we met at the local YMCA and we hung out a lot we'd swim and then when the Y kicked us out we'd go down the street and he would push me on the swings and talk. We spent hours at his house and he took me to a chick flick even though he hates them. But then we got in a fight and he left me standing in the rain crying because he was moving to maryland. Was i wrong to ignore him and not write or was he wrong to leave me there? Should i write to him? shoud i not?
2006-08-05 16:28:56 · 29 answers · asked by Whatsername 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
he chose to leave he could have stayed here and lived with his dad
2006-08-05 16:46:00 · update #1
Both of you were wrong. He shouldn't have left you standing there in the rain. How cruel. You should not have tortured him by making a scene, crying and standing there in the rain; waiting for him to rescue you by sweeping you up in his arms, kissing you passionately and carrying you home.
Did he have a choice about moving to Maryland? Probably not. You were hurt and angry about it anyway, understandably so. You ignored him by not writing to him in Maryland in order to punish him I suppose. Then, the lousy S.O.B., didn't behave like the knight in shining armor again by writing or calling you repeatedly, begging for you to talk to him. Sorry you didn't get the dramatic moment you were looking for.
Bottom line...it's over. He's in Maryland and you are not. If it's going to bug you then write him a letter of apology for acting like such a fool when he left. Otherwise just move on. Next time, think before you act and maybe the ending will be a little more romantic and little less dramatic.
2006-08-05 16:43:05 · answer #1 · answered by wibbsite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was wrong for him to leave you in the rain of all places. But I guess he lacked the sensitivity of your issue. Did he know you were crying? If so that's rather messed up. You should write him if you feel the need. If he's in Maryland and that's a bit of a way's away from you then say goodbye to him through your heart unless you feel the need to write a goodbye. It doesn't sound like you had that many special moments with him... it shouldn't be too hard to get over.
2006-08-05 23:32:40 · answer #2 · answered by gnomef0cker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG, how immature are you? He moved to Maryland, and what was he supposed to do? Not go b/c you didn't want him to? He's not your husband, and it doesn't sound like you had a very long relationship anyway. You were definitely in the wrong here, so if you want to write, then write. Does he even live close enough to you that you could keep a relationship going?
If he's that far away, find someone new.
2006-08-05 23:37:39 · answer #3 · answered by LSD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he had a better Opportunity in Maryland. Leaving you standing in the Rain was not very nice, but I don't know what you said to him. If you like to stay in touch, then write to him.
2006-08-13 22:37:45 · answer #4 · answered by lousylaus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both were wrong because first you ignore him when he was leaving. And then you made it even harder on him because you didn't even say good bye or nothing.And he was wrong for leaving you standing and crying out in the pouring rain.So I think that you should either surprise him in maryland or write him and ask for forgiveness and a 2nd chance with him.And if that doesn't work out then just asked to be friends! Good Luck!!!!
2006-08-05 23:38:28 · answer #5 · answered by daddygirl100193 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has already moved, drop it. Long distance relationships don't work....trust me. Take some time, but move on. He shouldn't have left you standing there in the rain. That is not the way to end a relationship. Leaves a bad taste in your mouth ending on a sour note like that doesn't it?
2006-08-05 23:32:42 · answer #6 · answered by a1quick57 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah, what a one sided mess this romance has taken... and the only way to fix is to find out how he feels about you. Write him and ask... and if you don't hear from him, take it as a cue to move on and live your life. And if he does still care for you, be sure you can handle a long distance relationship... because judging from your current situation... I'd say that it may be too hard on you.
2006-08-05 23:34:42 · answer #7 · answered by Whatev' Yo' 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like you two knew each other all that long. If he left you in the rain and never spoke to you afterwards or tried to, then forget it now.
If he tried to make amends to you after leaving you in the rain and you ignored him, then you can try to resume the relationship, but don't be surprised if they are ignored.
2006-08-05 23:34:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In relationship, usually both are part right, part wrong. We react based on feelings, not thoughts. In anger we tend to do things we don't mean, or different to what we would have done if we thought them through. I don't know the reason for the fight, and what thing you both said to one another.
If you like him, write him. Tell him you're sorry for whatever you feel you're sorry for (don't say you're sorry for things you felt you did right), and that you want to stay with him, and work things out.
2006-08-05 23:39:41 · answer #9 · answered by Roberto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough question. It really depends . . . you'd be swallowing your pride if you wrote but what's pride anyway? It would be "big" of you to write and tell him how you feel/felt. Honestly, what you said you used to do sounds so darn sweet, I would hate to hear that you let what you had together go because you didn't write . . . I would suggest writing.
2006-08-05 23:33:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋