My husband's mother lives 1200 miles away. She's only seen my daughter 3 times and she's now 2 1/2. She's always telling my husband she's proud to be a grandmother and asking when we'll have another baby. The problem is she makes no attempt to visit, call, write, etc. to my daughter. I email her pictures and she doesn't even reply that she looked at them. She says she buys her things but months go by and she never ships them. At this point my daughter is too young to notice, I just want her to have a good relationship with her grandmother, it's something I missed out on growing up.
Is it unrealistic to expect an annual visit and cards for birthdays and holidays? She's a teacher so she has 2 months off each summer when she could visit. We bought her and her "significant other" plane tickets once but they only stayed one night.
2006-08-05 16:33:48 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I feel sorry for you, my grandchildren 9 and 7 live more then 3000 km away and we have visited them twice a year since their birth.
It's expensive to fly there, but I want my grandchildren to know me and remember me, I want to be part of their lives and they appreciate it. I have 2 more grandchildren also 9 and 7 close by and I make sure I see them once a week.
Your mother-in law doesn't know what she's missing out on.
She seems a selfish b...!
2006-08-05 16:42:18 · answer #1 · answered by Mightymo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same thing with mine (husband's mother) except she is just 250 miles away. She sends gifts 2 times a year (birthday and Christmas) IF she remembers to ship, otherwise we have to pick it up when we visit which isn't that often since my husband's job has him working 6 days a week. She is retired, works part-time when she "feels like doing something". Our daughter is 15 so she notices how "grandmother" does and doesn't understand why she does things the way she does. When asked, she has an excuse for everything.... her loss. She's the only grandparent my daughter has left.
2006-08-05 23:50:33 · answer #2 · answered by Big-Sister 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that it's to much to want to get cards for birthdays and holidays. An annual visit may not always be possible. If you want to improve the relationship, then you start calling and keeping in touch.
2006-08-05 23:38:05 · answer #3 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should be happy to visit and write and send cards, why she don't, ask her you have nothing to loose.
2006-08-05 23:38:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
doesn't seem like much of a grandmother.
2006-08-05 23:39:13 · answer #5 · answered by annastasia1955ca 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋