If being GAY is natural and great why do your parents not approve?

Question

Some do , most don't . I think most gays are fooling themselfs by telling themselfs its OK.

Its sooo funny that gay people like "JR" insult straights by calling them gay .

Answer 1

My family approves 100 percent and is active in the gay community.
Sorry to hear your parents dont approve of you.



By the way all this is the same person who compares gays to pediphiles.

Answer 2

because they have been brainwashed by religion to believe it's a sin. duh.
The parents who have some common sense get past all the intolerance and realize their children have lives of their own. These lives may be different than expected, but as long as they are healthy and happy, the parents are happy.

goot6936- gay people are not weirdos who have to crawl into some hidden place to be accepted. And there are homosexual animals. Do you ever watch shows on nature?? What a dumba**!! Since you are so hurtful, you got reported for harassment.
smilingsam, being gay is NOT a birth defect, nor a mental illness. If you start with this info again, you will be reported for harassment.
cool6nigerian, being gay does NOT get weird after a while. You have no idea what you are talking about, so keep your mouth shut on this subject.
I am keeping an eye on you. Spewing hate and ignorance is not why we have this website. Have some respect or stay off. I'm watching you.

Answer 3

So let's take this analogy to another place... Say you're white and want to date a black person. You're male, she's female. Nothing could be more natural, right? I mean, it's a man and woman. But just different colors. But shock! Your parents disapprove! Why? It's natural and great, right?

This is the lamest question ever. Society determines what's acceptable or not, and many parents of gays are perfectly ok with it. But because for so long everyone was told that being gay was a choice, and was a wrong choice and you'd burn in hell for it, "naturally" some parents are disappointed when they have gay children.

You might as well take issue with parents who get mad at their children for not going to church, or wanting to become actors instead of getting a real job.

Answer 4

Personally for me my mother told me that whilst she doesnt hate or dissaprove of the fact that im gay, she simply feels that its a harder and lonlier life. She wants what is best for me and also i suspect that she wants and expected grandkids too (although she hasnt said this). She also realises its not a choice and wasnt something i decided to do because i felt "perverted". Most parents however view it as something dirty and morally wrong. Which is a shame and in my view more morally wrong than anything their gay kids have ever done. For a parent to turn their back on their own child because of a misguided, misinformed and outdated notion is unforgivable. Im lucky in the sense that coming from Scotland i havent suffered from the same homophobia that most young Americans will suffer. In Scotland you are mainly treated the same as you treat others. Im a normal guy in every sense of the word. And i would kick the f*ck out of anyone who put me down because of my sexuality. Because i am not a stereotype. And thats the way most people seem to view us. As the stereotypical screaming queen type. The day when the vast majority of people get over the fact that we are normal people with the same feelings, hopes and fears as them will be a wonderful day indeed. But sadly a day that still seems far off in my opinion.

Answer 5

How do you know most parent's don't agree with their kid being gay? Did you do a worldwide survey and get the results back? Seriously, where is your proof?
With that being said, do you honestly think we all (especially those of us that are grown and have our own lives) go through life doing only what our parent's approve of? Let me guess,
you've a golden child for your parents and have never done anything to disappoint them.
Furthermore, if a parent does turn their back on their child because she or he is gay, then they were never truly a very good parent in the first place. You don't have to agree with everything you child does, but you don't turn your back on them because you don't approve of a choice they made, especially when that choice is not illegal or harming anyone. I love my kids more then anything in the world, and there is noway I could ever shut them out of my life. They could become serial killers and I wouldn't turn away from them. I would feel they deserve to be in jail, and I would be upset that they chose that path in life, but I would still love them unconditionally. That is what we parent's should do!

Answer 6

The approval of your parents is not an appropriate measuring stick of what is considered natural. If your parents wanted you to become a doctor and you earned their disapproval by becoming a social worker, would that be unnatural? Republican parents with a child that is a Democrat may also not approve; this does not make being a Democrat unnatural. Of course, we are comparing things here that involve choices, which renders this argument moot since sexual orientation is not a choice.

Answer 7

Well if the parents are straight then why would they want their children to have to deal with discrimination if they didn't have to. But you see the reason is because they like all other straight people think that we choose this life when in reality our orientation is not a choice but an in bred part of our very being that God has put there. once that scientist do finally prove this then support will be there for us. Unfortunately as long as the misinformed religious nuts practicing their false doctrine are allowed to thwart science in this matter we will have to put up with societies distaste and displeasure in our orientation.

Answer 8

Well, it is usual to have a few clash approximately it, particularly along with your mothers and fathers being homophobic. Guilt is the weapon used to drive men and women into "applicable" habits. But .. in case you think you had been created, then whoever created you is the only in charge in your being homosexual. It is NOT a option. That's been demonstrated lovely conclusively. Also, Jesus certainly not mentioned one phrase in opposition to identical-intercourse relationships. He mentioned "love one yet another." Period. Not all church buildings are homophobic. Check out the Metropolitain Community Church, or Unity, or the Episcopalians. Not all Episcopal congregations are accepting of glbt, however the church stood in the back of the congregation that elected Bishop Gene Robinson, a homosexual guy who is residing together with his lifestyles accomplice. Take a appear at his "It Gets Better" video. It might aid. And dangle in there. It does get higher. You do not have got to die, simply permit time cross till you are ancient ample to make your possess choices.

Answer 9

Many parents fear for the safety of their gay offspring because of the many homophobic and hateful people out there. Look at the people from that church in Kansas that pickets the funerals of American service men, because they blame the war on gays.

If you were a parent, as much as you may love your gay child, you would be in denial too, at least for a while, because you want your child to be happy and safe.

Answer 10

it depends on the parents.
For some its the social stigma attached.
Then there is the "oh my god, its all my fault" idea.
Some its religion.

For me if my child told me they were gay, I wouldn't have a problem with them being gay, but I would be worried for their personal safety. Granted things have changed a lot in recent years but there are still bigots in the world.
Honestly, I think my life might be easier if they were gay! Never have to compete with a snotty daughter in law, (atleast with my son), Don't have to worry about some boy hurting my daughter. lol