This is for the African American women?

Question

I wanted to know what do African American women look for in a man. Because in my relationship I do alot for my girlfriend that most men now a days dont do I cook for her, rub her feet, write her poetry, even though my finances are tight these days I make sure that she has my last dollar, I even eat her best tasting dish(if you know what I mean) anytime she wants me to. My whole life is her I want nor need anyone but her and without her I would have no heart, but I dont think she feels the same way she says she does, but she frequently tries to put me down, she frequently ignores my phone calls, and she tries to make it seem like what I do for her doesent mean anything since I cant give her everything that she wants financially. So I just wanted to know what do black women want in a black man because im desperately trying to please my girl, but the more drama she creates the less I think I can take. It hurts to luv someone but they dont luv you back. Thanks in advance for your comments.

Answer 1

Damn, I'd want all you just said!! She a ***** who don't deserve you if she's being ungrateful!! You a diamond in the rough my brotha, don't loose hope!!

Answer 2

We want a man like you. But let's be clear. Not all Black woman are mature enough to handle that and some are just plain insensitve. Dont get me wrong, its good to have a man with "endz" but its better to have a man who is devoted to you. Too many women are into the monetary thing. Compatability, a good sense of humor, mutual trust and support will see you through the hard times. Give me a man who will do that any day.

Yes, it is very painful to luv someone who doesn't feel the same. Trust me, I know. But the sooner you let go, the sooner you can meet the woman who will appreciate you for you. One more thing, I LOVE Black men with all my heart and hope that they love us just as much but look for the "person" who will make you happy regardless of color. My preference will always be a Black man but if someone else comes my way, I will go for it. And I hope you do too!

Answer 3

Well, I think some women in general always have a problem with a man or their significant other when they seem to be too perfect. Sometimes they find that a little boring; I don't know why because that is what everyone dreams for, the perfect one. Maybe you should spice things and don't always be so sentimental. Maybe she needs some drama to wake her up; otherwise figure out why she is ignoring you. If you two can't communicate and work out than bounce. Not every African-American woman is like this, learn to extend your options; maybe she is not the one.

Answer 4

I'm curious to know why you would want someone who frequently puts you down, ignores your phone calls and is a gold digger. It's one thing to know how to treat a lady, regardless of her ethnicity, but you also have to love and respect yourself. When your love and attention is not reciprocated (sp?) that's not a true love relationship. A true love will appreciate you for who you are and not only for what you can do financially; meaning that sometimes instead of a steak or lobster dinner out on the town, you'll have a burger and a block buster night. Hopefully you'll get to the point where you realize that it's OK for someone to love you back and respect you the same way you do them and you will pursue that relationship instead of settling for someone who has made it clear that she doesn't love and respect you.

Answer 5

Good luck with that playa. I know you are in love and I dont even know how old you are, but I know that you are too young to have to put up with anyone that doesnt appreciate you. Relationships should be give take. More than likely as a man you are probably going to give more but she needs to appreciate everything that you do and try to do for her. I cant wait to see how many women respond to you saying they wish they had a man like you. Imma have to take some notes from you. But yeah man, you definitely being taken for granted, its on you how you fix the prob.

Answer 6

While it is true that everything you are doing for your lady is FANTASTIC, it takes more than love to have a strong, lasting relationship. This DOES NOT mean you have to be rich, but you do need to be financially stable and have a steady job in addition to the loving things you do for us. All women, need to know that they can count on their man to support them when they get married and start taking care of your children.

A real man would never want or force their wife to work rather than stay at home and raise their children. You should not want to be with a woman who would rather have a stranger or anyone else raise your children. Again, you do NOT have to be rich to accomplish this, just responsible. I speak from experience.

Both my husband and I were raised in the ghetto and poor, but if we were to have children, I would stay at home and we would be O.K. and we do Not have high paying jobs, but we work together to control our fiances.

In other words, don't marry a gold digger or a lazy woman. She should also be working and be educated before you get married and only AFTER the children come should she stop working.

This is not only what we look for, but what we NEED.

Good Luck!

Answer 7

Sweetheart, you are doing all the right things. I think you know what's up. Some women are simply shallow. She doesn't see what's inside you. She wants trinkets and baubles. If my man would go to those lengths to make me happy and give me pleasure, I would surely marry him. Money can be made. Things can be obtained. Love and passion are fickle. You might get it, you might not.

You need a woman who will truly see you as who you are inside and keep you motivated and show some appreciation. This one you're with, doesn't give a damn. She just wants things, that's it.

Answer 8

You are doing everything right! The question is not how to please and African American women, but why would any women treat her man this way. You deserve better. I wish that there were more brothers out there like you.

Answer 9

Damn shes gonna regret it once u meet a real loving,,considerate African American woman that appreciates u,,,trust me she'll want u back, only if u realize u deserve better,,Brothers like u are hard to come by.

Answer 10

you're black & you like black girls. AMAZING. wow. I can't believe she does not treat you right. that's terrible. you're like one in a million type of black guy. well you should start shopping for other black women. hey, me.