I've been dating this guy for a while i think he is the one..im only 17 am i really dumb or is getting married at 18 a good idea
2006-08-05 17:38:51 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wait it out. As much as I love my girlfriend and want to marry her, we're waiting until we're out of college for that. You have a lot of living left to do, so do it. Enjoy it and the freedom of single life for a while.
2006-08-05 17:45:34 · answer #1 · answered by James II 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do what you think is right for the two of you. I was 19 (my husband 17) when we started dating. We got married 1 week after I turned 22, him 19. We've been married for ten years and have 5 kids. We don't think we made a mistake. We love the fact that we beat the divorce rate for couples who marry young. So if you really feel it's the right thing to do, go for it.
I think far too many people think getting married young is a bad idea. My grandparents got married at 18, they've already passed up their 50 years.
2006-08-05 18:30:37 · answer #2 · answered by ~SSIRREN~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By asking this question, it is clear that you are not ready to get married. I personally think it's a very dumb idea to get married that young. You still have so much growning to do as an adult. You need to find out who you are as a person before you go and join in a union. I'll be 25 when I get married next summer. For me that is the perfect age. Only you can be the juge of the right time to get married. Good Luck
2006-08-05 18:03:31 · answer #3 · answered by glamr216 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on your situation and your relationship and whether both of you want to get married to eachother right now. I would suggest AGAINST that idea, just because of how much I changed from 17 to 18.
I did get married young, though. I was engaged at 19 and married at 20. I have to say that I wanted to marry him after a year of dating (when I was 18). I am so glad he wasn't ready yet, and we waited, cause we and our relationship changed so much in those couple years, and we went through some things that strengthened us and let us know that if we made it through those together we could make our marriage work. I know a couple girls who got married right after high school, and they are miserable now. I guess each situation is different.
Also, I'm very happy in my marriage, but just a thought...Even waiting till I was 20, I'll be married to my husband for probably 70 more years (or whenever we kill over). That's a super long time. No reason to rush into things.
2006-08-05 17:51:29 · answer #4 · answered by KentukeeFryedChik 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can truly never know. It's not a question of what is a "good idea". Maybe you will grow together, but maybe you will grow apart. The numbers are not in your favor. As you get older, will he and you always want the same things in love and in life? Dating is living in the word of fantasy and it is wonderful. Marriage is big time reality which can be a subtle as being hit in the head by brick or a freight train. Hold you horses, but develop an abiding love affair with this guy.
2006-08-05 17:58:28 · answer #5 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my youngest sister got married 1 day shy of her 18th bday-we found out shortly after that she was pregnant and that her new husband (who was fresh out of boot camp w/ the army) was getting shipped over to Iraq in 4 months. They have been married 17 months now and have a beautiful 9 month old son & he is returning from Iraq next month. for her all is going great so I would say it can work & if u feel deep inside that he is the 1 for u then go for it
2006-08-05 17:47:47 · answer #6 · answered by momatendofrope 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it really depends on u 2. are u 2 good at working out ur problems 2gether? do u guys fight over stupid **** all the time? do either one of u give up easy? marriage is one hell of a heard bumpy road, with the right person it can be a great ride with the wrong one damn hell and a half. good luck but both of u need 2 think about how ready u r 2 fight 2gether against all that life throws ur way.
2006-08-05 17:43:58 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Geo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Big mistake, No one younger than 25 should be married. You have yet to experience life and get your education. After you get your college degree and have started your career and you can take care of yourself the you can start leaning in that direction. You must prepare yourself for life and the only person you can count on is you, don't depend on anyone else.
2006-08-05 17:49:55 · answer #8 · answered by daveinsurprise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hunny let me tell you something i was 17 when i was first engaged and it didnt work but now im engaged again and im only 19 now so hunny if you feel this guy is the one go for it just make sure its true love. put him to a test to make sure. if you feel you should get married then do so and dont let anyone stop you. i learned all this the hard way. but i hope this will help you.
2006-08-05 17:54:36 · answer #9 · answered by jrg20078 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are too young..You haven't even seen what it is like to be away from home yet...There is so much to do and it is all fun too...Why be stuck with one person go out and check out how the rest of the people live...You have plenty of time to get married just don't do it now
2006-08-05 17:49:33 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋