to lead to an argument about something stupid, I'm running out of patience
2006-08-05 16:39:12 · 9 answers · asked by Texas A/C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have been married for 21 years, yes sometimes you get bored and even frustrated, but I found out that communication can be the fire to your candle when you respect each others opinion or go back to the basics. The same things that attracted you all 20 years ago are the same things you need to go back to. Play, laugh, find that one thing in common that you both love and start there. Apparently your marriage is worth saving or you would not have asked for advice. Best wishes
2006-08-05 16:50:34 · answer #1 · answered by Julie S 1 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Oh yeah, it sure is normal. The thing is that it can be fixed. It is about time to seek out a marriage counselor and go over the communication issue. The only way for a marriage to continue and grow is for both people to communicate well and both work at improving the marriage.
Your spouse is probably as tired of this as you are. Surprise them with the idea of actually going to a counselor to help improve the situation. You may find out your spouse is happy that you noticed how bad things have gotten.
2006-08-06 00:40:43 · answer #2 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oooooooo!!! Sounds like you both need a vacation from each other. If I was hangin' around the same person for 20 years, I'd be bored too!
I'd try to make some new friends, go on a vacation somewhere away from your partner and try to occupy yourself with hobbies or just other activities so you don't get on each other nerves.
Good Luck!
2006-08-06 00:57:23 · answer #3 · answered by nikki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter how long you guys are married you should be happy not bored. If you guys really love eachother you need to go to marriage counciling and work things out or its just going to get worse. Don't risk your marraige with someone you couln't get enough of at one point and that you were really happy with before. You need to do what it takes to make things better. Marraige counciling will help alot and if he isnt willing to go then go by yourself and see what they can suggest for you. Think of all the good times you used to have and how happy you were, you can work your way back to that. Don't give up. Good Luck!
2006-08-05 23:50:00 · answer #4 · answered by TAWNIE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It looks like you're in a rut, marriage isn't always great, and you should be proud to be married 20 years, that's a rarity now.
And yes marriage can be boring, but find a hobby, have lunch with a girl friend etc. Do you have children? Ask yourself if you still love each other, maybe you need counselling. Make a list of your likes and dislikes of your marriage and then weigh it out.
Also think of consequences, what would your standard of living be if you split. Unless there's nothing salvageable.........................
then you will have to make your choice. I hope you make the right one.
2006-08-05 23:49:35 · answer #5 · answered by Mightymo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When people are together for long periods of time we do tend to get bored with eachother, cause things can get to where it's like an everyday ritual, but the best thing to do is just remember what attracted you both to each other and play off of that adding new things to what you would consider something everyday.
2006-08-05 23:48:02 · answer #6 · answered by Lady_Bluerose_2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i been with my wife for three years, and until recently everything was fine, now every conversation becomes an argument fights for no reason and no subject, if this is your relationship after 20 yrs,, congrats..me?.. well you can beat a dead horse with a bullwhip until your blue in the face, and changing to a club isnt going to make a dead horse get up and pull a cart,, im about ready to give up too,my advice, seek counseling soon, my relationship is still young while it is falling apart, you two have too much invested,, good luck and hope you have many more wonderful years of happiness ahead
2006-08-06 01:14:54 · answer #7 · answered by kewl69charger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey its very normal to be bored.Why dont u add a change to your married life by going on a holiday redecorating the house and getting a makeover involve your hubby in this. by the time u have done all this u will feel like a different person and excitement will be there for both of you.
2006-08-05 23:51:44 · answer #8 · answered by chocolate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think we all get bored at times when we are married. We need to start trying to think of things to add spice to our marriage. If the only time that you talk to each other, you are argueing, then you need to get reaquainted with each other and start doing fun stuff together. Try walking together and spending quality time together.
2006-08-05 23:45:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋