I need opinions from mature people?

Question

I am starting school again. 10th grade. I don't know why I am so nervous and this year my school is getting uniforms. I feel like if my boyfriend might think I look ugly in my uniform. Also, cause I cut my hair. I like how I cut my hair but he might not. I don't know why I feel like that cause all my life I have had to wear uniforms except last year and I HAVE HAD BFS AND CUT MY HAIR AND BEEN CONFIDENT AND BEen liked so why do I feel like my bf will think some other girl is prettier? I just want to get out of high school! Do you think it's stupid or do you think I am just insecure or what?

Answer 1

Do I think you're stupid or insecure? No. I think you're in the tenth grade. It's perfectly normal to experience all of these feelings. Uniforms or not. Rest easy knowing that all the other girls, and boys, will be thinking the same things about the uniforms. As far as what your boyfriend thinks: It soundslike you care a great deal about him. Your relationship with him should make you feel good though. Not anxious and afraid. So let it make you feel good and let all these nervous feelings out of your head about him getting with another girl. Everything that should happen will happen.

Answer 2

First of all, b r e a t h. Do not freak out. The start of a new school year makes everyone nervous. And if you like your new hair cut then it means it is the perfect hair cut for you, after all the most important person who has to be pleased with your hair is you. I am sure your bf will like your hairstyle just fine, and if he doesn't well boo hoo for him, he'll get over it. Now about your uniform, it is not like you have a choice, it is a requirement. Plus I think uniforms are cool, you look classy as long as you carry them with confidence, just walk like you are the coolest girl around and people will see it too. Plus in uniform everybody blends in and there is no way you can mess up and wear something that is "out of style". Now about this insecurity you have about your boyfriend thinking some girl is prettier than you, well let it go. It is just the nerves trying to come up with the worst-case scenario. We always get insane when school is about to start, it will go away in a snap. You will be fine.

Now I was going to let it there, but well, I can't help myself, so here it is. Look girl, you have to value yourself, and realize that you are great, you are unique and liked by many, and if your current bf can't see that and thinks he can do better than you then tell him to hit the road. There are more where he came from, and you don't need to be with a guy who can't see how lucky he is to have you. So there... I can breath now LOL... Good Luck becoming the person you want to be. ♠

Answer 3

You are insecure, but it is part of being your age. You said the most important part when you said "I just want to get out of high school". Assuming you mean "get through high school", then you should dump the boyfriend if he gives you the least amount of trouble (what are the odds you are going to be together after you go to college or to a job?), your hair will grow out again and again. The worse you look in your uniform, the more the boys will hopefully leave you alone until you can get out of school and build your own life, the better you look, the more points you get from teachers. Either way, you win.

Answer 4

If it's how you are feeling, then of course it's not stupid.
What should be important though, is that YOU like your hair. If your boyfriend truly cares about you, he will like it no matter what.

Everyone has to wear a uniform, and usually they look terrible on everyone, but once again, if that's the only thing your boyfriend cares about, then you are better off without him.

Be yourself, be confident and be strong.. and if you can't.. then FAKE it.
If your boyfriend is a nice genuine guy that really cares about you, he'll think you're fantastic no matter what.
And if he's so shallow that he would break up with you over something so trivial, then he is not the one for you, and you will find yourself someone else who's the right one for you.

Good luck, and try not to worry so much, high school will be over before you know it :) and for me.. life STARTED after high school.

Answer 5

You are just a tad insecure. Don't fret the uniforms. I think uniforms are sexy. If you boyfriend doesn't like your haircut, then he is only seeing you for your outside qualities and not the inside qualities. Yes image is a lot, but if one can hold a conversation, then what good are they.?

Stop worrying about what others will think. I used to do that and not I could give 3 sh!ts. And.....don't wish your life away. I am 39 and wish I could have some years back.

Answer 6

What are you 16? 15? It's perfectly normal to feel insecure about the way you look. I'm more concerned about your feelings about your boyfriend. If looks is all he's interested in......my goodness, let him go. There will always be someone more thin, more pretty, or something more, more, more. Friend, all you can be is yourself. Learn to find someone who likes what YOU are and what YOU are all about. Then when those other "More's" come along.....you have nothing to worry about. Also, check out some books on building up your self esteem. This is really where it has to start. You can conquer the world.....when you learn how important and beautiful YOU are. Hope this helps.

Answer 7

coming from a girl just our of college, I can say everything your feeling/thinking is totally normal. Most people have insecurities about different things in high school...even their entire lives...but high school is a time when people act like if you do the wrong thing or look the wrong way, you're not cool enough. I think you should just do what makes you happy, and if your boyfriend isn't cool with that, then you could do better, but that's what people are always saying. the old "be yourself, and if he doesn't like it, he's not worth your time" thing.

The decision is really yours. but that's just it. it's YOURS not your bf's or your friends or anyone else's at school. You get to decide how to cut your hair and how to feel about yourself. The pressures of high school are overwhelming someitmes, and you might not always feel great about yourself or your image, but looking back from just a few years ago, I can say that highschool was just a few years of life that don't matter too much anymore. I had boyfriends all through high school, too. I had insecurities, but I tried to be myself, a person I was happy with. And now I'm married to someone I didn't date after high school. I;ve hardly ket in touch with most of my friends from high school. people move away, life goes on, you make new friends, and you have to be yourself and be happy with yourself to be really happy in life. Life is crazy. I don't think it's worth it to try to impress everyone--what fun is that? Just enjoy life!

Answer 8

Get over it girlfriend. Your hair will eventually grow back and you can always replace your boyfiend. Your education is forever. Without one you will probably be stuck with a man who WILL be critical of you and you will have to put up with it cause he is supporting your but and 10 kids. Be realistic you aren't the only one with short hair and it doesn't make you ugly. Girls tend to think that men only like them with long hair. Having short hair just means your are confident enough and don't have to hide behind it. If he can't see that then you don't need him. Stay in School you'll regret not having a prom.

Answer 9

My daughter is in the 11th grade this year, no uniforms and she's letting her hair grow (finally!) and I will tell you the same thing I tell her, if the guy really likes you, it won't matter what you wear or how you style your hair, he will still like you because if he doesn't then he is basing his likes/dislikes on your appearance and not YOU as a person so you don't need someone like that anyway.

Answer 10

I don't think you are insecure as much as you are focusing too much on what other people think. you have a long time left to grow up and find the right hairstyle or bf. If your bf is loose enough to be swayed by some other "prettier" girl, then he is just not ready for a significant other in his life anyway. You have a long time to go...enjoy life!