I was in family court couple of weeks go for visitation so my ex-boyfriend would get my 5month old daughter every other weekend now he told the judge that he's gonna go for full custody . Does the judge do that to me has a mother or would he just give my daughter to him and don't care about my feeling's or he has taken the father side plz tell me i'm so scared of him what he might do just because i won't go back to him
2006-08-05 14:46:24 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
anything is possible...so be prepared for the worst (get a good attorney). however, you would have to be proven an unfit mother for them to even consider this. so as long as your children are living in a safe happy healthy home...you should be okay. i will keep you in my prayers and wish you good luck. i hope evrything works out for you!
2006-08-08 14:06:20 · answer #1 · answered by sctmoran 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a judge can do anything he wants to, with in the law. I am confused on your question your so upset that your not making to much sense. Full custody is not likely for either a father or mother. The only way someone would get full custody is if they would pose a threat to their child or if the other parent just didn't care and didn't oppose the other parent on full custody. The likely result is shared custody which is common these days and should be the case because each parent can form a bond with the child.
2006-08-05 21:56:12 · answer #2 · answered by nm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way it has been explained to me, it is not very often a judge will grant full custody to a father unless there is solid proof that the mother is unfit. Most of the time, a mother will be given full custody. Of course, this is only what I have been told, I can't really say what your judge will do.
2006-08-05 21:52:07 · answer #3 · answered by hethbabe 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A judge can award custody to the parent he feels best capable of taking care of the child with the child's best interests at heart. That isn't always the case however. I could tell you my horror story, but I won't. Just hire a good lawyer and be prepared for a fight. It will cost a lot of money for both of you. It will be very emotional and difficult for all parties involved. There will be a lawyer provided for your daughter, and they will most likely send you to mediation in order to try to come to an agreement instead of court proceedings. Good Luck and try to remain positive. All you really have to do is prove that you are a good mother, and you are more capable of raising your daughter then he is.That you have her best interests at heart. That you don't want to cut him out of her life. Have good witness for yourself. Doctors, teachers, church friends...you get the idea.
2006-08-05 22:51:49 · answer #4 · answered by Mary J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if the father is working, doesnt have a criminal record, provides a stable home for you child, etc then yes the judge can grant him full costody. Also a judge doesnt care about your feelings, they care about the home of your child... which ever is a better enviroment for you baby to grow up in is the one he will pick. So to help you have full costody of your daughter with only every other weekend visitations for the father i would suggest your: working full time, not using drugs, don't have a criminal record, have wittnesses to why he should have your daughter full time, etc. just prove yourself. Good luck in court. Let me know how u make out at : daydreamin_ashley@yahoo.com
2006-08-05 21:51:55 · answer #5 · answered by ♥PrEcIoUs♥DaYdReAmEr♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The judge has to look at both sides and decide what is in the best interest of your daughter. If you're deemed a fit mother, they should n't give him full custody, It would be joint custody or he would get visitation rights.
2006-08-05 21:51:12 · answer #6 · answered by mightymight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of this depends on many factors. First, how/why did it end? I have a co-worker whose spouse cheated on him and he left. They have "joint" custody right now. However she has pushed him to the edge and he is seeking full custody. He taped all coversations with her and all the things she has said and done, example, it was his weekend and she did not drop him off on time or call to say this is going on. He spent 2-3 hours tracking her down and they had various conversations during oh, I will meet you here then conveniently "just missed us" finally he called a sheriff had her listen to the recordings and showed the decree. Just then she stopped and dropped off their son. This is just one incident. She has taken their son to the ER once a month for the past 6 months for imaginary illnesses. She is a bonified psycho. If you are having difficulty like this, and can prove it like my co-worker, you will have nothing to worry about. Just remember to keep yourself out of any trouble and you will be fine. Also, get your lawyer involved ASAP. The more they know, the better help they are to you.
2006-08-05 22:00:15 · answer #7 · answered by jay23_33 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a judge would never give full custody of a baby to the father, especially an ex boyfriend. Unless you are on drugs or abusive. I wouldn't worry, he's just trying to scare you.
2006-08-05 21:51:30 · answer #8 · answered by lotsakids3 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Usually the judges go for the mother of for half-half custody. Fathers will usually get full custody if the mother is unfit.
2006-08-05 21:51:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
its not about ur feelings or his, its about the well being of your precious child. the judge will see the more fit parent to care 4 the child. and being that ur baby is 5 mos. the judge will give you the primary custody at her young age unless you r unfit. been ther done that
2006-08-05 21:52:54 · answer #10 · answered by tmm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋