How do you help your mother build self esteem and confidence?

Question

My mom doesn't really have any friends and she worries to much. she is in her mid 50's and currently i support her. she has been looking for a job but no luck... i do things like say nice job and complement her a lot on the stuff she does...
I love her very much and i want to see her happier and with friends..., but how does someone make friends at 50? Just need some few hints and idea's thanks

Answer 1

Good luck with your mum. Just relish your time together now. Be her friend and confidant, while asking her advise on things that you really dont need help with. That will help her think she is still NEEDED. My mum has been dead for five years now, and I miss her still very much. best wishes

Answer 2

Encourage her to volunteer some time helping others. She'll be doing something constructive, meeting people, being useful. It might make her feel better. She would meet people, maybe someone who can help her find a job. If she doesn't like the situation of living with you, on your nickle, then she's probably depressed. regular exercise and B vitamin supplements can help.

I don't know the exact situation, but I can't help but notice that you are parenting her and I wonder how long that has been the case. And if you are supporting her, what motivation does she have to do it herself? She might be perfectly happy where she's at doing what she's doing.

Good luck to both of you.

Answer 3

If she isn't a social person, it will be very difficult. Some people are genuinally happier by themselves. If she has low self esteem, going out with people will only make her feel worse. It isn't a good feeling when you think everyone around you is looking down on you. Talk to her about your feelings on thins, get an idea of whether or not going out would even interest her. If you're all she has, don't push her into doing something she isn't comfortable with.

Answer 4

Take her to places where there are people her age (like bingo). Try giving her things around the home to keep her mind off her self.There is not really that much more you can do for her. She needs to get out more and get her self a life. I was like her after a injury that stoped me from working at 39. I finally found me after about 15 yrs of driving everyone nuts around me.I still do but not as much.

Answer 5

my mom had low self esteem because of my dad's constant abuse. What i did was i didnt allow no one to put her down and when they did i stood up for her even own family members. I would talk to her constantly about how she raised me and when i was with other people i would allow them to see all the things i learned from my childhood and they would tell my mom what a good parent she was. my mom has took a long time to get over all this stuff but shes starting to be able to stand up for herself.
I felt if my mom couldnt believe in herself the least she could have belief in she did a good job raising me.

Answer 6

Do this with her, I guarantee it will change both of your lives.

Go to a mirror look deep into your eyes(not at your eyes) and say I love you, I honor who you are and what you are.

Do this right before you go to bed, and as soon as you get up. Do this for ten days, watch what happens.

Answer 7

Seniors citizens group, church group, activities where ladies her age get together and do things if nothing more than coffee, tea and chat, card bowling...good luck

Answer 8

take her out, introduce her to people. Keep on complimenting her, but don't allow her to become to dependent, because she just might like it that way. She doesn't really have to do anything to take care of herself. It looks like you two switched rolls.

Answer 9

Talk to her,you could also try to go on with your classmates and do some recreational activities with her.

Answer 10

TRAVEL - SEE THE WORLD ! A CRUISE IS A GREAT PLACE