06 00:59:19 · answer #9 · answered by mocha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just come out and say it next time they start gay bashing
2006-08-06 02:45:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋