I lived with her for 3 years fixed all of her credit problems and got her life back together from a previous relationship she broke up with 3 months ago now shes in another and he does nothing to help her. for instant letting her account be over drawn when they live together
2006-08-05 13:41:53 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You should always help your friends out. Even if she is your ex. Someone helped you out once upon a time so you can return the favor. Dont do it if you cant do it comfortably though. If its going to make you broke then she might need to find another source.
2006-08-05 13:52:46 · answer #1 · answered by its me! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no. that would not be doing her a favour in the long run, (unless you are desperately trying to win her back...) Sounds like the boy she is with isn't that great, and she needs to wake up to that. She also needs to be a little more independant and take care of her own financial problems...there's not always gonna be a friendly ex. there to take care of her. She needs to face some realities, grow up, and maybe you could help her do that.... that would benefit her more than giving her money to tide her over till the next crisis.
2006-08-05 20:51:36 · answer #2 · answered by peakfreak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart you have done all that you have supposed to do when you where in a relationship with her. It is time to let her go. When she made that decision to leave you and be with someone else she no longer wanted you are your money. I know that you may still have feelings for her. But if you do not cut her off she will always find a reason to get some money out of you. Let the guy she choose to be with do for her it is not your job to take care of her.
2006-08-05 20:48:28 · answer #3 · answered by princess4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to be nice, if she's asking for help, and if it makes you feel better, you can help her out, but put a limit on it. You can give her financial advice, encouragement, and pep talks, but she broke up with you. Don't give her any money.
However, you sound like a great boyfriend, and she sounds like a lost cause. You should move on and help someone who would treat you better.
2006-08-05 20:50:14 · answer #4 · answered by Muralasa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOP u did the right thing helping her 1rst time but if she got herself that problem again , maybe is not him is her ? Or are u gonna keep helping her 4 ever ? She's making her life with another man so let them resolve their problems
2006-08-05 20:50:14 · answer #5 · answered by wenckiepr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ifs its not going to cost you any money or get you in trouble with Ur girlfriend, then yes, But tell her if you help her, she needs to dump the bum shes with...( not that you want her back)
just say, that ur ONLY!!! going to help her, ONLY!!!!....Not both....if she says No then move on......
helping others is still a good thing in this world, if more ppl did it then maybe just maybe the would would be a little better.......
2006-08-05 20:53:46 · answer #6 · answered by truthfinder1960 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is clearly not your problem. Old saying.."she's made her bed and she must zzzz in it" You are not helping this co-dependant female at all by bailing her out when she gets in to financial trouble. Let her get out of the financial mess herself. You'll keep your $$$$ in your own pocket to spend on something or someone that is worthwhile and deserving!
2006-08-05 20:46:03 · answer #7 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely not. Focus on things you can fix that will stay fixed; you gave her a shot, and she didn't learn from it. Move on, find a more worthwhile project to focus on.
2006-08-05 20:49:24 · answer #8 · answered by mpetach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No....don't put yourself in the position....you bail her out again and she will just come to you later.
Save that money that you thought about spending on her for the next real girl in your life.
2006-08-05 20:46:14 · answer #9 · answered by SouthernKNC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's up tp you. She must not have learned anything from all the help you gave her. You would be most kind to do it again, but I don't know if she would appreciate it or not.
2006-08-05 20:51:24 · answer #10 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋