im in love with my best friend and my other best friend is dating him.It hurts.was i wrong to say its ok?

Question

Im in love with my guy best friend and my girl best friend is dating him.I said it was ok because im too nice and they both know how i feel.I feel like i have made the biggest mistake of my life.and im just so sad and upset somedays i dont know what to do.and they are close to me so i see them together and happy all the time and i try to smile but it kills me.

Answer 1

its not wrong to say its okay as long as you know that they really love each other.. what is wrong is that you're torturing yourself... by letting them see how miserable is your life because of them. they might not say anything but they feel it. my advise to you is that take a while, get some space. I'm not telling you to hide because you're in pain, what I'm trying to tell you is that you deserve to be happy also. its clear that he's not for you..

the sad thing about life is that when you met someone who means a lot to you only to find out in the end that it was never bound to be and that you must let him go...and now you are face with seemingly impossible task of forgetting...you have burden yourselves long enough but you still can't get out of this emotional trap...

you must remember that the more you try to forget someone you love the more painful letting go will become...

sometimes we never had to take that person out of our hearts at all, for he will always be there, no matter how hard we try to drive that feelings away. it isn't his presence that makes this difficult, it is our stubbornness to accept out of destiny that aligns forgetting next to impossible.

the fact is that time waves us to meet a few unrightful people before meeting the right one so that when we finally meet the right person, we should how to be greatful for the gift we often times don't see the reason why we don't always get what we want, but in the end of it all, we realize that what we wanted wasn't meant for us... after all, everything happens for a reason....

remember these... if you and your best friend will bound to be together,time will tell that and i hope for the best... but now, if you see that they are both happy then... let it go and never try to do anything to jeopardize their relationship because you love that man.. believe me, it will do no good to you and will destroy your friendship. call it martyr but if you really love and value your friendship you must made a sacrifice...

but no matter what advise may people will gave you, in the end, it is your decision that follows... just do the thing that will hurt more people... ok... if you need more advise just send a massage to me... i know how you feel because i've been there before... just mail me at [e-mail].

hope we become friends,
olwen

Answer 2

You know, I'm going to go out on a limb on this one, but I think you say to him the next time you see him alone, I can't hang out with the two of you at the same time any more, because I feel pretty strongly toward you and it hurts to see you with my best friend.

At least it's honest, and it explains your behavior.

There's a chance he might say:

1) Sorry, I don't feel that way toward you -- I have this thing for her right now.
2) Wow, I didn't know. Holy crap, me too -- I was just dating her because you never asked me.
3) Well... this is awkward.

But you know, at the end of the day, do what gives you a clean conscience. You've already suffered the consequences, so how much more harmful could actually taking a risk be?

I wish you luck. I am sure I would be devastated as well.

Answer 3

tell them both your feels. Tell your guy friend how you really fell about him. Or you can tell your gal friend first how you feel about him. One least thing if you feel like you will be together and get into a relationship try your hardest to do anything possible. remember everything happens for a reason. God is telling you something like be strong i want to see your courage and stuff like that. Show God what your made of. Remember "Life Goes On" quoted by Tupac.

Answer 4

Dear friend, They say honesty is the best policy, but it is the truth that will set you free. I think you did the honourable thing, but as much as it hurts I believe that you have done a good thing for someone else, and that is what today's society has forgotten. It is not always about us, it is what we can do for others that makes it special and it goes unforgotten...

Answer 5

I know how you feel. I'm in love with my best friend, I know I'll find love elsewhere and that I should move on tho. She's told me that she loves me as a best friend and nothing more. I know what it means to feel what you feel. There's only one thing to do and it's not easy. That's move on. Try to distance yourself from him. All you can do.

Whatever you do, good luck. I mean it: Good Luck

Answer 6

well you know itsnot like thier going to get married so you can rest assured just keep telling urself that you love them both and you want them to happy but if ur really feeling uphappy tell ur friend (preferbly the girl) about how you feel about her boyfriend and that really happy for her and everything but just that she should know that you like her BF more than friend and that you like him before they started going out so it wasnt a jelousy thing and that you thought she should know. that should help:)

Answer 7

u have to get that off ur chest or it will contuine to kill u on the inside something like that u dont want to keep in cause its bad for u

Answer 8

auuhh.. friends r to have a good time.. if they r making it bad then forget friendship.. try some bruce lee moves on their faces.. satisfaction gauranteed ;)

Answer 9

don't be so stupid. just take whats u want.u can't give it up just like that.come girl show some courage.u can do it

Answer 10

Move along move alonggg.