I love him very much and it really hurts. Ive been dating him for a long time and know him very well..kind of like a ross and rachel relationship (any friends fans?) He told me he still cares about me very much but i cant help but cry...i cry constantly. i cried in the middle of the store today and everyone thought i was crazy. i know everyone says time cures all but... i dont want to wait anymore. How can i get over him since there isnt really a possibility of us getting back together?
2006-08-05 14:04:48 · 16 answers · asked by kelly09620 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I suggest you cry your eyes out. Tears are very therapeutic, then when you can't cry anymore, pick yourself up and get out and party and enjoy life-it's way too short to pine over a lost love. It hurts now, but you'll feel better soon. Somewhere out there-is your true love, who will love you unconditionally, perhaps this love was not meant to be-let it go.
2006-08-05 14:13:19 · answer #1 · answered by MAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break ups are an unfortunate part of life, it happens and it is very heartbreaking. ONLY YOU can make yourself feel better. People can give you suggestions until they are blue in the face and they will not do you any good unless you allow them to.
You do have to be patient as difficult as it may be. You two have been together for a long time and you are going to have some painful memories, but you just have to get on with your life. Crying about it and dwelling on it is just going to make it worse.
You need to get out there and start making new friends, force yourself to do it. Keep yourself busy when you can. Read good books, stay away from anything that is going to trigger memories.
Think about this, you were together for a long time and then all of a sudden it gets broken off, it doesn't sound like a very secure relationship to start with even though you may feel that it was.
It takes patience and it takes hard work
Hang in there. You will find someone else and I guarantee you , it will be someone better than the first guy!
2006-08-05 14:12:56 · answer #2 · answered by HappyCat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Us older persons in life have "been there/done that". I will tell you from personal experience........don't even think about getting back together. Spend the weekend with the big cry, feeling sorry for yourself and all that. Then, on Monday make up your mind to start a new life. Whatever you do.....have absolutley no contact, don't drive by is house, have others spy on him and report to you......nothing. As long as you keep him fresh in your mind then you will have a more difficult time moving on. Read some Self Help books, plan a new activity with friends and start making changes in your life. Don't run out and try to find a replacement.....get yourself together before you start dating again. Make a commitment to yourself and give it time. You have the power to make it happen.
2006-08-05 14:13:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, I am in the same situation except that he broke up with me 4 months ago. I know that it's very hard and it's even harder to deal with time. We just want to stop feeling the pain. The only thing that I can advice you on is that you have to find something to keep you busy and intertained because everything will make you cry and remember him, but just be patient. If you want to vent and talk about it with someone that is in the same shoes, you can contact me and we can talk. I am a good listener and I can totally relate to what you are going through right now.
2006-08-05 14:10:19 · answer #4 · answered by Lessons_in_life10 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
same exact situation, except im kinda a veteran now since ive been dealing with it for about a month. its gonna hurrt, and youre gonan cry a lot, and dont be afraid to be a btich and shut the world off and spend your days doing nothing. its what we girls do.
only time will tell. i know it hurts to hear that. you dont want to wait and see. you wish you could just know your future now.
dont let anyone tell you, get over is already.
im sorry you have to feel like this. going through it myself, i wouldnt wish it on anyone.
try to be strong. write in a diary if it helps, or hang out with your best friends.
good luck baby.
2006-08-05 14:17:50 · answer #5 · answered by mervelash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, there is no magic cure for getting over a broken heart. Time heals all. Keep yourself busy and only allow yourself a few minutes each day to reflect back, and after that force yourself to focus and become involved in other things.
2006-08-05 14:08:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you have to believe that your heart will heal. It will heal, it will definetly heal. Don't have to worry, i know exactly how it feel but the most important things is to think of the bright side. He broke up with you, but he still cares, still cares, that means he still loves you. Pretend how you will feel if he doesn't care anymore, but the truth is he still cares. Be confident that you will be back with him or find another great guy.
2006-08-05 14:10:28 · answer #7 · answered by DBSK LOVER! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if ur really like racheal and ross then of course youll get back together...but if you dont just try doing other things like spoerts or acvitvies or hanging out with ur friends///i mean you never no if he ssaid he still had a thing for you thennnnn mayb
right?
2006-08-05 14:11:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
spend a couple of days, sulking, just listening to sad sappy music, take a bath, eat some comfort food. then once those days are over, GET the hell OVER IT, go to the gym, look super hot and make him totally jealous but never ever go back to him.
2006-08-05 14:10:35 · answer #9 · answered by erica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is so sad, but you have to be strong and avoid thinking of him...go out, hand out with your friends, forget him....get yourself another boyfriend and try to forget about him....time will take care of the rest....
2006-08-05 14:09:00 · answer #10 · answered by Ramiro S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋