I'm having a baby but my parents don't know. What should I do?

Answer 1

I suggest you let them know. They are your parents and I don't know your situation but despite everything they are going to find out sooner or later and the sooner the better, let whatever has to happen, happen now instead of later when the baby is here. Good luck!

Answer 2

Definitely DO NOT abort!! There are people out their that want children very badly and for different reasons cannot have one unless they adopt. However, I am not saying that you give it up for adoption. You absoloutley have to tell your parents. The sooner the better, no matter what the circumstances. If they really love you unconditionally, they might be mad at first, but then they will look at the bright side. But if you don't tell them soon, once they do find out they will have trouble trusting you. However, I do know it is easier said than done. If for some reason you and your parents decide it wouldn't be best for the child if you kept it, I would give it up for adoption.If you do keep it, make sure the father is involved with everything, and when it is born, don't hand it over for the parents to raise. That happened with my cousin when she was 16, and 5 years later she has decided she wants it back. Now everyone including me despises her cause we never see the child now.Good Luck!!

Answer 3

Well you have three choices:

1. Abortion-An abortion is the removal or expulsion of an embryo or fetus from the uterus, resulting in, or caused by, its death. This can occur spontaneously as a miscarriage, or be artificially induced through chemical, surgical or other means. Commonly, "abortion" refers to an induced procedure at any point in the pregnancy; medically, it is defined as a miscarriage or induced termination before twenty weeks gestation, which is considered nonviable.
There have been various methods of inducing abortion throughout history. The moral and legal aspects of abortion are the subject of intense debate in many parts of the world
I would do this if you are too young to have a baby. In most states you don't need a parent signature, just your BF's.

2. Tell them. Let the truth be heard and explain your motives and/or problems. Tell them that you can work through it and maybe abort/give to foster parents.

3. Let them find out. They are going to find out sooner or later with the vomitting, mood swings, and bump.

I'm sure it will all work out fine, and you will be laughing at this in the future.

PS. Ignore all those mean comments. It's tough to tell your parents things they may be concerened or angry about. They don't know how it feels, they just want to take their 2 points. I care about you and would like to see what happens in the future. I am here to talk if you need somebody, even though I'm a stranger. I hope you'll be okay
~Nick

Answer 4

You should tell your parents. That's the best way, only if you decide to keep the baby. I went through the same thing when I was about 10 or 11 weeks pregnant. It's the best feeling ever. I was really scared at first but they took it very lightly. I thought they were going to yell at me and do this and that but it never happened. They accepted me no matter what. My parents are VERY STRICT by the the way. Well, it depends on the parents. So, GOOD LUCK! =)

Answer 5

You need to tell your parents right away for your sake and the health of your baby. You also need to see a doctor for a prenatal exam and find out how far along you are or if there are any problems with the pregnancy that a simple home pregnancy test won't reveal, i.e. if it's an ectopic pregnancy (implanted in the fallopian tubes) which could kill you and the only way to determine that is by seeing a doctor and having the ultrasound.

I don't know how old you are but assuming you're under 18, your parents need to know in order to help you. Not telling them, waiting until you're showing or something worse happens, is just flat-out crazy. Will they freak out? Maybe, maybe not. You could also go to a crisis pregnancy center and let one of the counselors help you through these difficult steps because that's their job and what they've been trained to do.

No matter what, don't think you can handle this by yourself and don't make important decisions about your life and the lives of others (like your unborn baby) because you're afraid. Fear makes us do the dumbest things. Swallow the fear -or get someone to help support you when you talk to them- and tell your parents.

Teenage pregnancies aren't hopeless situations. I know of several, two of the couples even got married, lived with one set of parents and finished high school and the other couple finished college. I know of another who had no interest in marrying the father but her parents helped her through her pregnancy, she was able to get through high school AND college and went on to marry someone really super while she was working on her master's degree. And her son, having grandparents right there to love and support him and his mom every day, was the joy of the home. Yes, all sets of parents were devastated at first but they were all able to pull it together to do what was right for their child and their grandchild.

Tell someone. And don't make important decisions about your life out of fear. Lots of prayers. I may be a stranger but I'm pulling for you. Do the right thing.

Answer 6

Please don't listen to all these people who are telling you to grow up or to just abort. They shouldn't even be on sights like this. I don't know how old you are but you sound pretty young. I have been in a similar situation-i was 17 when i got pregnant and abortion was not an option, and my boyfriend whom i eventually married-and divorced- was an ***, who hit me. I was afraid to tell my parents too, my son is 5 now and he is the light of my life, i don't know how i would live without him. So don't do anything stupid, just talk to your parents and they will probably be mad as hell at first. But give them a few days to cool off and hopefully things will be okay- trust me i've been there. If you need to talk I am here-even though i am a stranger i will listen. Best of luck to you sweetie.

Answer 7

If you're going to be a mother, you've got to start learning to deal with difficult problems. You have to tell your parents and you have to be prepared for their reaction. Do you have a plan other than just having a baby? Do you have money saved? Is the father going to be involved? How will you provide for you and your child? Don't assume that you parents are going to take care of the both of you. You are their child, but when you have a child then you are an adult. The choice you've made has made you and adult and that means that you have to make your own decisions, take care of yourself, and plan for the future. If you're not ready for that, then you should consider your options.

Answer 8

Well you should tell them . If your a teenager you may be able to get clinical care for yourself while you are pregnant,but it would be better if your parents knew, and you could be helped by doctors who care about you some what because you are covered by insurance. You would need your parents as a support system during this time,if your boyfriend of course, or the guy that knocked you up isn't being responsible for what he did,and helping you. Tell them,try to make them see it as not so much as a burden but a blessing with better things to come. Good luck & congrats on being a soon to be mom. It's not as bad as you think.

Answer 9

Well it depends on how old you are and stuff. If you`re going to need a lot of help from them, if the father`s still around or if you`re doing the single parent thing. Obviously if you`re a teen. Just a piece of advice, don`t wait too long to tell them if you are because once you start gaining weight, they might figure it out for themselves and I`m betting that won`t be pretty.

Answer 10

Tell them......Whatever your choice is....to have the baby, give it up for adoption, or an abortion...time is an issue. For the first two choices the baby needs you to be on a healthy diet and taking your prenatal vitamins. If it is the last choice then you have a time limit in which to do that.

It happened to my daughter too. She didn't tell me. I found out from someone else. It definitely hurt that she felt she couldn't come to me first. I let her know that I supported her in whatever decision she made. It is a decision that will affect you for the rest of your life. Take Care.