Should I have sex wit him?

Question

It's this boy who everytime I go 2 his house he always trys 2 have sex wit me. I'm 13 and I know i should't be doing this or even thinking about this. But it's like when I get around him I can't help think 2 give in 2 him sometimes.I don't know what 2 do. I know if i do it wit him everybody gon know about it . What should I do

Answer 1

ur 13 n stupid. ur gonna end up pregnant probably. i lost my virginity at 13 n it sucked. ur not missing on anyything that great, trust me. if u just have sex for the hell of it, its just gonna be embarrassing. wait for sumone u really love, which means dont do it when ur 13.

n dont let him make u do it, he just wants to get in ur pants. once he gets wat he wants, he'll leave u n tell his friends n rumors will start n it'll all suck.

Answer 2

No. You're 13, for goodness sakes. Yeah, that doesn't mean everything, but there are emotional consequences that you aren't ready for. Nothing against you personally. The human mind, no matter how mature someone is or seems, is not fully mature until our twenties. Obviously people are having sex earlier than that, but by 16-18 at least, emotional development is to a decent enough stage that we're better equipped to handle the emotional consequences of having sex. Trust me, it's a good reason to hold off. Not to mention, even with birth control accidents can happen. Don't take the chance. Just abstain. And remember, no matter what he may say, no means no, and if he still pursues sex with you even after you say that, leave. If he even -pressures- you into sex after saying no, that counts as rape. It makes you feel horrible and will be with you forever. Staying away from guys who are always after sex is a good idea, no matter how much of a friend you think they are. If they're real friends, they wouldn't pressure you.

Now if you do end up having sex, because I know chances are you won't heed our advice, or even might end up getting carried away in the moment, set one hard-fast rule: you guys don't do it unless he wraps it. Get on birth control at planned parenthood or a similar place if it's available (most of the time, you don't need to tell your parents and you can get it for cheap or even free). And even if something like that doesn't exist in your area, or even if you do get on the pill, use condoms to be safe. Don't take the chance with withdrawl. I don't care what he says about how careful he is, or the research that says pre-ejaculate doesn't contain sperm. A guy can ejaculate a small amount and not even know it! It's one of several things which account for the failure rate, even with perfect use. Just remember, don't chance it: wrap it.

Answer 3

You are too young to put that kind of burden on yourself and afterwards you will regret it. I know saying that is hard to believe but take it from someone who has gone through it, sex is something you should always wait for because for guys it is one thing and to us girls its another and you will regret it, do not go to his house anymore. Wait until your matured at 13 it will make you feel so bad afterwards and there are so many other things to consider a baby, sexual diseases, its just not worth it. Be a kid you really don't need all that crap that goes along with having sex at that age.

Answer 4

wow ... you are 13... that shouldn't even be on your mind don't make the same mistake i did i lost mine towards the end of 14 and i am only 15 now . i regret it so bad its not even funny if i could go back in time i would .. you are going to meet so many new guys in life it ain't even funny highly doubt you'll be with him for the rest of your life so my best advice is too wait. peer pressure you'll learn comes alot in life especially your high school years and between the ages of 14-21 drinking.drugs,sex,parties, all of them plus more don't let ppl mess your life up okay ... do the right thing you seem to know what the right thing would be to do . just tell him straight up no that your not ready and if he don't understand and he leaves you than you don't need him anyways ... good luck :)
-Amanda

Answer 5

seriously if I were u I wouldnt do it! I know it is tempting I have been in that situation alot but not when I was 13! I just turned 17 and that sort of thing started happening a few months ago! u r 13!! just remember that when u lose it its gone forever and u cant take it back!

Answer 6

hey there.first of all it sounds like he pressures u a bit and thats no good.second of all ur only 13!he doesnt love u otherwise he wouldnt pressure u.if he loves u he'd wait till ur ready.guys like 2 chase but once the chase is over and they get what they want hes just gonna push u away.i think u should wait.c how he reacts if u tell him ur not ready, if he understands then great but most will just find someone else to chase.think b4 u act ok.good luck!

Answer 7

If this boy is not willing to respect your body and you than hes not worth it. It is ok to have a friendship with a boy but once it comes to this boy wanting sexs expesially with you only being 13 its wrong you are way to young and what if this guy was to get you pregante you wouldn't be able to take care of your baby because you are still in school. Sexs should be saved till marriage this is my suggestion wait on God and he will bring you that man of God YOUR HUSBAND who will respect you and respect your wishes for saving sexs. If this guy is pressuring you or if you feel pressured to have sexs with him everytime your around him than maybe you shouldn't be around him..

Answer 8

It's hormones mixed with Satan talking to you. Think with your mind not your body hun. You'll so regret it in the end if you don't. Plus, chances are, the minute you have sex with him, he'll just leave you for some other girl. And you and I both know you don't want to deal with a broken heart...escpecially at your age. Just wait until you're older, or better yet, married.

Answer 9

When you are 13, pregnant and most likely got std from him since I doubt you are the only girl he wants to do this with, I highly doubt he would want more sex with you unless you are an "easy put out".

Learn a few things about males before you try to be sexual with them.

Answer 10

you need to sit him down and let him know the deal. tell him that you like him (if you do), but you not trying to be wit him like that. if he starts to pressure you leave his house.if he really wants to be with you and not get with you he will stop. i have been in a similar situation and i have had friends in the same situation, i have also had male friends get pissed at the girl and they start tellingg everybody. Sometimes guys just tell just to be tellin. It's some male ego thing. I think it just so they can say "i f***** her" and kinda use you as a trophy. E-mail me if you want to chat.

Answer 11

Totatally, you should jump on and ride the train, you will love it, and make sure you go down on him, guys love this, and tell him you want him to tell you what to do and be his little sex slave. Donesnt it sound fun already? I think I am gonna get myself some. Dont wear a rubber it takes away from the feeling.