I don't know what to do......?

Question

I had a baby about two months ago and the father turned out to be a bum. I've recently filled out the paperwork for child support, but have not heard anything more about it. I'm living with my parents and we are constantly fighting and they have threatened to kick me out numerous times. I work as much as I can yet still only make enough to get by with all my bills and the baby's needs. And I'm ashamed to say that I am receiving foodstamps and am currently on WIC. Is there anything I can do to get my own place? Is low-income housing an option for me?

Answer 1

yes you can apply for it, your parents shouldnt be so hard on you especially since you are struggling and doing the best you can under the circumstances, but just stay strong and keep the faith....

Answer 2

Dont feel bad about getting foodstamps and wic. They are there to help people in your situation. I am 34, reciently separated from my husband and I am in the same boat as you are. You need to speak to your case worker to find out what programs your state has for you, I get cash assistance, plus money to help me go back to college so I can get a better job to support my kids. Now would be the time for that with you since your baby is young enough to not know what is going on. By the time he/she is 5 and in school, you will have graduated, and have a job to support the two of you without worries.

Keep up the fight with Child Support, My case has been going on for almost 9 months. Keep your chin up, because when it comes down to it, he will owe you arrears, which is back child support from the date of birth of your baby, he is only hurting himself by not helping the two of you now.

As for living....You can find efficiencies or trailers to rent. since the baby is little and still needs to be near you at night, you can get by with a 1 bedroom, or studio. Sometimes they are as cheap as 50.00 a week. Depends again on where you live. If you decide to go low income housing, check out the area. You can pull police records for the area at your local police station. A few 911 calls is nothing to worry about, but if you notice that the next door neighbor has the cops there every nite for drugs, you dont want to move there. Your life will be miserable.

Just remember, the baby is young, and if you need to put him/her in a daycare (which the state will assist you with that also) so you can better improve your life, his/her life will be better in the long run.

Keep up the good work. Join a single mom's support group if you feel overwhelmed. They are great for advice and assistance.

Answer 3

hello,

dont be ashamed girl,, if you need help take whats available until your able to support yourself ok.. but yes you qualify for housing,, go and apply for it, soon like monday,, apply for all they have ok,, because some lists move faster than others,, then call the attorney generals office and find out if they received your paperwork,, dont be embarrased or think you look bad,, you deserve to have that help for your baby , you didnt get preganant by yourself,, dont cheat your baby out of that money, no matte what he promises or says hell do,, because chances are he wont come through and youll regret not going through the process,, look at which bills are really a priority,, i know your credit is important but if you can let go of some of them temporaily then do so,, because you need to save that extra money incase your parents do kick you out,, you have a baby now so sometimes,, we gotta do without to provide for our children,, and when your on your feet then you can get the process going of paying those bills you had to let go.. itll work out and hold your head up everything your doing is for your baby, and thats nothing to be ashamed of,, you being on foodstamps and wic is saying you care about your babys needs and thats nothing to be ashamed of ,, and also look into grants the government will give you free grants for school,, since you are a single parent,, so you can get a better paying job,,, and be able to live on your income one day without help,,, and that would be a great acomplishment for you and your child,,, and for anyone else who is looking down on you, they will then respect you then look down on you if you did nothing to improve youself ,so consider these programs a nudge up to the right direction ok.. good luck

Answer 4

I am a Moderator on a website that answers alot of questions for HUD tenants and people just searching for Section 8 housing. We've had alot of success with locating properties for tenants. All you need to do is go to http://www.Section8HudHomes.com website and look for your State in "Available housing by State" board. From there its only a matter of locating your city. You may also post your requirements in "I'm looking for Housing in.." board, doing this will allow us to know who is looking where and those will receive priority. We also have Assistance links for Emergency Housing, Food, Medical, etc. The Site owner, moderators, property owners and other tenants list available properties and resources daily. She even started allowing photos of the properties. Once you're there you should find more info and resources. I hope I answered your question. Good Luck.

Answer 5

don't be ashamed of getting general assistance call the srs office some one there should tell you where you could get low income housing and if your ex don't come across with some child support then he Will probably go to jail if he is working then his boss will have to take the money out of his check

Answer 6

You need to get that deadbeat father to pay up. Push the issue to get support. It took 2 to make a baby and it takes 2 to rear the child. Enough said.

Answer 7

Anywhere you go it'll cost you, your best bet is to try harder to get along with your parents. They are obviously angry and disappointed with you for going out and getting pregnant. You have their Grandchild. Their anger and disappointment will pass. You main concern should be the health and welfare of your baby. He/she is totally helpless and dependent on you. If your $$$ is not very good, then let your parents help. There is no shame for having to use food stamps and WIC. Your baby needs you and his/her grandparents right now.

Answer 8

Talk to the WIC people. Also, you may be able to get CPS in your area to help. The state attorney general can have his wages garnished for child support. Do you have any Christian friends or other family members willing to help you? I will be praying that things get better for you.

Answer 9

You can apply for low income housing. I know it's hard to make ends meet, but keep your head up, it will get better.