He died a couple months ago..this was the first time i heard the song, 2 of our friends performed it for his burial..it was Black Crowes she talks to angels..they rewrote it a little..replace she with he...but I miss him..how do you deal with it when someone committs suicide?
2006-08-05 16:16:52 · 10 answers · asked by hahaha 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
He was 29 years old.
2006-08-05 16:18:06 · update #1
I really am reminded of him at times I listen to the music that was played at his funeral, or when I see his girlfriend..who happens to be a good friend...I will get over it, but I wish I could have helped hime when we saw hime the weekend before it happened he said everything was going great..not sarcastically either..
2006-08-05 16:23:24 · update #2
wow i spelled him wrong twice..sorry all.
2006-08-05 16:24:27 · update #3
Damn girl I know what you are going through.
Time my dear is the only thing that dulls the hurt.
A piece of you and your life goes with a person when they check out.
I would give you a hug if I could.
I know the pain you are feeling right now and I would not wish that on my worst enemy.
2006-08-05 16:22:39 · answer #1 · answered by Biker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the others that time, talking to friends, and writing down your memories or feelings about your friend and his death can really help. My friend died of cancer last fall. She was 26 and still quite the newlywed with the sweetest husband and 2 year daughter. At her wedding instead of one of the traditional recessional songs, she and her hubby chose Barry White's "You're the First, the Last, My Everything". I cannot hear that song now without tearing up. I find though that with time it's more of a happy "Wow she was one of a kind. That song was perfect for them. Remember when she said this or did that?" kind of thing.
Hang in there, pal. You're gonna do just fine.
2006-08-05 23:36:12 · answer #2 · answered by L.B. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost a dear friend years ago (to a car accident....not suicide) It takes a long time to feel better, and you will actually feel worse before you feel better. That's because the shock wears off and you have to actually deal with the pain for awhile. Hang in there, though. It does get better. Eventually, you will mostly remember the good times and the pain will subside. For now, just embrace the pain and cry as much as you need to. It's your heart's way of healing.
2006-08-05 23:22:17 · answer #3 · answered by Schleppy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
suicide is hard enough and the age too. Believe it or not time heals and talking with shared friends helps the mourning process. We put flowers on our friends grave together and it gets easier each time. We even shared a favorite beer with him. We talk to him. Keep laughing ha ha ha it will get better :-)
2006-08-05 23:23:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry your friend died. Put on some music that makes you happy!
Write him a letter! Its very cathartic! When my father died I filled a couple of journals with letters to him. Just talk to him as if he were there. It will help! I promise! Hugs to you!
2006-08-05 23:22:05 · answer #5 · answered by Ambervisions 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just had a friend that tried to OD last weekend. That was kind of weird. If you figure out what you do, let me know. Otherwise, I'm going to just keep on living...keeping my eyes opened wider next time. Best I can do, ya know?
2006-08-05 23:20:45 · answer #6 · answered by bio_curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Death is hard to deal with, no matter how it comes.
take comfort in knowing that "he" is truly living now.
the bible tells us that our life on earth is a "vapor"
meaning, that it is gone before you know it. enjoy your life while you are still here. live it everyday like it is your last.
remember that a funeral is not the end, but it is a ceremony , if you will, to celebrate and reflect on that persons life. to remember the good times that you had with them.
try not to dwell on the sadness of it, I know its easy for me to tell you this, and its probably not much comfort to you. but this person is now free and is experiencing far more beauty that we can not even begin to fathom. some even believe that they are angels watching over us. its OK to believe in whatever comforts you, try to focus on the good times that you had, and try to think that "he" might want you to live happy with your friends and family, for "his" sake. you will be in my prayers tonight. I hope that you find comfort in my words, or that someone else on here can offer you some comfort my friend.
rest in peace tonite, and enjoy your life. for his sake. :)
2006-08-05 23:27:52 · answer #7 · answered by babydoll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't think of their death, think of their life. My father died of cancer and for 10 years I cried about him when I thought about him. Then I finally realized, that everytime I thought about him, I was thinking about the last part of his life. Now when I think about him, I push those thoughts away and think about who he really was, and that puts a smile on my face.
2006-08-06 22:36:17 · answer #8 · answered by Just Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to a therapist. They will really help you put things in perspective. Don't be embarrassed to ask for help. That's what they are there for!
2006-08-05 23:22:17 · answer #9 · answered by Who, me? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This too shall pass.
2006-08-06 15:22:27 · answer #10 · answered by tyrone b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋