we just turned 18 yrs old but weve been together for almost 6 yrs and we want to move in together, so how do i get my moms approval and convince her that im mature enough for this big step in my life???
2006-08-05 16:08:05 · 15 answers · asked by Lia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Your 18.. you don't need your parents permission.. however, if your going to act like an adault... don't be suprised if she expects you to support yourself.
Here is some advice... don't be in such a hurry to move out... when you don't have to. I moved out at 17 to go to college... it was all fun.. but with that fun comes LOTS of bills. Its not just rent... its rent, electricity, car (including gas, insurace), cable, water, gas, food, clothing, etc. All those bills add up real fast. If you have the option to stay... stay right where you are and save your money so you won't have money problems later. You and your bf should set away money so when the time really is right you can move out and not have to worry about the finaces. The best way to show your mom that you are ready to move out is to be responsible doing it!
2006-08-12 17:55:05 · answer #1 · answered by giggleglit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically you want to ask your mom if after six years of being with the same guy if it's alright to go ahead with the sex.
Move where? Into your bedroom or his?
You don't say whether either of you work and did not indicate whether you two have shown your parents how responsible you are. Other than not getting pregnant in all this time......which is a good thing. However, you think you might be mature but there are lots of other consequences that may arise with you wanting to take this step.
Further your education, get a job, get your own place. All this will show your mother you are mature and responsible. If after two years of being independent and you still want to take in your boyfriend.....go ahead!
2006-08-13 02:37:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why ruin a good relationship with your boyfriend by moving together at such a young age and, ruin your relationship with your mom as well. If you think you have to convince her to o.k the subject and all that see there y'all go a disagreement. A big giant unnecessary argument. Be patient. Stay young and at home as long as you can. 20 YRS FROM NOW YOU'LL BE BEGGING YOUR MOM TO LET YOU COME BACK HOME. Being grown up ain't all it's seems to be. I promise you. Stay at the crib.
2006-08-13 15:07:42 · answer #3 · answered by Mee Mee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am assuming that you still live at home and don't have enough to move out on your own? You need to respect your mom's house rules and significant life experience knowledge -- she is looking out for your welfare. Given that you both seem too immature at this time -- she is most likely going to say NO to this idea -- because she is AFRAID that not only will you do this, but that you will rely on her to support any child that could come along, and the number of girls who believe the lies of the males is astounding -- and these guys disappear as soon as a girl becomes pregnant.
So ... NO -- do not do this yet! You need to stand on your own two feet and provide for yourself and a separate place to live before you can make life-altering decisions like this.
2006-08-05 16:20:49 · answer #4 · answered by sglmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the six years proves at least that you're commited, so that should help to win mommy over... but maybe you should move out on your own first and than move in with your boyfriend later, when you've become more stable and experienced. Than you would have something as your foundation, just in case God forbid, you and your boyfriend take a turn for the worst. But if you're dead set on moving in with him, than just go for it, you don't really need your mom's approval..you're legal. But just tell her you're serious about him and that you'd just like to be able to live out your life as an adult... good luck! =)
2006-08-05 16:17:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can show her by getting your own place & support yourself. Once you rely on yourself you will show that you have matured. You also should get engaged & while you guys are planning the wedding you can find an apartment to move in to together - get married & THEN move in together. Your mom would probably appreciate that most.
2006-08-05 16:15:26 · answer #6 · answered by Kat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just turned 18 and think you're mature enough? Hahahahahahahahah!
Thanks for the laughter and the 2 points.
2006-08-05 16:13:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand you love him and its been six years, but i think you should be married before living together. if you guys are that serious to live 2 gether, than why not marry? living together is a big step. you really need to evaluate where you stand with this guy before living with him. it is not about what your mom will say think or do. its about your future and rather this guy is the one. if he loves you enough to live with you, why doesnt he ask you to marry him? what does he want out of this relationship?? you need to check with him. goodluck
2006-08-05 16:23:40 · answer #8 · answered by lostbmt 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well been 18 is enough and uve been with ur partner 6yrs i think thats enough good luck and i hope ur mom will b happy
2006-08-13 09:46:58 · answer #9 · answered by juicylucy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say im leavin mom she has no right to hold u back and whanot b/c ur an adult now so say B UH BYE ur 18 u can do what yah want please dont tell me ur a verigan case im not evan gona hellu ask ur motter to have sex man
2006-08-11 21:45:59 · answer #10 · answered by Trix 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋