ON a dare I went on "devils plunge" the other night. For those of you outside the gay community in New york. That is a night when gay men go out and have as much unproteced sex with other men as possible. The winner gets to sleep with any other gay member of the community he wishes.
Anyway.. I slept with 14 guys unprocted on that night. And then I went home to my lifepartner ( who thinks I am mongomus) and had unproteced sex with him also.
My question is should i tell him to get checked out? I love him with all heart but I think he will break up with me if I tell him.
2006-08-05 13:01:14 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
YOU are a DISGUSTING freak. And you wonder why do many people have a problem with the Gay population....LOSER.
2006-08-05 13:05:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
14 guys in one night. If you really love your partner get yourself checked before you touch him again. Yes you have an obligation to tell him. If you were unlucky enough to get Aids and give it to him you are actually looking at a murder rap. You're in New York. Intentionally infecting another with a potentionally life threatening disease and not telling that person is no different then intentionally poisoning them. Laws have changed. Aside from that I don't care if a person is Straight, Bi, or Gay or Green. No one who loves another would do what you did on a dare with (not 1 but, 14) Your partner deserves better.
2006-08-05 13:21:09 · answer #2 · answered by richard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are about as evil a person as I have ever heard of! You deserve to be put in jail and NEVER let out. You have taken the person you say "YOU LOVE" and endangered their life. IF that is how YOU love, please, I would love to know what you do to your enemies. That you love him with "all your heart" says a lot about your heart...I am surprised you can get up in the morning for lack of circulation...you do not have much of a heart.
The good news is ... the chances of his being infected are miniscule. The chances of your being infected are 14 in 50...not very good odds. IF YOU HAVE any decency left in your soul, (I doubt it), you will tell him NOW! YOu will not have unprotected sex with him for 14=16 weeks after testing negative at least 3 times. But, in all honesty, I am the most forgiving person in the world, have been stepped out on countless times...YOU, I would throw in the trash, for that is exactly where you belong...trash goes in a trash dump. You are a murderer waiting to happen. Gays like you belong in jail. Sorry to be so blunt, but I am telling it how it is. Monogomous indeed!
2006-08-05 13:12:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you do such a thing to yourself and then go and do it to someone that you say you love. Man, that is just wrong on so many levels. OK, now that I have gotten that out of my system, I had a boss that was gay and he did the same thing, but, he did not have a partner. For the next few months he was worried sick, wondering if he had anything transmitted. Thankfully he did not. Tell your partner and make a promise to yourself and him that it will only be you and him. If he excepts your apology.
2006-08-05 13:10:30 · answer #4 · answered by morris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so not taking this question seriously. I think you are someone, who on a dare, decided to come in here and tell some bs story. You're probably a child. It's UNPROTECTED, not unproteced, or unprocted.
Nobody take him seriously, he's trying to joke the gay community and make us look bad. Report him, please.
2006-08-05 13:20:35 · answer #5 · answered by Agent Double EL 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I'm not going to tell you how wrong you are. However; you need to tell him and have him get checked out. If you're lucky to retain him as a lover; you should always have safe sex for life. Just because you have a life partner and have been checked out as being clean; isn't an excuse to play unsafe. You owe it to him to be open and honest. If he chooses to leave, remember you did this, not him. I truly wish that you haven't contracted something and that both of you guys are clean. Good luck!
2006-08-05 14:52:40 · answer #6 · answered by Swordfish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, the situation you refer to sounds kind of silly. You compete with other men by sleeping with as many men as you possibly can to claim the right to sleep with any man you choose?! Where is it written that the man you choose, of all gay men, must submit to this? Because you won a stupid, incredibly dangerous competition?
Anyway, if you loved your with all of your heart then you wouldn't have done that! You've lied to him by leading him to believe you were in a monogamous relationship, cheated on him multiple times, and you've possibly exposed him to any number of STDs (you could have been infected with more than one). You've demonstrated exceptionally selfish behavior that can only lead one to conclude that you couldn't possiby love someone else because you're too busy fulfilling your own desires. You need to tell him so he can get checked out. Take your lumps, you deserve them. Don't be surprised if you end up alone, though. You definitely don't deserve him!
2006-08-05 13:38:48 · answer #7 · answered by Speedo Inspector 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait 3 months and then get yourself checked out ... if you are negative, you got away with it , you lucky bastard and don't you EVER f*cking do that again
if you are positive, you have to tell him what you did ... morally, you have no other choice
in the meantime you have to refrain from unprotected sex with him ... i have no idea what excuse you are going to use for why you need to do this
if you can put his life in danger like that, you don't really love him
btw, i think the sex you had with him was still safe because even if you did contract the HIV virus, it didn't have time to multiply yet in your body so you were still relatively virus free ... in other words, even if you caught it, it was too soon to be able to pass it on ... so don't think the damage has already been done
2006-08-05 21:45:50 · answer #8 · answered by ftm_poolshark 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm...anyone else heard of this? Is this a serious question?
If it is, there shouldn't even be a question. You are morally bound, no matter what the consequences, to tell him to get checked out. I know I'd be a HELLUVALOT more pissed to end up finding out I had something (and probably at a later time when earlier treatment would have helped more) than to just find out you were promiscuous. If you love him, you'll want him to be safe, regardless of the emotional consequences to yourself.
2006-08-05 13:14:13 · answer #9 · answered by Atropis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want me to be honest, my personal opinion is that he -ought- to break up with you.
No, you shouldn't tell him to get checked out. -You- should get checked out.
And you most certainly do not love him with all your heart—one of the required elements of love is honesty, and if he's not aware that you've slept with fourteen other guys, then that's certainly dishonest.
Even if you hadn't been in a relationship, what you did was at least stupid. Unprotected sex outside of monogamous relationships is pure -idiocy-. You are no doubt aware of STDs. Do you not think they are real?
2006-08-05 13:45:32 · answer #10 · answered by hynkle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not even gay, are you? This is just another lame attempt by some ultra-right wing Christian group to cast gays as lecherous whores who will screw anything that walks. The point of this question is to disgust everyone who reads it, not to find out if he should tell his boyfriend anything. They want you to think gays are immoral, hedonistic rampant buggering queens who will take away your children in the night and make them all gay, too.
2006-08-09 10:31:02 · answer #11 · answered by sacredvanity 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋