Can gay guys ever eventually turn straight?

Answer 1

There is ample evidence that being homosexual is a genetic predisposition.

There is ample evidence that being alcoholic is a genetic predisposition.

There is ample evidence that being a violent criminal is a genetic predisposition.

yes they can, you are still talking about lifestyle choices here as all three chose which way they will go with their predisposition

Answer 2

I would say that you are capable of doing anything your heart desires. However, do not expect the road to be easy.

Can an alcoholic be cured?
Can a person with a serious phobia be cured?
Can a drug addict, or any addict, really be cured?
Can a person who has molested children be cured?

It's the same with being gay. You will try. At times you may think you're making real progress, but it is a battle every stinking day. Would you be happier just being gay? Not necessarily.

For your life's philosophy strive for these three things: (1) seek knowledge, truth, learn something everyday, (2) practice loving, real self-sacrifice, Jesus style, love, and (3) relish everything in the world that is beautiful. Sometimes beauty is the only thing that keeps you sane. Find beauty everywhere and in everyone.

Answer 3

It's a real tragedy to try to deny your feelings ... which never go away. Many gay lives have been ruined that way.

If other people are "happy" while I'm miserable ... how nice for them, how very very sad for me.

How do I know? A few years ago I discovered how happy I could have been my whole life. Pretending doesn't make it so.

Answer 4

Probably not, but why would I want to as I know I can fill my need for persons that care about me and love me within the gay world and probably not have to play the games played by many straight people.

Answer 5

No. They can behave as though they were straight. But they can't turn straight, any more than a straight guy could turn gay.

Answer 6

No.That's all bull"""". Unless u can repress urself so strongly that u are able to live with only a part of yourself. Like a priest, or like a kitty husband (one who goes do the shopping, cooks, and has sex with eyes wide shut)
ex-gays are actually the most unbelievable kind of people. they usually are caught or seen in gay clubs, or having quickies with the weirdest of people.
Never believe in that crap of changing sexuality.It's done by certain people, who actually hate gay people, and with the intent of winning attention to their hate spreading.

It took centuries to turn racist people into normal people (a racist is not normal), so would a lifetime be enough to change someone's sexuality?never.

Answer 7

No. There are groups that say you can -- but they are condemned by all three major associations -- American Medical Association, American Psychological Association, and American Psychiatric Association. They are also condemned by much of the mainstream Church, and many other religions.

It does not feel right because you have been taught it is not right. That has nothing to do with reality. I know I am a voice crying in the wilderness, but please listen.

There is NOTHING wrong with you. *hug* you are exactly as you are supposed to be. You can hurt yourself, hide yourself, live celibately, or even marry and live a lie -- but you will never change.

Your real choice is not whether or not to be attracted to men. If what you say is true then you are attracted to men and you will be for the rest of your life. It's natural (see Bruce Bagemihl, Ph.D. "Biological Exuberance" St. Martins Press) and its normal for homosexual people (see the American Psychological Association and American Psychiatric Association statements on sexual preference) Your real choice is whether or not to be happy.

Right now you feel like your religion is telling you that you are evil, and you feel evil. When you masturbate you feel guilty for masturbating (you've been lied to by the way, nearly all males do masturbate) and you feel guilty for thinking about guys. You want to change, not because you want to, but because you have been taught that you SHOULD want to.

There is nothing wrong with you. Many Churches embrace you as you are (United Church of Christ [not Church of Christ, the United matters in the name] is one, Evangelical Lutheran Church in America is another -- though they are not 100%, it is close; Protestant Episcopal Church is a third [again, not 100% of the parishes, but close], Metropolitan Community Church, Unitarians, Morelight Presbyterians, and on and on.) So don't think that the position your church takes is universal, it isn't.

I've included a few links below that may be of use to you. Unless you want to examine your faith itself, I do not recommend going to the site I maintain (its in my signature block). I have not been evangelical for a long time -- but that doesn't mean that I don't feel for you. The links in sources however may help you and I strongly suggest visiting them. There are also other books such as "Living in Sin? A bishop reexamines the question of human sexuality" by the Right Reverend John Shelby Spong, retired bishop of Newark (Episcopalian) -- but I doubt you can safely read books at home.

You are loved. God loves you, I love you. If you need to talk to someone who will not judge you -- ever -- email me, that's in the signature block too or IM me on the rare occasions I'm on YIM.

*hugs always*

Reyn
http://www.rebuff.org
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Answer 8

Anything is possible....


There could be snowfall on the sahara and the oceans may dry up. But you are who you are.

My follow up question to that would be. Why would I want to be straight?

Answer 9

no never, however most straight guys are only a 6 pack away from being gay!

Answer 10

People are born the way they are born. We are not like transformer toys that can go from car, to a plane to a boat. We can learn a skill like a language or trade, but we can't change our orientation. God made us the way he made us because that is how he wants us to be.