My husband cheated on me over 6 mos. ago. I forgave him.He complained that I wasn't sexually adventureous enough. So I did as he asked. I never felt comfortable with his need for kinky sex (I even asked yahoo answers for guidance.) But it wasn't enough for him. He wanted more and left.
Afterwards, I started drinking. Anything to make the hurt and shame go away. Eventually my drinking found me in the arms of a girl. She slowly seduced me and I took the bait. and before the night was over her brother crawled into bed with us. I wish I could say I ran away from the foul situation but I didn't. The next day I laid with them again and again. I know this is a sin but the pull of it is so great.
I can't stop myself from seeking them out at nights. and they are willing to take me. but what we are doing is wrong and yet I love it. what should I do? its wrong but I'm happy.
2006-08-05 15:46:35 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It seems that you might now qualify to be "adventurous" to your husband. Perhaps you should admit to him what you have done and see if it will get you and him back together. Naturally, he is going to want you to continue in that type of sexual situation, but at least you will be together. I know you are going to say that it isn't like you to do this, but you have chosen to do it without him; why wouldn't you do it with him? Even if the two people are your kids. good luck
2006-08-05 16:23:58 · answer #1 · answered by marks3kids 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've started with the wrong step. Thats not the appropraite way in finding happiness. When u r in this situation, 4 which u couldn't get it from ur husband, u totally fell into it enjoying it, giving urself good reasons 4 not doing it next time, but failed! Still the problems is there! What ur husband needs is some changes in sex life, not once, but on & off. Why not u try something beyond his expectations! A little changes in ur ownself, starting with a change - 1st from the wardrobe. Turn out something sexy. From lingeries 2 outfits. Make the 1st move b4 he does. Look 4 his reactions, when he starts, then, that's the good sign 2 u. Continue 2 make him falls into ur dreams! Remember that the pictures always reveal both of u, & never thinking of what u've done outside, or else u destroy everything! This is the starting point u've 2 do. Always make the 1st move, making him curios & more attracted 2 u. Don't give up if 1 time fails. U still can win back ur husband's heart & trust. Hope u get what I meant. Good Luck.
2006-08-05 23:56:53 · answer #2 · answered by cancerlady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oops...you did it again!?!?
Give me a break. So, you're happy. Who are you hurting? You are the only one that can determine that. If it's wrong, then stop it. You are an adult and they are consenting adults, right? Is this hurting you? One or both or them? Anyone else? If no, then quit worrying about it and go with it; if yes, then stop it, immediately, you know how, you just don't want to.
If this continues to bother you so much then you should seek therapy to find out why you keep up with the self-destructive behavior.
2006-08-05 22:57:34 · answer #3 · answered by wibbsite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From the questions you've asked before, this question has me wondering. I am truly hoping these people you are going to bed with aren't your children. If they are, then it needs to stop now.
I could be wrong.. and if I am.. I truly apologize. But you didn't say that these people were friends of yours.. or how you knew them or where you met them. But one of your previous questions was about catching your two children in bed together...so from there I made a connection. Maybe I just need more information.
2006-08-05 23:02:52 · answer #4 · answered by Mary J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are just lonely right now and you crave affection and these people are giving it to you, maybe not in the right way. You need to go to your Dr. first and get some anti -depressants. Then you need to seek out a church and maybe join it. Then you need to just go on with your life. You will find someone out there who really loves you and cares about you. There are plenty of fish in the sea. Just make sure you have more in common with the next one.
2006-08-05 22:53:22 · answer #5 · answered by gee-geeofmo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not judgemental, as long as you're getting some happiness from a bad situation, enjoy it for what it's worth, then when you want to move on, do so.
Now aftre reading someone else's response, how are you seeking them out at night with 2 kids?
If this is your kids -- then you ned to get help, for ALL THREE of you ASAP!!! Yesterday in fact!!
2006-08-05 23:07:24 · answer #6 · answered by hexus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find it amazing that you have all this incest going on around you.
In a prior post you complained about your children (a boy and a girl) having sex with one another, which forced you to have to peek through the windows in order to catch them.
Now you have managed to crawl in bed with a brother and sister.
I think you are a dirty old man who is getting off on posting incest stories on yahoo.
Loser.
2006-08-06 12:03:51 · answer #7 · answered by BoomChikkaBoom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have issues
2006-08-05 23:01:22 · answer #8 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thiir not your freinds tell them to get lost or move and take time out
2006-08-05 22:57:03 · answer #9 · answered by DOLL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know it's wrong, stay away from them.
2006-08-05 22:53:06 · answer #10 · answered by Jeannie K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋