ok, so my boyfriend of 2 years broke up w/ me about 3 months ago & I am still upset about it. Some days I hate him & other days I miss him & want him back. When he broke up w/ me he said @ first it was because I was possessive and then he told me he just wanted to be single for awhile. Well two weeks later he starts dating a girl who is 15 (he is 17) & she lives 3 hours away. And they only had met once before they started dating. I don't know what to do anymore. Ive been depressed for awhile & it feels like I will never get over it. Then school is going to start in like 2 weeks and Im really scared to see him because I haven't seen him all summer and I loved it but Im afraid when I see him @ school Im going to get upset and the progress I had made will be gone. Do you think that his relationship is just a rebound? And he will ever call me again to apologize? I just want some answers but I dont want to talk to him until they break up. What should I do?
2006-08-05 13:49:50 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I can understand your pain. However its time to go on with your life. You have to consider this as HIS loss. It will be hard to see him again and yes he may try to re-kindle the relationship and maybe not. You must listen to your heart if he decides to re-vamp the relationship up again. If I were you.. I think I would find me someone else to take up this empty space in my life. I know its called rebound, however dont look at it that way. Look at it like .. getting on with your life attitude. Dont be so pent up in your saddness that you miss opportunities to meet someone else. The best thing to do is get out with some friends, meet new people broaden your horizons. Take up a membership to a gym or take night classes on something that you have always wanted to do. Before long.. time heals all wounds and he will only be a distant memory and you will have someone else in your sights. Good luck to you and keep your head up. Give yourself some time to get over the pain.. then go on with your life.
2006-08-05 14:22:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If he started dating a girl that fast after he broke up with you, then he was emotionally unattached long before the break up. He's over you, its time you get past him.
Ignore and Avoid avoid avoid him for a long time. Start looking at things that make you happy. Find some girlfriends!! And do things with them. Boys should still be secondary at this point in your life. Great to have, but you can live without them too.
Find some girlfriends and have some fun with them. Friends first, relationships second.
2006-08-05 21:01:20 · answer #2 · answered by myshira 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but you need to move on and forget about your boyfriend as painful as it may sound. He moved on with his life and you should do the same thing.I do not know how old you are,I would concentrate getting through your school years instead of worrying about your ex boyfriend.
I am sure there are other boys you can date once the school year starts.
For now,Start hanging with your girlfriends or concentrate in participating in a extra curricular activity in school or yet get a part time job.If you are involved with activities you will forget about him completly
Besides, you are still young yet..You have a lifetime to date other guys before you start settling down
2006-08-05 20:55:37 · answer #3 · answered by wsm0628 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was 16, my boyfriend, who was my first love, broke up with me. I still remember how desperate I felt and how I thought I would never be happy again. About a year and a half after we broke up -- after he'd been engaged to another and a LOT of water had passed under the bridge -- he contacted me and asked me to come back and marry him. In just that amount of time, I had moved on. I told him it was too little, too late and I am grateful today (years later) that he and I never did marry. It would have been bad. I know that now, but you couldn't have made me believe it then. Life goes on and some of our greatest disappointments turn out to be some of our greatest blessings. Good luck to you.
2006-08-05 20:59:58 · answer #4 · answered by Sels 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he still has feelings for you and has hope for you guys he will come back. He probably wont want to get back with you unless he truly believes you will change your behavior that was causing the problems before. I don't think it would hurt to call and talk to him and tell him how you feel and find out how he feels. If you just want to get over him you need to go out with friends more often or start dating other guys. Good Luck!
2006-08-05 21:00:33 · answer #5 · answered by TAWNIE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man we are in the same situation. I wish i could tell you that he was going to call and everything will be alright again but i doubt that he will. Maybe give him a call. Dont pour your heart out though. Just keep it casual. I can tell you were in love with him and if he still in love with you then he will come back.
2006-08-05 21:02:44 · answer #6 · answered by its me! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel...sometimes guys say something and they don't really mean it...guys are like that, they say what they mean, they just don't mean what they say...he says he wants to break up to be single...he meant that...but, he didn't mean that he wanted to remain single...he meant he wanted to be single so he could tell this other girl that he was single...and hopefully date her
you need to stop wishing he will call to apologize...he is not going to...he is not sorry, he broke up with you the only way he knew how...be glad that he broke up with you BEFORE he started going out with her
move on, girl, and don't look back
2006-08-05 20:58:50 · answer #7 · answered by uranus2mars 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to get closure. Something like that happened to me before and it really ate me up. You spend moments pondering what has happened and you try to make sence out of it. Just try to be strong. Good luck.
Have a nice day :-)
2006-08-05 21:20:48 · answer #8 · answered by drewfranklin4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i were u i would find someone new and then wen u get back to skool he wil see u laughing and all happy with another guy adn he will be jelous and he will wanna get back with u then u will back with ppl
good luck i hope my advise is the best for u and me !
2006-08-05 20:55:00 · answer #9 · answered by jordan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to start datin again that will help you get over him it dont seem like he is tryin to get back with you so move on
2006-08-05 20:53:54 · answer #10 · answered by sexy_enchanted2320032005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋