My girlfriend's father used to hit her violently, agressively and roughly, and abuse her since she was 10 years old until now, and he doesn't love her the way it has to be, he ignores her, he tells her "you're not my daughter and I don't love you". She's now 24 years old and I'm in love with her, but can't propose her since her father is behaving this way with her, please give advices so I can help her dad indirectly to ameliorate his relation with his daughter and tell her also what to do against this situation. Thank you!
2006-08-05 17:26:49 · 6 answers · asked by ferando 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
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2006-08-13 16:59:57 · answer #1 · answered by G. M. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, what you are talking about is a communication between you and him, and not he and his daughter. Go see him and tell him that out of respect, you are coming to him face to face to ask for his blessing. If he has a problem with drinking, catch him late morning or early afternoon. Maybe ask him if he likes cigars or something that you can bring as a gift if you need his signature on a piece of paper, (obviously, take the gift first).
If he is simply unresponsive, most religions that expect fathers permissions have concessions for this type of situation.
If you don't really need his permission, give it a try anyway. You've done your duty and the rest is up to him to set things straight.
Good luck.
2006-08-07 16:38:37 · answer #2 · answered by Gonzo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, your girlfriend needs help and your support. Secondly she needs self-confidence in herself. At 24 I dont know why she continues to take this from her Dad, who doesn't Love her. She needs you to take her away. As for you, you dont need her father's permission to marry her. Make the move and Change her life forever. But remember she has been through alot and need love and patience from you. The question is can you handle all that is coming your way. Thanks for asking and Aloha from Hawaii.
2006-08-14 00:26:06 · answer #3 · answered by rechsteiner1986 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your girlfriend's father needs to help himself first. he probably treats her this way because he has no respect for women, especially if he can't love and respect the woman he made! you and your girlfriend should get married and go on with your lives, you don't need someone like that around, he will only bring a black cloud over your realationship. her father will have to answer to God one day.
tell your girlfriend to forgive him because he will still have power over her. when someone wrongs you and you are mad at them, they have the power over your mind and spirit etc, when you forgive them you keep the power.
2006-08-14 00:23:38 · answer #4 · answered by Monique C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you HAVE to ask him, I really would by pass him he has messed up big time, and your girlfriend will never forget it, forgive ?? Forget, no. Just do not ask him, he's a jerk
2006-08-13 14:58:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont need to ask her father. ask her mom. i bet she doe snto want him to be apart of your new life togheter of your kdis life
2006-08-13 15:42:30 · answer #6 · answered by Rock_N_Roll_Chicky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋