If a man is cheating on his wife and has done many times should you tell her? He says he doesnt love her but hes got a good thing going and doesnt want to loose all his money.
2006-08-05 14:38:57 · 22 answers · asked by sweetassugarpie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No I am not the other woman but I was married to a man for 15 years who cheated on me and I wish someone had told me. Yes I left him faster than one can imagine!
2006-08-05 14:49:28 · update #1
I would not say anything unless I could produce some evidence. Otherwise the wife may not believe you or think you were one of his other women and you are being spiteful.
Becareful with it. And don't write a letter.........that is very tacky
2006-08-12 15:07:00 · answer #1 · answered by ETxYellowRose 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know I am the type of woman that most women hate, but I was the mistress for about 6 months, years ago in my early twenties (It took me that long to wake up and realize that I was a whore and he was never going to leave her, and I am now completely ashamed that I did that). But anyways, someone did send his wife a letter, telling her about the affair and even who I was. She got it at her job. She confronted him and a couple that were their best friends, cause the letter said that this couple knew all about the affair. Problem was, the guy lied and said it wasn't true, and the other couple backed him up, cause they were also friends with me. So she believed them and not the letter. Sorry, but it doesn't always work to just send a letter. Photos or an exact location and time of where they meet, now that would be proof of the affair.
2006-08-13 20:57:22 · answer #2 · answered by LittleMermaid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a friend of a the woman, then tell her. If you are the woman he is cheating with, then you are a lot kinder than most to consider her. (Oh wait. This happed with my grandma and she was TRYING to break up the marrage!)
If the man is just in the relationship for the money and he doesn't love her, then try to find out how the wife feels. If she would die for him, then leave them be. If she feels the same as the man, but for the same/other reasons, then I guess you could. My best advise is to stay out of it though, because the wife may think you are trying to break them up.
I hope this helps!
Good Luck!
2006-08-13 04:35:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes things are left better unsaid, i am sure she feels something is wrong in the marriage, unless you are very close to this woman, it is best to leave it alone, in the past a friend of mine was accidentally having an affair with a married man and she found out, she beat the crap out of my friend and stayed with her husband, so in certain circumstances you do not know how the woman is going to react , nor do you know how the man who is cheating is going to react. things now a days you never know you could get killed. he is in the relationship for two reasons, their still is that emotional attachment he has with his wife, but he also has that new swing relationship with the other woman, obviously they need counseling, but unless you are 100 percent sure you know these people and how they will react, stay out of it. it is not worth it. i know you got hurt and you would want to know, but would you want to find out by a woman, or by the way you found out? we must think sometimes how we would feel if we were her, being cheated on. she would definately be vulnerable.. angry, or maybe they have an agreement. you didn't give all the details. we don't know all the details. sometimes it takes two to pull away in a marriage and we don't even know it. like i have been married for thirteen years.. i know......
2006-08-13 20:34:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of married peoples business. Whatever is done in the dark (or behind someones back) will come to the light...But let them find out in their own time...Some wives do not want to know, and some don't really care...it is better to be a friend to your friend. Somehow, you telling her won't lead to a good end for you or her..You had better give it some serious thought before you go and get yourself off into married peoples business
2006-08-05 22:12:49 · answer #5 · answered by munznyc2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had spent a couple of months with a married man. I couldn't stand it & called & told her I know he'll continue with someone else. My thoughts are how sorry I feel for her because she had never been with a man before him, she's very nieve, & she's not to pretty so she'll probably ignore it & allow it to continue. But I feel as other women I wish someone would have told me in my past relationships.
2006-08-13 20:49:20 · answer #6 · answered by kimmiesplace1960 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i would because we all are women and will not like to injustice done to us, we were put on this earth to be a man's companion and if or whenever he fed up of us or don't love us any more, is better he tell us than to act in this way.If i ever find myself in that situation i will want some to tell me the same, it will hurt especially if we really love the man, but we have to think of our self as someone special even though they don't see us that. way
2006-08-13 16:25:11 · answer #7 · answered by Deloris H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you play into this relationship?
If you are a friend of the wife, tell her, give her proof and not a letter, that is cowardly.
If you are the one he is cheating with, shame on you.
P.S. She may already know and have decided to live with it. She may have a fling on the side herself.
2006-08-05 21:44:36 · answer #8 · answered by Seeking 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you have been scorned, so have i and i am male, and a friend did tell me that my partner was cheating and even gave me number to phone her at, which i did, and low and behold the guy answered said he was dating her for a period of time and then put her on, i ended the relationship right there, lucky we had just started out
You need to provide proof not just words, cause if she divorces him she will require proof
2006-08-13 18:23:05 · answer #9 · answered by free2chat_tou 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
with things like this its best to keep out of it,,she may know already and the fact someone else does too could be very embarrasing for her,,women are not daft,,she may just be ignoring it,,the signs will be there,,we dont know what is going on behind closed doors,,if you were best friends then i would think differently as she would trust you not to hurt her with lies but if not,,leave it alone,,it happened to you yes,and you may think you would have wanted someone to tell you,,but would you have been prepared for the truth to come out just because someone else wanted it to.
2006-08-13 11:19:44 · answer #10 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋