I need help on this!!! Serious!!!?

Question

My girlfriend and i used to live together and things used to be perfect, Now things are not so great. We fight all the time. I asked her if she found someone else. She said no, and i no that she would never lie!!! Im not happy and she isn't either. We are on and off all the time. I really love her and know that she loves me. What should i do? We are both tired of fighting everyday and i dont want to lose her. Please help me. I dont know what i would do without her!!!

Answer 1

my dear unhappy, best course of action is coupling counceling help at this point. Would BOTH of you be willing to try it? The other alternative is a good week vacation to somewhere private with some alone time so you guys can "work it out" OR try this, you write down on a piece of paper by yourself every single issue you have in your relationship and don't lie!!!! -- she does the same - don't lie!!!!!!! Give it about three to five days; no yelling or screaming, you REALLY SIT AND TALK!!!!!!!!! NO YELLING AND SCREAMING JUST TALK!!!!!! If that does not work, both of you need to seperate and give it six months which means no ******* around because even with this, your relationship has survived two years and sometimes a little space is probably what is needed and if you get back together for whatever reason and you really love each other, it might work again! GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!

Answer 2

One thing I remembered about me and my husband when we started living together is that we fought non-stop. The very beginning was fine because our relationship was still kinda new and you are kind of testing things out, but as time passed, things became very serious and heated.

Well here we are one year later having had months of fighting morning, evening, night, whatever. If you really feel like you love this person and want to try to make it work.... do exactly that... make it work. That means try couples counseling, possibly sit down and designate a time once or twice a week to talk to each other about likes/dislikes or any concerns you may be having, and so forth.

I don't think that "time out" or separating from this situation is the best idea right at this particular moment. You are probably upset and so is she is feeling at a loss for what to do. Couples counseling does not mean something is wrong in your relationship - it is just another method to be able to find ways to communicate what things need to be worked on in your relationship. Key thing to remember - every good relationship requires hard work. There is nothing easy about any of it.

Best of luck to you!

Answer 3

I think you already know what has to happen now. Its for the best, and if it was ever meant to be itll return someday. You two are just short of killing each other. Life goes on without our mates everyday and you will too. It wont be easy but what you two are doing to each other is far worse. Life is way too short to be this unhappy and nothing good is going to come out of this by staying together. Split but remain as friends and dont push her back into anything too quickly or youll be right back here. Tahts probably what killed your relationship in the first place was moving too fast, so slow down and enjoy life. Life isnt always beautiful but its a beautiful journey. Good luck

Answer 4

Well if you still live together then maybe one of you should move out. It might just be tension b/c of something to do with living together. I know that sounds strange but it's true. Still be together just live separately. It may do a world of good. Also you could do as someone else said and try couples counseling. Maybe you two could sit down together and try to talk things out. No distractions..no TV, no phones, nothing. It may be something simple that has just been eating at the both of you. Good Luck.

Answer 5

Well, you could stop fighting, couldn't you? What the hell are you fighting about? Ask yourself ...is all this really worth fighting about ? I am sure you will come up with a great big NO. So why are you fighting? Why don't both of you just shut your mouths and get back to where you want to be...is this becoming a matter of principle? You will both find principles very cold at night. It sounds to me as if you both need a break..so take one. Find out if you both love eachother or not. That would be step one.

Answer 6

Both of you take some time off without each other. Give it a break and do some serious thinking about what you want out of life.

Answer 7

If you spend a lot of time together, doing nothing, then I say spend some time apart(even for a day). BOREDOM is the culprit. It is easier to argue than to be bored out of your skull. It's something to do to pass the time,and it can easily become a bad habit that you do without even realising it. Good luck.

Answer 8

Well you could do one of two things.

You could start off with try going to counseling together and separately.

If that don't work you can try separating for a short time and see how that works out.

If all else fails.....sorry...that is all I can think of, there is something that is going on and you do need to find the answer before it is to late.

Answer 9

Comprimise. What are the fights about. Sit down and have a real conversation about what the issues are, what the fights about, and what each of you can do to fix the situation. If you are truely meant for each other you will find a way to make it work.

Answer 10

What is keeping you together?
You most likely fight over the same things every day or every week.

May be you guys don't love each other anymore. It's just the habit.. the routine of being together or the fear of being alone.

Couple conselling would be your bet.