Okay, I am 20 and confused. I am able to notice a guy I think is hot or a guy with a good body, and also find myself starring at catalogs or pictures of muscular abercrombie-like guys and get an erection, and even jack off to this some times. Im not sure wheather its because I aspire to be more like that, and want to be like the guys in the catalogs, OR I just want to make out!
But I also am attracted to girls, and I find I' more picky with them appreance-wise. There are some girls in my class I like, and have jacked off fantasizing about them too. I am confused about my preferences, and have never done it with a guy, but I am curious with how it would be like. I guess its more like this: I fantasize about hot guys, but I am not attracted to the idea of having a relationship or being partners...I find myself wanting to marry a woman and such.
2006-08-05 12:17:22 · 31 answers · asked by Mikey 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Ok,number one,fantasies are just that,fantasies,they don't necessarily mean you ever want to,or are going to act on them. Secondly,to me,it would seem that since both sexes arouse you,then ,perhaps you might be bisexual. But,at your age,it is confusing,so,don't rush yourself. I didn't act on me being bi until 34,it's not like it's a now or never proposition. You can found out as life goes,don't have a deadline or anything,lol. Enjoy your life,and don't worry about it,think about it this way,you're getting twice the pleasure,lol,good luck
2006-08-05 12:26:14 · answer #1 · answered by dragonfly 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Hey Mikey - I've been saying it for a few years....ITS ALL ABOUT THE PERSON. Certainly you must be able to understand that everyone on the planet is able to tell if someone is hot or not.
Also...you likely won't be attracted to every guy or every girl on earth and being picky about your partner is quite common whether you are gay, straight or bisexual.
It sounds like if you can't see yourself having a relationship or being partners with a guy....and you find yourself wanting to marry a woman and such....that you ought to do that.
If you have the urge to experiment with guys and do so in a safe and protected way....there's nothing saying that if you don't wish to pursue a relationship with a man....that you can't be with a woman and vice versa.
I hope this has been some help. This is just my two shillings worth on your question, take it for what its worth....and make your own decision.
2006-08-06 20:53:03 · answer #2 · answered by Chad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This same thing happened to me when I was growing up I have found that it is called bi liking both sexes nothing wrong with that as long as you get tested and don't spread any diseases to your female partner if she does not know you are in that type lifestyle and it could be you are just enjoying the bodies these men have and that is what you may want to look like if you are a little overweight or if for some reason you don't find yourself attractive I would not worry about it
2006-08-05 19:37:33 · answer #3 · answered by van owner 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Possibly you imagine marriage and not being in a relationship with a guy because of the morals and/or values you were raised with.
I spent many years being with women as i couldnt accept that a relationship with a man was ok or do-able.
Now though when i am with my male partner I just know it is right. I still check out the chicks and find them sexy- but being with a guy feels right.
Maybe you need to just go there and see?
No one will hold it against you. Be true to yourself.
2006-08-07 08:18:05 · answer #4 · answered by K J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mickey....there are as many sexual orientations as there are people: and at 20, confusion is not uncommon. Remember that being able to recognize a beautiful body does not necessaraly determine your sexuality. As to wether you are gay or not: you might be, might not or maybve bisexual. The experiences you will engage in in the future will let you know...but you probably will not get rid of the confusion; such is the plight of being a human being.
2006-08-05 19:27:10 · answer #5 · answered by kittshaleen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to aspire to be like those guys, but I notice women who I find very attractive and I want to aspire to be them, but I don't find myself having sexual fantasizes about them either. You may just be bi. And there is nothing wrong with that (well at least to me anyway)
2006-08-05 21:01:00 · answer #6 · answered by hpotter4ever2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you want to have a body like the pictures you are seeing. if you think you would be happy with a body like that then start working out. it will take a long time to do it but in the end you could look all buff too.
2006-08-05 19:25:47 · answer #7 · answered by george 2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Bi. Your are sexually attracted to men, but you have more emotions for females.
Well that is just my education guess. But from everything there, that seems about right. But i think you would know if you were sexually attracted to men. I mean, thats what makes a person gay, isnt it?
2006-08-05 19:23:38 · answer #8 · answered by King 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're not alone.
take it easy, and explore your feelings intelligently, and get rid of irrational beliefs and taboos.
you will still be you.
besides, what's so bad about admiring muscular guys who have something to show for some hard work? many of them enjoy intimacy with other guys in just the ways you described. you might be looking for them. they might be looking for you.
2006-08-05 22:53:28 · answer #9 · answered by My Big Bear Ron 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its all about what turns you on at the moment and not about real life so don't worry about it too much you will know when you are in a real situation and will either run or jump.
2006-08-05 19:25:04 · answer #10 · answered by witterwax 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋